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The Black Mother Wound Podcast

The Black Mother Wound Podcast

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Welcome to The Black Mother Wound, a podcast where we dig deep into the unique challenges faced by Black women in their relationships with their mothers. Join us every week as we embark on an honest, vulnerable, and nurturing journey toward embracing, understanding and healing, and embracing our inner little girl.

In a world that often tries to silence our voices, this podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of our relationships with the women who raised us. We confront the reality of toxic dynamics and the profound impact they have had on our lives. But we don't stop there; we're committed to unraveling the threads of generational trauma and weaving new narratives of strength, resilience, and self-love.

Visit JenniferArnise.com to start your healing journey.

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  • EP 090: Was My Mama Depressed?

    EP 090: Was My Mama Depressed?
    Apr 14 2026
    Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-courseWork with me one-on-oneJoin RESOLVE Evolved Today Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. Strength was never meant to cost you your humanity. Being “strong” often starts as a response to what was missing. Growing up with a mother who was struggling, especially in silence, can teach you to take care of yourself before you’re ready. For many Black women, this means learning early that your needs come second, vulnerability doesn’t feel safe, and independence becomes the default. What begins as survival slowly turns into identity, where carrying everything alone feels normal. Over time, this way of living becomes familiar. You keep going, you show up, you handle things, even when you’re exhausted. The world praises how much you can carry, but rarely sees what it costs you. Without realizing it, the same coping patterns you witnessed can become your own, leaving little room for rest, support, or softness. Change begins when you realize that not everything you carry is yours. Some patterns were learned, others were passed down. Healing looks like making different choices, letting people in, setting boundaries, and giving yourself compassion. Support and community are not weaknesses, they are necessary. In this episode, I sit down with Christin Haynes to talk about what it means to grow up as a daughter of depression and how the “strong Black woman” role is formed. We talk about how coping patterns are passed down, how identity is shaped, and why community is so important for healing. This conversation puts words to experiences many have felt and offers a starting point for doing things differently. “Remixing your idea as to what a strong Black woman is a setup for depression every single time.” – Christin Haynes Topics Covered: 00:00 — Episode Snippet00:36 — Welcome to the Black Mother Wound Podcast01:29 — Introducing Christin Haynes and her research03:18 — Studying the mother-daughter relationship through lived experience07:42 — Legacy work across generations12:08 — Unnamed maternal depression creates early independence14:58 — How survival shaped religion and self-worth 18:16 — Depressive behaviors passed down through modeling 19:40 — Realizing learned coping no longer works 21:10 — The role of “other mothers” and community 26:44 — “Strong Black woman” as a setup for depression 30:17 — Say it out loud, break the shame 32:00 — Lack of vulnerability33:53 — Understanding your mother brings healing 35:46 — It was never about you 37:10 — Overachieving can be a coping mechanism 40:12 — Skills build value, not just credentials 42:09 — “No one is coming” mindset starts early 43:45 — The mother wound shapes all relationships 46:16 — Boundaries and compassion in healing 51:12 — Don't stop trying in a place that's healthy 53:43 — Grace comes after doing your own healing 56:42 — You can’t change your mother, only yourself 57:58 — Connect with Christin Haynes 59:04 — Your story has the power to heal generations Key Takeaways: “You can't have an accurate view of religion when you don't have an accurate view of yourself as a person.” “When you grow up with a mother who’s perceivably depressed… you become a strong Black girl.” “Community is a buffer and a protective factor for depression in Black women.” “You didn’t have the space and the humanity to be low… even if you are low, you gotta put your makeup on, lay your wig, and walk out and brave the world, but on the inside, you’re dying.” “You don’t have to have every credential… you need to learn how to be in a community.” “If you think stacking your plate is going to make you more valuable, instead of stacking your skills, that’s the problem.” “You can’t be a good friend or be in community without understanding your relationship with your mother.” “Black women are going up the rough side of the mountain with no shoes on, holding their world on their back… and the worlds of the women before them.” “You have to know your boundaries and adjust your expectations of what this relationship can be.” “Your boundaries shape how far you go, but compassion is what keeps you open.” “You can’t change your mama, but you can change how you show up.” “Grace and compassion come naturally once you give them to yourself.” About the Guest Christin Haynes is a doctoral candidate in Family Science and Human Development at Montclair State University, with a research focus on the intergenerational passing of Strong Black Woman beliefs and maternal mental health. She holds a BS in Psychology and an MSW from Florida A&M University and has worked closely with vulnerable Black families. Christin is also the host of the Black Family Scholar podcast, where she explores the culture of silence within Black ...
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  • EP 089: What I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Healing My Mother Wound

