This week, I'm sharing why generous effort can still miss the mark and how a simple meaning check turns intention into real connection. Practical scripts, everyday examples, and a clear path to feel loved without guesswork.

• early chemistry fading into real differences
• clashing stories and nervous system triggers
• feeling unloved versus being unloved
• problem solving versus emotional presence
• love as subjective; unique blueprints
• five love languages as a starting point
• the meaning check skill and script
• starting small and scaling to bigger topics
• appreciation to reinforce what works
• monthly reset to review what lands

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In this interview with Dana Che, we break the myth that happy couples don’t fight and show how conflict, handled well, can deepen intimacy. We share mindset shifts, practical language, and simple steps to move from defensiveness to understanding.

• redefining conflict as a growth path
• the costs of avoidance and silent treatment
• modern marriage and renegotiating roles
• separating facts from feelings and stories
• understanding over agreement as the goal
• curiosity and vulnerability as a creation formula
• practical I statements and safer starts
• building trust to share real fears
• how to be genuinely curious, not performative
• scripts and next steps for tough talks

Check out Dana's new book here: Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples, https://TriedAndTrueMarriageBook.com

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Today, I'm talking about how boundaries are a loving skill that prevents resentment and creates safety, respect, and passion. Clear, simple steps show how to set limits without threats, using everyday examples and a weekly challenge to practice.

• emotional regulation steps that precede boundary setting
• common end-of-life regrets linked to people pleasing
• redefining boundaries as self-care rather than control
• how resentment replaces intimacy without clear limits
• the mesh analogy: connected and protected
• the sock example as a practical boundary script
• structure: if or when X, I will Y
• choosing action over explanation to reduce conflict
• setting boundaries for tone, volume, and time protection
• weekly challenge to pick one recurring frustration

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Let me know what healthy boundaries you are setting this week. If you have questions about healthy boundaries, email me at: moni@monicatanner.com.

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