In our marriage and parenting, we’re often too hard or too soft.

When we’re too hard, we are angry, frustrated, or overly controlling of what people do.

This comes from our own discomfort of letting others do things differently.

And, it leads to people distancing from us.

When we feel that distance, we often go too soft. Too permissive. Too weak.

And, our wives and kids kind of like that…

But they don’t respect us or feel safe with us.

And we don’t feel safe or respect ourselves.

Thankfully, there is a “just right” place to be a parent and a husband.

One where we have the love AND respect of others…

And we love and respect ourselves.

Learn about this in today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmxd3VzEvgo

And to join us in growing our gardens and husbands and fathers with God, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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You want to be the best husband.

You want to be the best father.

You want to be the best at your job.

That pressure can help you perform…

But it also leads to a feeling of pressure, stress…

And even rejection and not feeling good enough.

Unfortunately, those aren’t the best feelings to build a family foundation on.

Instead, you can view your family as a garden.

A garden that God is in charge of, and that you have a part in.

A garden that if you make a mistake, God can heal it.

Now you can rest, play, grow and create. And work. But you don’t have to work to earn rest or earn your place in the garden.

You belong.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in growing our gardens and husbands and fathers with God, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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I used to think that the way to heal was three simple steps.

Step 1 –Identify your old, negative, unattractive patterns.

Step 2 – Create new positive attractive patterns.

Step 3 - Practice the new patterns until you can’t get them wrong

And, that sequence does work.

However, it misses some important things.

Mainly, it misses acknowledging why the old patterns were there in the first place.

It doesn’t give compassion to the younger you’s and the current you that are acting the way you are because you’re scared or sad.

And, because of that, you don’t really heal and keep acting out the same old patterns.

Learn what to do instead in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming better husbands and fathers, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

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If you’re like me, your wife and kids make you mad.

Maybe it happens a lot.

If your anger seems extreme for the situation…

(like when I got upset this week when my oldest son said goodbye to other people in the family or not me)...

There’s probably a younger you that needs caring for.

And the adult you also needs to recognize the hurt…

And then choose from an adult mindset what to do about it.

Learn how to do this in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming better husbands and fathers, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

P.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike. Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

I’ve had a pattern in my marriage.

I feel hurt by something.

The kids or Elizabeth ignoring me. The kids being rude. Elizabeth turning away from a hug or kiss.

Then, I get mad.

I pull away. I think to myself “Fine, if they don’t want me then they can pay for everything themselves!”

I picture leaving them alone to fend for themselves.

I can say mean things and get angry when I feel this way.

Then later, I calm down and regret this…

But there’s been damage done. I’ve scared my family and created lack of safety.

I’ve been trying to get rid of this pattern for a LONG time.

But I feel like I’ve found the answer.

It’s working on my inner child.

You see, my inner child is looking for my family to provide unconditional love. To take care of me.

And, my younger me’s do need that.

But, it’s not my kids’ job to take care of me. It’s my job to take care of them.

And, it’s not my wife’s job to be my unconditionally loving “mother.” It’s our job to work in partnership in life together. She needs a husband, not another kid.

And so, it falls on me to parent those younger me’s and give them unconditional love.

I’m just starting the journey, and I think it’s the key to breaking some very difficult patterns.

Learn more on today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to become a man who makes this generation better than the last, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

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This past week I had the chance to stand up for someone else.

A large man was being threatening and eventually physically aggressive to his wife or girlfriend (not sure which it was)..

Thanks to the MMA training I’ve been receiving from Ethyn Ewing (here’s a recent knockout of his)...

I felt confident to confront the guy and stop him from continuing to abuse this woman.

It felt great to join the ranks of men who will stand up physically for what’s right.

It made me realize that confrontation is one of the main masculine traits.

The willingness to confront and fight others is a lot of what makes a man.

Whether that confrontation is physical, mental, emotional or spiritual.

And it takes physical, mental, emotional and spiritual strength to step into that confrontation.

Hear more about what happened on today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to become a man who fights for what is right, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

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When you wife says she wants space…

It’s SCARY!

Our brains usually go to thinking she wants to leave, whether that’s true or not.

Usually we either go to pleading for her not to leave…

Or we go to anger.

Both of these are unattractive and push our wives away.

Instead, we can share what we’re actually feeling…

Ask for her help…

And take care of ourselves.

Learn more about this in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5FvaokDOcY

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

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It can be scary and frustrating if your wife doesn’t want to pray with you.

Or maybe it’s that she doesn’t want to go to church or read scriptures with you.

You can worry that your marriage won’t make it.

That your kids won’t grow up with God.

That your wife and kids are on the fast track to eternal damnation.

Unfortunately, this fear usually makes you anxious and controlling…

Which drives your wife and kids away more.

Learn what to to instead…

In today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEubK6OeKkI

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

P.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with Dr. Mike. Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157