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Have you ever felt your heart racing, chest tightening, and hands shaking out of nowhere? Yesterday, that was me—ambushed by a full-blown panic attack while sitting at my desk. The irony wasn't lost on me—someone who helps others find courage, suddenly unable to breathe.

This raw, unfiltered episode dives deep into what panic attacks really are and why they happen. Your body isn't betraying you—it's desperately trying to communicate. When we stuff down emotions, live in constant fight-or-flight, or numb with busyness, food, or scrolling, our nervous systems eventually revolt. That panic isn't weakness; it's a signal that something needs attention.

I share exactly what helped me move through yesterday's attack—from focused breathing techniques to the power of simply sitting with discomfort instead of running from it. More importantly, we explore why treating just the symptoms never works. Real healing comes from pulling up the roots: asking yourself what you've been avoiding, where you're pretending to be fine when you're not, and what parts of yourself need to be heard rather than silenced.

For those moments when panic strikes, I offer five practical techniques that can help reset your nervous system, including the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method and why longer exhales biologically signal safety to your brain. Whether you're experiencing full panic attacks or just that constant hum of anxiety, this episode reminds you that you're not broken. Sometimes becoming whole requires breaking open first.

You can be bold and still break down. You can be brave and still have bad days. Courage isn't the absence of fear—it's what you do when fear shows up. If something here resonates, please share with someone who needs to hear they're not alone. Remember, you're not too far gone; you're just getting started.

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Have you ever wondered what might happen if you stopped letting your excuses run the show and started turning up the volume on your self-worth? For years, my excuses screamed while my sense of value barely whispered. It's a pattern that keeps so many of us trapped, shrinking in rooms where we should shine and holding our tongues when we have something valuable to say.

Those familiar excuses don't always sound like "I can't." They're sneakier, disguising themselves as reasonable thoughts: "It's not the right time" or "I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable." But beneath these seemingly logical statements lies an unspoken belief that we're not worth disrupting others' comfort for our own growth. The truth? Excuses are just fear wearing sophisticated camouflage – fear of failing, being seen, or breaking out of the roles we've always played.

Breaking free begins with brutal honesty. That excuse about not having time? It's really saying "I'm afraid to take up space in my own life." Claiming you're not ready translates to "I don't trust myself to follow through." The day everything changed for me was when my attorney said words that broke me wide open: "You hold the keys to your own handcuffs." I realized I'd been sitting in a prison with open doors, waiting for permission to walk out, waiting to feel ready when deep down, I knew I never would. So I moved – scared and messy – and discovered that none of the catastrophic fears holding me hostage came true. Instead, I found peace, clarity, and myself. Your excuses will always offer comfort, but your self-worth will give you freedom. What one thing will you do today to prove to yourself that you matter? Share this episode with someone who needs to remove their own handcuffs and subscribe so you never miss a moment of empowerment.

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Have you ever caught yourself saying "I should be more organized" or "Why can't I be better at this?" For years, I was trapped in the same cycle—trying to fix things that weren't broken instead of embracing what already worked naturally. The turning point came when I finally gave myself permission to admit what I wasn't good at.

This episode dives deep into the liberating power of owning both your strengths and weaknesses. We explore the dangerous lie that we must be good at everything to be valuable, and how that pursuit of "well-roundedness" can actually dull your natural gifts. When you dilute your strengths just to cover your weaknesses, you don't become better—you become blurred.

I'll share my personal journey of both what I excel at (taking action without overthinking, encouraging others, storytelling) and what I struggle with (organization, logistics, crafts). More importantly, I'll walk you through a practical five-step process to identify where you're naturally gifted, recognize what's draining your energy, and build systems that leverage your strengths while supporting your gaps. You'll learn the crucial difference between healthy self-awareness and using your limitations as excuses to stay stuck.

Ready to stop spinning your wheels trying to be balanced in everything and start being brilliant in your own lane? Grab a pen, pull up a chair, and prepare to transform how you view your capabilities. Remember: you were never meant to be everything, but you were always meant to be impactful. Your unique strengths are waiting to be fully embraced!

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Have you ever been paralyzed by that voice in your head screaming that you're not enough? That familiar heaviness that makes you question everything you're doing? You're far from alone. This raw, unfiltered conversation dives into what it truly takes to move forward when self-doubt is riding shotgun.

Confidence doesn't appear before action—it's built through the messy, imperfect moments when we choose to show up anyway. Through personal stories of awkward firsts and uncomfortable growth, we explore how real confidence isn't handed to us but earned through keeping promises to ourselves. The truth is, our brains are wired for safety, not growth, which explains why they fight so hard against the vulnerability that comes with putting ourselves out there.

What if the win isn't in the perfect outcome but in the brave choice to begin? What if success actually requires being willing to be embarrassed, misunderstood, and seen trying before you're ready? This episode challenges the notion that we need to feel confident before taking action, offering practical strategies like starting a "proof journal" to document your courage. Whether you're feeling stuck, uninspired, or buried under the weight of perfectionism, this conversation offers a permission slip to embrace the messiness of growth and recognize that every awkward step forward is actually building something powerful—trust in yourself. Your purpose isn't to be perfect; it's to serve through your authentic, brave, messy humanity.

Ready to stop waiting for permission and start building real confidence? Listen now, and remember: be bold, be brave, and know that I believe in you.

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Have you ever reacted so intensely to someone sneaking up behind you that people laughed or told you to "calm down"? That hypersensitive startle reflex isn't an overreaction—it's your body's trauma response working exactly as designed.

