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Sometimes, it feels like everything has to get done perfectly, all at once. Often, we carry the heavy belief that if everything isn’t done just right, we won’t be loved or accepted. This pressure can drain us, pushing us to say yes when we want to say no, and to ignore our own needs to keep others happy. But this cycle only leads to exhaustion and emptiness.

True healing begins when you give yourself permission to slow down and accept that it’s okay not to have everything figured out. It’s about setting boundaries and choosing what truly matters, then letting go of the rest without guilt or shame.

When you start treating yourself with kindness and patience, you build a new relationship with yourself, one rooted in self-love and grace.

Remember, healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up for yourself with compassion, even on imperfect days. You deserve to feel loved and accepted, not because of what you do, but because of who you are. And when you truly believe that, your whole life begins to change.

In this episode, I reflect on how my mother wound shaped my need to control everything and take on too much. Sharing insights from a recent girls trip, I talk about learning to accept my limits, set boundaries, and stop making everything a priority. Tune in to learn how embracing your limitations can create space for true healing, self-love, and healthier relationships with yourself and others.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:00:10) Welcome to the Black Mother Wound podcast

(00:03:54) Feeling loved and expanding capacity for love

(00:05:02) Mother wounds shape loneliness and relationships

(00:07:46) Making emotional deposits into yourself

(00:10:21) Healing changes self-worth and presence

(00:13:00) Healing attracts healthier relationships

(00:14:05) Accept your limits

(00:16:26) Burnout from unrealistic priorities

(00:21:13) It’s okay to shift priorities and say no

(00:22:07) Reevaluate your timelines

(00:24:20) Set boundaries and say no

(00:26:03) Release resentment and regret

(00:27:12) Prioritize with self-compassion, not fear

(00:28:31) Everything can’t be a priority

Key Takeaways:

"People who try to do everything and make everything a priority generally have poor boundaries."

"If you press yourself so hard, you create stress and resentment that feels normal."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and

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Healing from a mother wound really starts with taking care of yourself first. Think about your relationship with yourself like a bank account, you’ve got to make more deposits than withdrawals. Every little thing counts: setting boundaries, saying no when you need to, or just resting when you’re tired.

Setting boundaries isn’t about being mean. It’s about protecting your energy. And it’s totally okay if some people get upset or if some relationships change. Your well-being has to come first.

Please stop abandoning yourself for others. Check in with what you really need, even if it’s something small. When you appreciate yourself and show some patience, you’re teaching your heart that it’s okay to be kind to you.

And remember, safety isn’t something you wait for from outside, it comes from within. Keep reminding yourself you’re okay, even when things feel uncertain. Life doesn’t have to happen on your schedule, and that’s perfectly fine.

Take care of you. You deserve it.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on where I really am in my healing journey and how much intention it takes to choose yourself every single day. We get into what it looks like to stop pouring into people who don’t pour back, how boundaries protect your peace, and why standing ten toes down for yourself is the real glow up. I also talk about the quiet wins, the confidence, the clarity, and the freedom that start showing up when you do the work. Tune in and let’s talk about choosing you first, trusting your voice, and making emotional deposits that actually pay off.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:00:21) Welcome to the Black Mother Wound podcast

(00:03:06) Make daily deposits into your own life first

(00:07:22) Boundaries are a form of self-investment

(00:08:08) Stop self-abandoning

(00:11:09) Be patient with your process

(00:12:19) Speak up

(00:16:04) Communicate with clarity and strength

(00:17:14) Assuring yourself that you are safe

(00:18:25) Accept your limitations without guilt

(00:21:00) Care less about being liked

(00:24:42) Embrace what makes you unique

(00:26:15) You don’t owe anyone anything

(00:27:21) Be more playful, relaxed, and free

(00:28:32) Make decisions without second-guessing

(00:32:15) Invest fully in your own healing

(00:33:50) Don’t delay your dividends

Key Takeaways:

"I am not taking any advice from people who don't have what I want in life."

"Accepting my limitations is a part of my healing."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services

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Feeling scared doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong, it usually means you’re doing something new. And if you’re healing from a mother wound, that fear can feel even louder because you didn’t grow up feeling safe. But you don’t have to wait until you’re not afraid. You just need to know that you’ve got your own back.

That kind of safety doesn’t come from waiting for the perfect moment. It comes from showing up for yourself, little by little. It looks like being patient when fear creeps in, instead of beating yourself up.

When you keep promises to yourself, doing the thing you said you would, or just resting when your body says it’s tired, you’re rebuilding trust. You’re teaching that younger version of you that she’s no longer alone. That someone finally sees her and protects her.

Every time you show up even with shaky hands and a nervous heart, you’re proving to yourself that fear doesn’t get to call the shots anymore. You do.

So no, you don’t need to be fearless. You just need to be kind to yourself as you keep going.

In this episode, I’m getting real about where I’m at in my healing and how hard it can be to even see the woman I’m supposed to be. We talk about how fear and all those sneaky limiting beliefs keep us stuck in the same old loops, why having a safe, loving relationship with yourself is everything, and how ambition can actually be a part of your healing. Pull up, listen in, and let’s have an honest conversation about showing up for yourself, facing your fears, and stepping into your full power.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:00:09) Welcome to the Black Mother Wound podcast

(00:03:50) You can’t shortcut your way through healing

(00:05:08) See who you’re becoming

(00:07:18) Build safety by trusting yourself

(00:08:25) Keep showing up, even when scared

(00:13:50) Confidence comes from consistent action

(00:17:32) Dreams reconnect you to yourself

(00:19:13) Ambition will expose your fears

(00:20:52) People will rise to meet your growth

(00:23:25) You can do it scared

(00:25:29) Let your gifts be seen

(00:26:00) Be your own biggest cheerleader

(00:28:00) Take care of you

Key Takeaways:

"You cannot shortcut the lesson. You cannot fake learning the lesson, you cannot cheat the lesson, you're gonna have to get the lesson."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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