Discover how the BIFF response can transform challenging conversations with ex-partners into productive exchanges, especially in high-conflict divorce proceedings and co-parenting relationships. This powerful communication tool for hostility helps you respond to hostile comments by maintaining boundaries, acknowledging feelings, and providing constructive feedback—ultimately protecting your mental health and leading to better outcomes in divorce. Learn to pause before responding, show empathy, and disengage from toxic conversations to navigate divorce with dignity and model better communication for the next generation.

• Master the BIFF response to shift negative or hostile comments into positive, constructive feedback, helping you control your reaction and steer tough conversations during divorce toward productive outcomes.
• Stay calm by taking a deep breath and pausing before responding, allowing you to acknowledge feelings, show empathy, and maintain boundaries in challenging conversations with ex-partners or during custody arrangements.
• Practice disengaging from toxic conversations to protect mental health, build self-awareness, and foster better co-parenting relationships, especially in uncontested divorces or written communication like emails and text messages.
• Use the BIFF response as a strategic tool to respond to hostility, promote learning to listen, and achieve better outcomes in divorce by breaking cycles and modeling positive communication skills.

Ken Maynard is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and an Accredited Family Mediator who has been guiding couples through the Divorce Industrial Complex of separation and divorce since 2010. He helps families across Ontario and beyond by delivering mediation through secure virtual conferencing. Using his Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method, Ken offers a structured, compassionate, and cost-effective alternative to the traditional adversarial approach. His process prioritizes collaboration over conflict, enabling clients to reach sustainable, amicable agreements—often in four meetings or fewer. With nearly two decades of experience, Ken blends deep financial insight with mediation expertise to provide real-world guidance for families navigating one of life’s most difficult transitions—while avoiding unnecessary legal battles. Sarah Bates, Certified Divorce Specialist and the no-nonsense guide behind Naked Divorce Filer by DTSW. With over a decade in family law and a background as a freelance law clerk, Sarah helps clients cut through legal confusion to file uncontested divorces quickly and affordably. She’s passionate about making the process clear, human, and drama-free—no lawyers required. At Naked Divorce Filer at DTSW, she’s the calm, capable partner clients trust to simplify paperwork, explain next steps, and keep things moving. Sarah believes divorce shouldn’t be a battle—it should be a reset. Her mission? To help people move on with dignity, clarity, and confidence.

• 📞 Phone: (647) 360-3200
• 🌐 Website: divorcethesmartway.ca
• 📧 Email: kmaynard@dtsw.ca

• 📞 Phone: (647) 493-1800
• 🌐 Website: www.thesmartdivorce.com
• 📧 Email: sarah@thesmartdivorce.com

Discover innovative ways to support your children during divorce that go beyond traditional child support payments. Dive into non-financial strategies, emotional backing, and mediation options that prioritize your child's well-being while navigating co-parenting challenges. Whether dealing with limited resources or seeking amicable agreements, this episode reveals practical child support alternatives to foster stability and growth for your family.

• Child support isn't just about money—non-financial contributions like quality time, emotional support, and creating a stable home environment are crucial for a child's development and happiness.
• When resources are limited, maximize them through community aid, skill development for better income, and open communication to adjust agreements, including shared expenses or mediation for fair outcomes.
• Guideline child support offers consistency and ease, but alternatives like split custody or special arrangements can work if they truly benefit the child, though they require caution to avoid exploitation.
• Healthy co-parenting and mediation, such as the Soft Landing method, help parents collaborate on sustainable solutions, reducing conflict and ensuring the child's needs come first.

• Ken Maynard: Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Accredited Family Mediator, guiding families through divorce with his Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method for compassionate, cost-effective resolutions.
• Sarah Bates: Certified Divorce Specialist at Naked Divorce Filer by DTSW, helping clients simplify uncontested divorces with clear, drama-free processes focused on dignity and clarity.

