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Big news first: we’ve been nominated for the Adult Industry Choice Awards and we’d love your vote. Then we roll up our sleeves and take on a fan favourite topic with clear eyes and zero shame: how to make anal sex safer, more comfortable, and actually pleasurable for both partners. Not the porn version—the real, practical, human version that respects consent and celebrates connection.

We start by unpacking why people are curious in the first place: new sensations, variety, and a level of intimacy that feels special rather than routine. From there, we get specific about preparation. You’ll hear how diet and fibre shape confidence and spontaneity, the right way to douche (and why less is often more), and the small choices—like skipping heavy booze and high-fat meals—that keep your gut calm. We share lube strategies that work in real bedrooms: when to choose water-based vs silicone, why spit isn’t a lubricant, the condom compatibility trap, and the simple trick to rehydrate water-based lubes on the fly.

Safety and pleasure come together when we talk toys and technique. We explain why anal toys must have a base, what “body-safe” actually means, and how to avoid porous materials that harbour bacteria. We cover starting sizes, building tolerance, and pacing that lets the body relax rather than brace. Most importantly, we model the kind of communication that turns anxiety into trust—quick check-ins, playful redirection, and pairing anal with the touch that already gets you off. Expect humour, straight talk, and honest admissions that take the pressure off and bring you closer.

If this conversation opens your mind or helps your bedroom feel kinder and more connected, tap follow, subscribe, and leave a review. Share it with a friend who needs better lube advice and vote for us via the link in the show notes—what tip surprised you most?

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Ever wondered what happens when you tear down the arbitrary walls between kink and swinging communities? In this candid conversation with event creators Mischief and Mayhem, we explore the unexpected success of Perth's groundbreaking crossover event that allowed both worlds to collide in spectacular fashion.

The duo reveals the behind-the-scenes reality of organizing such an event – from the constant mental pressure ("Are people having fun right now?") to the unexpected validation participants experienced. Most touchingly, they share stories of attendees who approached them after their stretching demonstration, whispering confessions like "we do this at home but didn't know anyone else did." This beautiful moment of recognition perfectly captures why creating authentic spaces for exploration matters so profoundly.

What makes this conversation particularly illuminating is the contrast between performative and authentic kink. As Mayhem explains, "Seeing it in person, so raw, is such a lovely thing – it's like, oh my gosh, they're like me." Unlike the perfectly staged performances in professional content, these real-life demonstrations allow people to witness genuine connection and communication between partners. The nuances matter: different positions work for different bodies, various techniques yield different sensations, and the most important element is always authentic communication between partners.

The conversation weaves through practical considerations (the financial investment in quality toys), psychological insights (how extreme play can reconnect cerebral people with their physical bodies), and plans for their upcoming "Court of Sin and Seduction" themed event. Most powerful is their journey from being nervous to mention their interest in stretching at their first munch to now running successful events centered around it – a testament to how "if you put stuff out there, people find you."

Ready to explore your own boundaries? Listen now to discover how creating judgment-free spaces allows everyone to find their authentic expression and community.

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Ever wondered why certain taboo conversations create such powerful connections? Our deep dive into fisting proved to be one of our most resonant episodes ever - not because of shock value, but because it explored something rarely discussed with genuine curiosity, practical wisdom, and profound respect.

From historical origins to modern practice, we peel back the layers of this misunderstood intimate act. Turns out that fisting isn't actually about forming a fist at all - just one of many myths we debunk along the way. Beyond the mechanics (which yes, we cover thoroughly), we explore why practices requiring extraordinary patience, trust and communication often build the deepest connections between partners.

The psychology fascinates: what draws people to explore sensations that seem extreme? How does vulnerability transform into power? What happens when we push beyond our comfort zones with someone we trust completely? These questions resonate whether or not this particular practice appeals to you.

We don't shy away from practical guidance either - proper preparation, safety considerations, hygiene practices, and most importantly, the art of aftercare both physical and emotional. Every step emphasizes consent, communication, and genuine connection.

Whether you're merely curious, actively interested, or simply appreciate honest conversations about sexuality, this episode offers something valuable: permission to approach the taboo with openness rather than judgment. After all, understanding what draws others to experiences different from our own is how we build empathy in all areas of life.