Drawing from personal experience, I dive deep into why certain "harmless pranks" can trigger full-blown nervous system meltdowns for people with trauma histories. When someone with PTSD jumps at a small noise or unexpected touch, their body isn't just being jumpy—it's reliving past danger. The science is clear: trauma doesn't just live in our memories; it's encoded in our physiology, creating a hypervigilant state that keeps us constantly scanning for threats.

What most people don't see is the aftermath—the racing heart that won't slow down, the tightness in the chest, the shaking hands, and the hours it takes to truly recover from what others dismiss as "just a joke." I share five practical, science-backed techniques to help regulate your nervous system after being triggered, from intentional breathing patterns to grounding exercises that bring you back to the present moment. For those who love someone with trauma, simple adjustments like announcing yourself before entering a room can make a world of difference in helping them feel safe.

This episode goes beyond just understanding reactions—it's about creating environments where healing can happen. Because respecting someone's trauma responses isn't about being overly sensitive; it's about basic human kindness and valuing their healing journey more than a momentary laugh. Share this with someone who needs to hear it, and remember: your reactions aren't wrong—they're your body trying to keep you safe.

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Have you ever felt completely drained after certain conversations or interactions? That pit in your stomach when specific names appear on your phone? You're not alone. Today's powerful conversation tackles one of life's most challenging yet liberating lessons: protecting your energy isn't selfish—it's essential self-respect.

Drawing from my personal journey as a recovering codependent, I share the transformative moment sitting in my car after yet another depleting interaction when I realized I was betraying myself by constantly overextending for others. We've been sold the false narrative that being constantly available makes us good people, when in reality, it often leads to resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection from our authentic selves.

This episode offers practical guidance on identifying your energy leaks, setting boundaries without guilt, and handling the inevitable pushback when you start prioritizing your wellbeing. Learn the difference between healthy boundaries (filters, not walls) and using "protecting my energy" as an excuse to avoid growth. Discover why simple phrases like "That doesn't work for me" require no further explanation, and why not everyone deserves unlimited access to your life.

The most valuable lesson? Boundaries should make you feel lighter, not smaller. Your energy determines how much of yourself you get to keep—and you're absolutely worth keeping. Whether you're struggling with people-pleasing tendencies or simply feeling overwhelmed, this episode provides the permission and practical tools to reclaim your peace. Save this episode, share it with friends who need this message, and subscribe so you don't miss our ongoing conversation about authentic growth and courage.

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Have you ever felt that heart-pounding, palm-sweating sensation when facing something that scares you? That feeling that whispers "who do you think you are?" right when you're about to take a risk? Welcome to the debut episode of She Lost It, where we dive deep into understanding how fear works as our compass, not our stop sign.

Standing in front of the mirror four years ago, I barely recognized myself. Years of people-pleasing and playing small had buried my dreams under layers of self-doubt and worry about others' opinions. But that day, something shifted. Not because I suddenly became brave – I was terrified – but because a tiny voice whispered: "What if you try anyway?"

This podcast was born from that question. Recording this first episode with shaking hands and a nervous stomach, I'm sharing the revelation that transformed my relationship with fear: you don't overcome fear before taking action; you develop courage because of action. Fear isn't the problem; staying stuck because of it is.

Through personal stories and practical strategies – from naming your specific fears to celebrating imperfect progress – we explore how to break free from paralysis. I share the seven words that became my mantra ("Feel the fear and build it anyway") and offer three powerful techniques to move forward despite uncertainty. When that microphone appeared under my Christmas tree with the note "Everything is a dream until you make it real," I knew it was time to stop running.

Whether you're contemplating a career change, a difficult conversation, or any dream that won't leave you alone, this episode offers a compassionate nudge toward that first step. Subscribe to join our community of courageous builders who are learning to recognize fear not as the enemy, but as an invitation to grow beyond what we thought possible.

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Ever wondered why you can't stop at just one bite, even when you promised yourself you would? The answer might be more complex than lacking willpower.

Food addiction is the socially acceptable dependency no one wants to acknowledge. Ultra-processed foods trigger the same dopamine pathways as addictive substances, creating powerful neurological responses that feel impossible to resist. For those with ADHD, anxiety disorders, or trauma histories, these effects are even more pronounced—our brains are literally wired differently, setting us up for struggles that diet culture simplifies as "just eat less."

After years trapped in the exhausting binge-restrict cycle—emotional trigger, mindless eating, crushing shame, extreme restriction, repeat—I discovered that breaking free required healing, not dieting. By addressing the underlying neurological and emotional drivers, finding alternative dopamine sources, and confronting the shame that perpetuated my cycles, I finally found a sustainable path forward.

The most challenging aspect of food addiction? Unlike other substances, we can't simply abstain. We must learn to coexist with our "drug of choice" while society continues pushing it on us at every turn. Those well-meaning "food pushers" who insist "just one won't hurt" don't realize they're essentially telling a recovering addict to "just have one hit." Setting boundaries around food isn't about deprivation—it's about protecting your healing.

If any of this resonates with you, please know you're not broken. Your brain is responding exactly as it was designed to, especially if you're navigating ADHD, anxiety, or past trauma. Freedom is possible when you approach recovery with curiosity instead of judgment, find healthier dopamine sources, and reach out for support. Subscribe to continue this conversation—because talking about the hard things is how we heal.