• 📞 Phone: (647) 360-3200
• 🌐 Website: divorcethesmartway.ca
• 📧 Email: kmaynard@dtsw.ca

• 📞 Phone: (647) 493-1800
• 🌐 Website: www.thesmartdivorce.com
• 📧 Email: sarah@thesmartdivorce.com

Facing divorce often leads people to lawyer up immediately, but what if there's a smarter way to navigate divorce proceedings? Discover why starting with a mediator and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) can help you maintain control, gain financial clarity, and reduce animosity in divorce and separation. This episode explores how prioritizing finances and children over hasty legal battles leads to informed decisions, cost-effective solutions, and the best possible outcome for a smooth divorce.

• Maintain control over divorce proceedings by collaborating with a mediator and CDFA, making collaborative decisions instead of letting courts dictate terms.
• Gain financial expertise to understand short-term and long-term implications, ensuring comprehensive disclosure and a clear financial picture before hiring a divorce lawyer.
• Opt for a cost-effective, holistic approach that reduces animosity, protects children's welfare, and creates a stable environment during separation.
• Empower yourself with clarity and confidence to make informed decisions on legal rights, settlement options, and taking control for a better divorce outcome.

Ken Maynard is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Accredited Family Mediator guiding couples through divorce and separation since 2010, using his Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method for compassionate, cost-effective mediation via virtual conferencing. Sarah Bates is a Certified Divorce Specialist at Naked Divorce Filer by DTSW, with over a decade in family law, helping clients file uncontested divorces affordably and drama-free, focusing on dignity, clarity, and confidence.

• 📞 Phone: (647) 360-3200
• 🌐 Website: divorcethesmartway.ca
• 📧 Email: kmaynard@dtsw.ca

• 📞 Phone: (647) 493-1800
• 🌐 Website: www.thesmartdivorce.com
• 📧 Email: sarah@thesmartdivorce.com

Divorce isn't just a legal battle—it's a profound emotional journey filled with stages of grief like denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Discover how poor emotional management can lead to skyrocketing legal costs, endless arguments, and unnecessary court battles over child custody and asset division. Join us as we explore the smart divorce approach, where a certified divorce coach provides emotional support and mindfulness techniques to achieve emotional closure, rational legal decisions, and long-term well-being for you and your kids' future.

• Understand the emotional divorce stages—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—and how they impact legal proceedings to avoid emotional disconnection and costly mistakes.
• Learn why separating emotional healing from legal decisions prevents adversarial divorce, reduces legal costs, and promotes fair outcomes in mediation and asset division.
• Discover the role of a divorce coach in managing emotional complexity, offering emotional reserve, and guiding you toward emotional recovery without escalating child custody disputes.
• Explore achieving a smart divorce by balancing emotional support with collaborative divorce strategies for emotional closure and a healthier post-divorce life.

• Ken Maynard: Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Accredited Family Mediator who guides families through separation using his Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method for compassionate, cost-effective mediation.
• Sarah Bates: Certified Divorce Specialist at Naked Divorce Filer by DTSW, helping clients file uncontested divorces affordably with clarity and dignity, avoiding drama and unnecessary legal battles.

• 📞 Phone: (647) 360-3200
• 🌐 Website: divorcethesmartway.ca
• 📧 Email: kmaynard@dtsw.ca

• 📞 Phone: (647) 493-1800
• 🌐 Website: www.thesmartdivorce.com
• 📧 Email: sarah@thesmartdivorce.com

Discover how the Divorce Industrial Complex traps couples in a web of greedy lawyers, hidden costs, and prolonged conflict, turning separations into financial burdens and emotional tolls. In this eye-opening episode, explore the Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method—a mediation-focused, cost-effective divorce alternative that empowers you to guard wealth during divorce, reduce legal fees, and achieve amicable resolutions without the profit motive exploitation. Break free from disempowerment in divorce and embrace efficient resolution for better emotional well-being and peaceful co-parenting arrangements.

