In this raw and unfiltered episode, Jules and Michele break down the emotional clutter that keeps midlife women stuck in toxic cycles. Through real-life stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS advice, they walk you through the 5 steps to finally let go of past relationship baggage, romantic, family, or friendship and reclaim your peace, power, and joy.

What You’ll Learn:

• The 5 key steps to letting go of relationship baggage
• How guilt, regret, and resentment silently hold you back
• Why reframing your story changes everything
• Ways to release pain through symbolic action
• How to set healthy boundaries and stop repeating toxic patterns
• Why choosing yourself is not selfish, it’s essential

Questions Answered in This Episode:

• How do I know if I’m still carrying relationship baggage?
• What does it really mean to “reframe the story”?
• How do I let go without feeling guilty?
• Is blocking someone immature—or healthy?
• How do I trust again after being hurt?
• What if I was the toxic one in the past?
• Can I welcome people back into my life after decades?
• What are the signs I’m repeating old patterns?

Are you ready to take your "spiciness" to the next level?!

Connect with Julee & Michele on Instagram @spicy_midlife_women and send a DM about what resonated most during this episode so they can encourage you with steps forward in your own life.

In this episode, Jules and Michelle dive into the crucial topic of setting new standards for yourself after 40. They explore how to move beyond survival mode and fear-based decision making that may have served you in your younger years, but no longer align with the woman you've become. The hosts share personal stories about professional burnout, lifestyle upgrades, emotional boundaries, and the importance of choosing yourself without needing consensus from others. This conversation is all about recognizing your worth, protecting your energy, and creating intentional standards that support the spicy, empowered woman you are in midlife.

Questions Answered in This Episode:

• Do the standards you currently have align with the woman you are now, or the girl you used to be?
• How can you recognize and address professional burnout while still pursuing meaningful work?
• What's the difference between healthy ambition and overextending yourself to prove your worth?
• How do you upgrade your lifestyle standards to prioritize joy and intentionality?
• Why is it crucial to stop entertaining chaos and drama in your relationships?
• How can you set boundaries with energy-draining people without feeling guilty?
• What does it mean to communicate with grace while still being direct and honest?
• How do you set standards for how others are allowed to speak to you?
• Why don't you need consensus or approval from others to choose yourself?
• How can you learn to trust your gut instincts when making important life decisions?
• What's the difference between bouncing ideas off trusted people versus seeking validation?
• How do you handle judgment from others when you're making bold life changes?

Are you ready to take your "spiciness" to the next level?!

Connect with Julee & Michele on Instagram @spicy_midlife_women and send a DM about what resonated most during this episode so they can encourage you with steps forward in your own life.

In this episode, Jules and Michele sit down with relationship coach Lauren Hayes to explore the world of ethical non-monogamy—sexuality, clarity, and companionship beyond monogamy. Lauren pulls back the curtain on how she and her husband transitioned into the lifestyle, emphasizing communication, emotional maturity, and the theme that “pleasure is a practice.” This spicy chat dives into handling jealousy, setting boundaries, preserving emotional sovereignty, and why many enter non-monogamy not to repair, but to enhance an already strong connection.

Questions Answered in This Episode:

• What is ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and how does it differ from swinging or polyamory?
• How did Lauren and her husband begin exploring ENM, and what prompted the shift?
• What groundwork—like communication and trust—is essential before starting this journey?
• How do couples handle jealousy and emotional complexity along the way?
• What’s the difference between “full swap” and “soft swap,” and how do health and safety factor in?
• How do emotional sovereignty and self-awareness support healthy non-monogamous relationships?
• What role do agreements, boundaries, and ongoing consent play in navigating ENM successfully?
• How do families, social circles, and stigma impact those who enter the lifestyle?
• Why do many spouses actually grow closer and feel more empowered through non-monogamy?
• How does viewing ‌pleasure as a practice apply not only to sex, but to life and midlife well-being?

Are you ready to take your "spiciness" to the next level?!

Connect with Julee & Michele on Instagram @spicy_midlife_women and send a DM about what resonated most during this episode so they can encourage you with steps forward in your own life.