Comedian James Tom spent years identifying as a lesbian enby, but it took a Fire Island orgy and a twink in a Versace speedo to help him realize he was actually a gay guy. James has been mining his experiences for hilarious stand-up material ever since. In this episode, James stops by to tell Gabe and Chris side-splitting stories of sexual aha moments and misadventures alike. He also offers tons of helpful advice to trans and cis queers who “just wanna fuck” -- including Chris and Gabe! Want to know what cis guys should absolutely NOT say when hooking up with trans guys? This episode’s for you!

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Fisting used to be a niche fetish practiced by kinksters in dungeons, but today “Fisting is the It Girl” according to writer and expert fister Alexander Cheves. In this deep dive, Alex explains how the availability of fisting content on Twitter has led to a surge of interest from younger queer folks in recent years. But there’s a lot that first time fist fuckers need to know about how to prepare and train for play, in order to avoid serious injuries. Luckily, Alex has plenty of smart tips (and sweet stories) to share for both beginners and pros. Get the x-lube and puppy pads ready. It’s time to go Fisting For Compliments.

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You’re not supposed to get horny or talk about sex in church, but Brandon Kyle Goodman is not your normal pastor. In their new off-Broadway show HEAUX CHURCH, the host of iHeart’s hit podcast “Tell Me Something Messy” reimagines church as a place for queer people to shed their religious trauma, sexual shame, and become happier, more fulfilled lovers. In this episode, Chris and Gabe talk with Goodman about how religious homophobia fucks up queer people’s access to sexual pleasure, highlighting how Brandon’s upbeat Tammy Faye Baker-style sermon - complete with talking penis, vagina and butthole puppets - offers a path to enlightenment. Heaux-llelujah!

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Cruising has resurged over the past decade, thanks in part to PrEP and Sniffies. But its future might look like something out of a dystopian sci-fi movie, according to journalist Leo Herrera, who followed up his hit book Analog Cruising (featured in our S1 episode “Cruising 101”) with a series of articles about how rapid advancements in AI technology may impact queer sex, cruising, and relationships. In our supersized season opener, Leo, Gabe and Chris vigorously debate the nuts, bolts, ethics and controversies over soon-to-be-ubiquitous things like synthetic companions, AI porn and yes, sex robots. Freaked out by the future? You’ll definitely want to listen to this episode.

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Hungry for more Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions? Our third season is BULGING with hot and hilarious conversations with cruisers, comedians, sex scholars and porn gods. Hosts Gabe Gonzalez and Chris Patterson-Rosso dive deep into everything from sex robots to double fisting for a season that’s intimate, arousing and raw -- just the way you like it. Premiering October 23rd!

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This week our hosts suit up in spandex for a wild Q&A with content creator Denzel Dixon, a prominent player in NYC’s gay wrestling fetish scene. Growing up, Denzel liked imitating WWE moves with his friends, until he realized he liked it a little too much. It wasn’t until Denzel grew up and found the website MeetFighters.com that he turned his lifelong obsession into hot, sweaty, lucrative fun. Denzel teaches Gabe and Chris all about the wrestling fetish scene and answers the most important question of all: when do we take the singlets off?

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Historically, pop culture has been so important to LGBTQ people, not only because we often experience sexual awakenings to figures in the media we consume, but also because so many of our favorite films, shows, and records have been created by queer people. In this episode, Gabe and Chris have a freewheeling discussion about pop culture, erotic discovery, porn parodies, cruising and Buffy slashfic, with our favorite podcaster and author: Ira Madison III. Then, a cruising confession from a horny French slut has Gabe and Chris saying “sacre bleu!”

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This week, Gabe and Chris dive into the complex topic of chemsex—the pairing of party drugs and sex—within queer and trans communities. Poet and performer Joss Barton shares how her gender journey began with an acid trip and how exploring pleasure through substances became part of her story. But it wasn’t until she began incorporating her experiences into her wild, hilarious performances that she started to break free from the stigma trans women often face around drug use and reassess her own relationship with it. That’s harm reduction, mama!

In a raw and raunchy interview, Joss unpacks the highs and lows of getting high and horny, and how the U.S. government's escalating attacks on trans people are shaping her community’s use of chems. Then, a harm reduction expert joins the conversation to share tips for safer drug use and how to seek support when it’s time to cool it down.

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Grace

Resources:

Never Use Alone

​​DanceSafe

Lighthouse Learning Collective

Drug Checking

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