This episode explores how growing up in the ’80s, ’90s, and early 2000s shaped us — not just our personalities, but our expectations, our creativity, and our sense of identity. We dive into how 90s R&B practically raised half the Black community, how TV characters and sitcom families became our unofficial therapists, and how the media often misunderstood quiet kids long before the world did.

We also unpack the impact of pop culture moments that shaped us, healed us, embarrassed us, or just had us staring at the screen like, “…now why would they do that?”

This episode blends nostalgia, humor, and cultural truth to examine how the media we consumed still echoes in who we are today.

In this opening episode, Shay and Jay explore what it means to heal and unlearn in real time — as individuals, as Black people, and as a community. They unpack the differences in how Black men and Black women heal, the tension and miscommunication that often keeps us from seeing each other, and the generational patterns they’re actively breaking. They also speak to the silent battles, survival mode, and the feeling of growing up unseen. This episode is rooted in honesty, softness, and the reality that unlearning is often the beginning of true healing.

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