Episodios

  • 161: First Date Magic: How to Get the Conversation Flowing Like a Pro 🗣️

    161: First Date Magic: How to Get the Conversation Flowing Like a Pro 🗣️
    May 19 2025
    Let’s face it—first dates can be awkward. You’re sitting across from someone new, trying to figure out if there’s a spark… while also wondering what the heck to say next. Sound familiar?

    In this juicy episode of the Smart Dating Academy Podcast, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Jess Carbino—often dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of the Swipe Right generation.” With a resume that includes time as the in-house sociologist at Tinder and Bumble (yes, really!), and now on her second doctorate in clinical psychology, Jess brings savvy to the world of modern dating.


    Together, we dig into the art of creating real conversation on first dates—the kind that moves beyond surface-level chit-chat and into connection territory. 💡

    You’ll learn:

    • Why small talk isn’t actually small (and how to make it meaningful)

    • How to avoid the dreaded interview-date vibe

    • Easy, go-to questions that open hearts and spark chemistry ❤️

    • What people really want to talk about—and how to listen with intention

    • The surprising power of self-disclosure and emotional availability (without oversharing)

    Whether you're getting ready for date #1, date #100, or just starting to dip your toe back in the dating pool, this episode is your conversational compass. Trust me—after hearing this, you’ll walk into your next first date feeling confident, curious, and totally in your element.

    👉 Tune in now and let’s get the convo going!



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    34 m
  • 160: Part 2 - The BEST Questions and How to be the BEST Date

    160: Part 2 - The BEST Questions and How to be the BEST Date
    May 5 2025
    Let’s be real—dating at any phase can feel like walking a conversational tightrope. How much is too much? What’s not enough? When should I ask? What do I say if they ask me about something that I don't want to talk about? And how do you strike that magical balance between showing up as your radiant, authentic self and still being curious, fun, and engaging?

    In Part 2 of our juicy conversation, I’m back with the brilliant Lindsay Anderson, one of Smart Dating Academy’s most beloved coaches, and we’re continuing our deep dive into how to absolutely crush it on a first date.

    We cover:

    💥 Why “go-to” questions matter—and the one thing they must do if you want real connection
    🧠 How to prepare (mentally and emotionally) so you don’t blank out or get stuck in small talk
    🤔 The difference between curious and interrogating—and how to make your date feel seen, not screened
    🙋 The right questions to ask to delve deeper into this person's background that are CRITICAL to know!
    ✨ How to keep the vibe light, flirty, and fun, even when you’re diving into deeper topics
    🚫 The “date derailers” that can unintentionally kill the spark (and what to do instead!)
    💬 How to gracefully redirect a convo that’s gone off course
    🧭 Why self-awareness is your dating superpower—and how to tap into it

    This episode is about more than just asking the right questions. It’s about showing up in a way that makes your date want to get to know you - and YOU get to know them by asking and listening for the RIGHT things. It’s about enjoying the moment, being present, and creating space for genuine connection.

    Because here’s the truth: The best dates don’t feel like interviews. They feel like magic. ✨

    So, whether you're just getting back out there or want to elevate your dating game, press play now. You’re going to love this one. 💕

    Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.

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    1 h
  • 159: The BEST Questions and How to be the BEST Date - Part 1!

    159: The BEST Questions and How to be the BEST Date - Part 1!
    Apr 21 2025
    Ever wonder what makes a truly great date, and what are the best questions to ask (and how)? In this must-listen episode (part 1 of 2), the brilliant and longstanding Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson and I sit down to break down the art of dating with confidence, ease, and authenticity. If you’ve ever felt awkward on a date, struggled with what to say or what to ask, or worried about making a lasting impression, this episode is for you! ✨


    We dive into:

    • The key traits of a great date 💡—and how to show up as your best, most authentic self.

    • How to spark meaningful conversations 🗣️—and avoid awkward silences.

    • The most important questions to ask on a date ❓—and how to ask them in a way that feels natural and engaging.