• The Divorce Industrial Complex creates financial burdens through high legal fees and profit-driven services, often prolonging conflict and exacerbating stress and anxiety.
• Traditional divorce fosters an adversarial nature, leading to hidden costs, emotional toll, and disempowerment, while alternatives like mediation offer financial transparency and reduced conflict.
• The Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method promotes collaborative divorce with a neutral mediator, focusing on fair asset division, spousal support, and quicker settlements to guard wealth during divorce.
• By choosing cost-effective divorce options, couples can achieve empowerment in divorce, better family dynamics, and economic relief, avoiding the traps of greedy lawyers and bureaucratic hurdles.

Sarah Bates, Certified Divorce Specialist and founder of Naked Divorce Filer by DTSW, with over a decade in family law, helps clients navigate uncontested divorces affordably without lawyers, emphasizing clarity and dignity.

Ken Maynard, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Accredited Family Mediator, uses his Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method to guide families through virtual mediation, prioritizing collaboration, financial insight, and amicable agreements since 2010.

• 📞 Phone: (647) 360-3200
• 🌐 Website: divorcethesmartway.ca
• 📧 Email: kmaynard@dtsw.ca

• 📞 Phone: (647) 493-1800
• 🌐 Website: www.thesmartdivorce.com
• 📧 Email: sarah@thesmartdivorce.com

In this episode, Ken Maynard brings clarity and compassion to one of the most misunderstood elements of family law: Canada's deeply entrenched adversarial legal system. As a precursor to the Soft Landing Podcast, this episode lays critical groundwork for a smarter, more humane way forward.

Drawing on powerful metaphors and real-world insight, Ken explores:

• Why the adversarial “Coliseum” approach is so damaging to families
• The rise of collaborative law, mediation, and therapeutic jurisprudence as viable alternatives
• How the Soft Landing Method helps families escape the financial and emotional fallout of traditional litigation

This episode reframes what it means to “lawyer up,” advocating instead for a process that prioritizes mental wellness, child well-being, and financial clarity—a legacy that continues to shape divorce education today.

• 📞 Phone: (647) 360-3200
• 🌐 Website: divorcethesmartway.ca
• 📧 Email: kmaynard@dtsw.ca

• 📞 Phone: (647) 493-1800
• 🌐 Website: www.thesmartdivorce.com
• 📧 Email: sarah@thesmartdivorce.com

This powerful episode of The Smart Divorce marks a pivotal step toward more compassionate, informed, and child-focused separation. Featuring internationally renowned psychologist and divorce expert Dr. Joan Kelly, this conversation delivers a masterclass in one of the most emotionally charged moments of divorce: telling your children.

Before the Soft Landing Podcast redefined humane separation, this episode set the standard. It's an achievement episode—a foundational conversation that reshaped how families approach divorce, emphasizing transparency, empathy, and preparation.

• Why only 5% of parents inform their children with intention—and how to change that.
• How to script age-appropriate conversations that foster stability and security.
• The three critical messages every child must hear: “It’s not your fault, we love you, and we’re still your parents.”
• What to say, what to avoid, and how to prepare when co-parenting under one roof.

Deborah and Steve’s vulnerability, coupled with Dr. Kelly’s decades of research, create a deeply moving and practical guide for parents facing one of life’s most difficult transitions. If you’re navigating divorce, this is the conversation that will change how you do it—and how your children remember it.

• 📞 Phone: (647) 360-3200
• 🌐 Website: divorcethesmartway.ca
• 📧 Email: kmaynard@dtsw.ca

• 📞 Phone: (647) 493-1800
• 🌐 Website: www.thesmartdivorce.com
• 📧 Email: sarah@thesmartdivorce.com

Tell the Children

• 📞 Phone: (647) 360-3200
• 🌐 Website: divorcethesmartway.ca
• 📧 Email: kmaynard@dtsw.ca

• 📞 Phone: (647) 493-1800
• 🌐 Website: www.thesmartdivorce.com
• 📧 Email: sarah@thesmartdivorce.com