    EP 089: What I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Healing My Mother Wound
    Apr 7 2026
    Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-courseWork with me one-on-one Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. Healing is not a quick process, and it doesn’t follow a fixed timeline. Years of pain, rejection, and misunderstanding cannot be undone in a short period, no matter how much one wishes for it. Instead of rushing toward an endpoint, the journey invites a deeper discovery of self, one that exists beyond fear and past conditioning. In that process, there is a quiet realization that growth happens in small, imperfect steps. Learning to care for personal needs and choosing oneself, even in uncertain moments, becomes evidence that healing is already taking place. Along the way, long-held beliefs begin to shift. The fear of being unlikable slowly gives way to the understanding that being seen does not always lead to rejection. There is also the discovery of capability, finishing what was once abandoned, and recognizing intelligence that was always present but never acknowledged. Time will pass regardless, and that truth brings a sense of urgency to the work. The choice is not about waiting for healing to feel complete, but about continuing the process while life moves forward. Even with its difficulty, the journey offers something irreplaceable: the chance to finally know and accept oneself. In that sense, the process itself is not just necessary, it is meaningful. In this episode, I’m welcoming you back to The Black Mother Wound Podcast and into Season 3 as we begin a new chapter with the Black Effect Podcast Network. I reflect on how this space started as my personal journey and share what ten years of healing my mother wound has taught me, especially that healing takes time and is rooted in getting to know yourself. I opened up about the beliefs I had to unlearn and how creating a safe space within helped me grow. As we step into this season, I’m inviting you to not just listen, but to do the work and choose yourself. “Healing, as hard as it has been, it has been worth it, I would do it all over again.” – Jennifer Arnise Topics Covered: 01:11 — Episode Snippet 01:30 — Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast (Season 3 Opening) 02:17 — Joining the Black Effect Podcast Network 05:44 — 10 Years of healing the mother wound 07:03 — Why healing cannot be rushed 08:22 — The journey is the gift 11:05 — Lesson #1: People will like me if they know me 13:49 — Lesson #2: I can finish things 16:22 — Lesson #3: I am smart 19:04 — Lesson #4: Nothing is wrong with me 21:49 — We are worthy of love and happiness 22:48 — Healing requires new experiences 24:12 — Creating a safe space within yourself 25:28 — Healing is bard, but worth it 27:05 — What to expect in season 3 28:42 — Be an implementer, not just a listener Key Takeaways: “Getting there is not the gift. The journey is the gift because what you get is an opportunity to get to know yourself.” “You can’t undo 20, 30, 40, 60 years of abandonment, of rejection, of wounding in 6 months, in a year.” “If you are getting to know yourself, if you are building a better relationship with yourself, then you are on the right track.” “Do not judge where you are so quickly, give it time to cook.” “It took me learning to accept and like myself for me to realize that it’s safe for people to know me.” “I created a safe space for myself where I wasn’t going to berate myself for not knowing and that made all the difference.” “All the things were always there, I just thought they weren’t valuable.” “The biggest part of healing is new experiences, you have to give your brain new evidence.” “Treat yourself like you are an explorer in a new kingdom, even if you’re in the same place.” “Be who you are, get what you want, have the life that is in your heart.” DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience. www.jenniferarnise.com IG: @ iamjenniferarniseSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • Introducing Black Mother Wound

    Introducing Black Mother Wound
    Mar 31 2026

    Black Mother Wound is an intimate and thought‑provoking podcast hosted by Jennifer Arnise, exploring the complex, often unspoken dynamics between Black women and their mothers. Through personal storytelling, cultural reflection, and honest dialogue, Jennifer examines how generational trauma, love, silence, and survival collide inside Black families, and what healing can look like.

    This is a space for truth, compassion, and reckoning, centering voices that have long been dismissed or misunderstood. Black Mother Wound invites listeners to name their pain, question ingrained thoughts, and imagine healthier ways forward.

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