    • The biggest dating conversation mistakes 🚫—and how to turn them into connection-building moments.

    If dating feels more stressful than fun, don’t worry—we’ve got you covered. Tune in to learn practical, expert-backed strategies to help you date with confidence and enjoy the process. ❤️

    🎧 Listen now and transform your dating experience!



    Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.

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    1 h y 7 m
  • 158: Why We Ignore Red Flags: Facing the Truth in Love & Dating

    158: Why We Ignore Red Flags: Facing the Truth in Love & Dating
    Apr 7 2025
    Ever ignored a red flag 🚩, hoping it would go away? Or felt blindsided by betrayal? You’re not alone—and it’s time to get real about why we sometimes lie to ourselves in relationships.

    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Jane Greer, a renowned marriage and family therapist, psychotherapist, and author of Am I Lying to Myself? How to Overcome Denial and See the Truth. With decades of experience helping people navigate love, loss, and trust, Dr. Greer reveals how denial and betrayal shape our relationships—and how to break free from patterns that hold us back.

    We dive into:

    💡 Why we stay in denial about relationship problems. Whether it’s a bad partner, an unhealthy dynamic, or something we don’t want to admit—Dr. Greer explains why we turn a blind eye (and how to stop).

    💡 The psychology behind betrayal. How does betrayal happen? And why does it hurt so much? Get expert insight into the emotional impact of broken trust.

    💡 Red flags you shouldn’t ignore. Learn the subtle (and not-so-subtle) warning signs that signal it’s time to pay attention.

    💡 How to rebuild trust after betrayal. If you’ve been hurt, is there a way forward? Dr. Greer shares strategies for healing, whether you choose to stay or walk away.

    💡 Breaking free from toxic relationship patterns. Do you find yourself in the same situations over and over? Here’s how to change your story and start making better choices.

    If you’re ready to stop making excuses, see the truth in your relationships, and build healthier connections, this episode is a must-listen!



    Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.

    For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact

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    34 m
  • 157: How to Set Boundaries & Build Healthier Relationships with Dr. Henry Cloud

    157: How to Set Boundaries & Build Healthier Relationships with Dr. Henry Cloud
    Mar 24 2025
    Ever feel like you're giving too much in relationships—and getting little in return? Or struggling to communicate what you truly need? You’re not alone.

    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Henry Cloud, a world-renowned clinical psychologist, leadership expert, and New York Times bestselling author of Boundaries—a book that has transformed the way millions navigate relationships. With over 20 million copies of his books sold, Dr. Cloud brings deep wisdom (and a dose of humor) to the art of setting healthy limits while still fostering connection.

    We dive into:

    • Why boundaries are essential for thriving relationships. Whether in dating, friendships, or family dynamics, Dr. Cloud explains why saying no can actually bring you closer to the right people.
    • How to recognize unhealthy patterns. Learn the red flags of toxic relationships and how to break free from cycles that drain your energy.
    • The secret to confident communication. Struggling to express your needs? Dr. Cloud shares simple yet powerful ways to set boundaries without guilt or fear.
    • Dating with emotional intelligence. Discover how self-awareness can help you attract healthier, more fulfilling connections.
    • Overcoming the fear of rejection. Rejection isn’t just about the other person—it’s about how you respond. Dr. Cloud offers a fresh perspective that will change the way you see it.
    If you're ready to level up your relationships and stop settling for less than you deserve, this episode is packed with actionable insights you won’t want to miss!



    Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.

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    50 m
  • 156: How to Build Your Dating Confidence & Make a Great First Impression

    156: How to Build Your Dating Confidence & Make a Great First Impression
    Mar 10 2025
    What if you could transform your dating life with just a few mindset shifts and practical strategies?

    In this episode, I sit down with Nichole Farrow, a renowned relationship coach with over a decade of experience helping singles and couples navigate love with confidence. As a resident expert on BBC 5 Live, Nichole has guided countless people in strengthening their relationships—starting with the most important one: the relationship with themselves.

