Surrender is one of the most misunderstood concepts in healing, especially after betrayal trauma. For many women, the word itself can feel painful, unsafe, or even triggering. It can sound like giving up, minimizing harm, or accepting what should never have happened.

In this episode, we slow surrender way down.

This conversation explores what surrender actually means in the context of betrayal trauma and healing in Christ’s light. Not as passive acceptance or forced forgiveness, but as a gradual, grounded process of releasing what was never yours to carry in the first place.

We talk about surrender through multiple lenses. Faith, higher power, and the 12-step framework, while always coming back to what surrender looks like in real, everyday life for women whose trust has been shattered.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why surrender often feels painful and threatening after betrayal
• Making space for different concepts of a higher power without pressure or perfection
• What surrender means in the 12 steps, in practical, lived terms
• How surrender can coexist with boundaries, truth, and discernment
• How surrender can become a pathway back to peace, clarity, and self-connection

This episode is for women who are exhausted from holding everything together, from trying to manage outcomes, and from carrying responsibility that was never theirs. Surrender here is not about shrinking or silencing yourself. It is about softening your grip on what you cannot control so you can come back home to yourself.

You don’t have to understand surrender all at once. You don’t have to do it perfectly. And you don’t have to force it before you’re ready.

This episode offers gentle perspective, grounded truth, and permission to explore surrender at your own pace.

🌟 Meet the Author: Jeni Brockbank

Jeni Brockbank lives in northern Utah with her six children, where she works as a betrayal trauma coach and podcaster. She finds joy in applying the gospel of Jesus Christ to real-life challenges, floating on lazy rivers, snuggling her kids, and long lunches with good friends. She loves the color red as a reminder of her individual worth to her Heavenly Father. Jeni is also the founder of Her Wings Unfold, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting survivors of domestic violence, betrayal, and abuse.

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Betrayal doesn’t just break trust — it fractures your connection to yourself, to others, and often to God.

In Part 2 of this conversation, I’m again joined by Jeni Brockbank, author of Healing in Christ’s Light, to explore what it looks like to move beyond survival and into deeper healing after betrayal — without bypassing pain or rushing the process.

This episode centers on soul-care, compassion, and truth-based healing for women navigating the aftermath of abuse, addiction, abandonment, and adultery.

Together, we explore:

• Why betrayal wounds the soul — not just the heart or mind

• What real soul-care looks like after trauma (and why “just pray more” often isn’t enough)

• How self-compassion becomes a critical healing practice after gaslighting and self-doubt

• Why healing in isolation keeps wounds open — and how safe community supports restoration

• The difference between accountability, support, and pressure disguised as “help”

• What forgiveness is — and what it is not

• Why forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation, tolerance, or bypassing harm

• How faith-centered healing honors truth, boundaries, agency, and dignity

This episode is a grounding reminder that:

You are allowed to be tender with yourself.

You are not meant to heal alone.

And forgiveness is never meant to cost you your safety or your soul.

If you’ve struggled with guilt, pressure to “move on,” or confusion about forgiveness and faith after betrayal — this conversation was created for you.

🌟 Meet Our Guest: Jeni Brockbank

Jeni Brockbank lives in northern Utah with her six children, where she works as a betrayal trauma coach and podcaster. She finds joy in applying the gospel of Jesus Christ to real-life challenges, floating on lazy rivers, snuggling her kids, and long lunches with good friends. She loves the color red as a reminder of her individual worth to her Heavenly Father. Jeni is also the founder of Her Wings Unfold, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting survivors of domestic violence, betrayal, and abuse.

Her Wings Unfold

https://herwingsunfold.org/

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Betrayal doesn’t just break trust, it breaks the world you thought you were living in.

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Jeni Brockbank, author of Healing in Christ’s Light, for a grounded and faith-centered discussion on the realities of abuse, addiction, abandonment, and adultery, including the deep trauma that follows.

Together, we explore:

• What betrayal trauma actually is and why it impacts the nervous system so intensely
• Gaslighting and spiritual manipulation — how they warp your sense of reality
• Why you start to question your sanity (hint: you’re not crazy — you’re in trauma)
• The difference between unsafe support that causes more harm… and safe support that helps you heal
• How to hold onto your identity, worth, and faith when your partner’s choices create chaos
• What real safety looks like in your body, in your soul, and in your relationships
• How healing in the light of Christ supports truth, clarity, and empowerment

This episode is a validating reminder that:

You didn’t cause this.

You’re not alone in it.

And your healing is sacred.

If you’ve ever felt confused, spiritually conflicted, or unsure where to turn — this conversation was made for you.

🌟 Meet Our Guest: Jeni Brockbank

Jeni lives in northern Utah with her six children, where she works as a betrayal trauma coach and podcaster. She finds joy in applying the gospel of Jesus Christ to real-life challenges, floating on lazy rivers, snuggling her kids, and long lunches with good friends. She loves the color red because it reminds her of her individual worth to her Heavenly Father. Jeni is also the founder of Her Wings Unfold, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting victims of domestic violence, betrayal, and abuse.

🕊️ Listen in for grounding truth and gentle direction.

You are not crazy — you are surviving trauma. And healing is possible, especially when truth and safety lead the way.

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December 11, 2025 Webinar

Over the Rainbow: Understanding the Journey of Betrayal Trauma Healing

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