Covert narcissism sends you spinning into cognitive dissonance circles! But your brain and your gut were never supposed to be enemies. They're both trying to protect you—just in different ways. Healing begins when they stop arguing and start working together, guiding you out of the confusion and back into clarity.

Key Takeaways:

• Covert abuse hijacks your logic and intuition.

• Your gut has always known the truth—you just needed your brain to stop making excuses.

• Healing starts when you trust yourself enough to stop gaslighting your own feelings.

If you've ever felt torn between what your brain tells you and what your gut knows deep down, this episode is for you.

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In this part two conversation, Renee Swanson and Jerry Wise delve into the complexities of covert narcissism, exploring the impact of guilt in relationships with narcissistic individuals. They discuss the importance of self-focus and reframing one's internal environment to foster healing and personal growth. The dialogue emphasizes that it is never too late to reclaim oneself and that closure comes from within, not from external validation.

Takeaways

Guilt often stems from family dynamics, especially with narcissistic parents.
It's crucial to distinguish between true guilt and family guilt.
Reclaiming oneself is possible at any age.
The closure we seek comes from within, not from others.
Self-focus is essential for healing from narcissistic relationships.
Understanding the systems dynamics can help in recognizing unhealthy patterns.
It's important to accept where you are in your healing journey.
You don't need the approval of dysfunctional family members to change.
Reframing our thoughts can create a healthier internal environment.
Humor can be a coping mechanism for dealing with narcissistic abuse.

In this part one of two conversation, Renee Swanson and Jerry Wise delve into the complexities of narcissism and the concept of self-differentiation. Jerry shares his extensive experience in family systems therapy and explains how self-differentiation allows individuals to grow into their true selves without absorbing the toxicity of others. They discuss the loss of self often experienced by those raised in narcissistic families, the internal messages that keep individuals stuck, and the distinctions between healthy and unhealthy guilt and shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth and healing in overcoming the effects of narcissism.

Takeaways

• Self-differentiation is crucial for personal growth.
• Narcissistic families often hinder the development of a true self.
• Healing involves getting rid of family programming. Shame and guilt can be healthy or unhealthy.
• It's important to separate true feelings from system feelings.
• You can maintain relationships with narcissistic individuals by understanding your own identity.
• Self-love is essential for healing.
• Many feelings of unworthiness stem from family dysfunction.
• Understanding the difference between guilt types is vital for emotional health.
• You are not responsible for the programming you received from your family.