    We dive into:
    • Why confidence is the key to dating success. Bela and Nichole break down how self-assurance impacts attraction and gives us real-world strategies to build it.
    • The power of first impressions. From body language to the energy you bring into a room, learn how to captivate your date before you even say a word.
    • Navigating rejection like a pro. Let’s face it—rejection is part of the dating game. But Nichole shares a fresh perspective that will help you bounce back stronger.
    • Dating etiquette that actually matters. Forget outdated rules—Nichole reveals the small yet powerful ways you can show respect and authenticity on a date.
    • Self-awareness & emotional intelligence in relationships. How tuning into your emotions and understanding your patterns can help you attract the right partner.

    If you’re ready to level up your dating life with expert-backed strategies and a fresh dose of confidence, this episode is a must-listen! If you're ready to change your dating life, message Smart Dating Academy today through its website at www.smartdatingacademy.com


    Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.

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    39 m
  • 155: Finding Love After Heartbreak: Expert Date Coaching Tips to Rebuild, Attract, and Thrive

    155: Finding Love After Heartbreak: Expert Date Coaching Tips to Rebuild, Attract, and Thrive
    Feb 24 2025
    In this heart-opening episode, I sit down with the incredible Shelley J Whitehead—a highly sought-after relationship coach who has spent decades helping people heal from heartbreak, refine their relationship skills, and build the love lives they truly deserve.
    We talked about:

    • How to move forward after heartbreak—the key mindset shifts that will help you heal and open your heart again.

    • Breaking free from past patterns—how to recognize and release relationship habits that no longer serve you.

    • Building confidence in dating—simple but powerful strategies to show up as your best, most authentic self.

    • Navigating the dating world with clarity—how to identify red flags, green flags, and make empowered choices in love.

    • Shelley’s expert advice on attracting the right partner—why self-love is the foundation for a thriving relationship.

    If you’ve ever felt like love has passed you by or that you keep attracting the wrong people, this episode is for you! Shelley shares her wisdom with warmth, humor, and deep insight, making this conversation a must-listen for anyone ready to embrace love again.

    Listen now and take the first step toward the love life you deserve!



    Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.

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    50 m
  • 154: Improve Your Dating Confidence, Etiquette and First Impressions

    154: Improve Your Dating Confidence, Etiquette and First Impressions
    Feb 10 2025
    In this captivating episode, I sit down with the incredible Sara Jane Ho—an international etiquette expert, Emmy-nominated host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, and author of the book of the same name.

    From her early days in Hong Kong to earning degrees from Exeter, Georgetown, and Harvard Business School, Sara brings a wealth of wisdom and charm to the table. Together, we dive into the art of dating with grace, confidence, and authenticity—and why etiquette is about so much more than just which fork to use!

    We talked about:

    • Why etiquette matters in modern dating. Sara shares her unique perspective on how understanding etiquette can help you foster deeper, more meaningful connections. Spoiler: It's not about being stuffy or old-fashioned—it’s about being thoughtful and authentic.
    • Practical tips for first dates that set you apart. Learn Sara’s go-to advice for making a stellar first impression—from body language to choosing the perfect setting.
    • How to handle rejection with elegance. Let’s face it, rejection is tough. But Sara gives us actionable advice for navigating it with confidence and class, so you come out stronger on the other side.
    • Building self-awareness and confidence. Sara opens up about her own journey and how she’s learned to balance vulnerability with strength. Her story is a testament to the power of self-discovery and self-respect.
    • The surprising link between etiquette and self-love. Did you know that treating others well starts with how you treat yourself? Sara explains how cultivating self-love and respect can transform not only your dating life but every relationship in your life.

    Tune in to this episode if you’re ready to elevate your dating game, embrace your most confident self, and learn how to "mind your manners" in the most empowering way possible!

    Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.

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    55 m
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