Episodios

  • 39 – Abuse and Survival with Dr. Sandra Speer – Ph.D., CLC, CDRC – Legal Advocate, & Survivor at Lifeanswers
    Sep 15 2021
    ANNOUNCMENTS FAN-PAC EVENT - HELP IS HERE! MORE SUCCESS STORIES AND SOLUTION-BASED INTERVENTIONS TO MEND BROKEN FAMILY BONDS Thursday, September 23, 2021 6:30 PM  9:00 PM Zoom (map) Google Calendar  ICS LINK TO REGISTER LINK TO ASK QUESTIONS OF PRESENTER NEW MERCHANDISE - CLICK ON HOODIE TO SEE MORE STYLES   DR SANDRA SPEER As a survivor of almost a lifetime of most forms of abuse, I pledged to use all that I learn in life to help others one day.  At that time, I was 17 with little knowledge of who my actual abusers were or how severely they had hurt me.  At that time, I only thought I was suffering from childhood rape. With God as my only guide, I survived the many threats to my life and physical health.  Today, as a survivor, I ask God to continue to watch over me and give me the strength to continue overcoming chronic illnesses and injuries to reach my life's goal of helping survivors of trauma. On February 20, 2018, I was thrown out of my protected world to realize that my mother had emotionally and physically abused me since birth.  I had dissociated most of my life.  I will define dissociation and explain why it protects many victims.    On that day in 2018, she chose to beat me with no mercy.  Again, God was guiding my way because I knew not to retaliate.  Often, reactive abuse causes many victims to become blamed for the abuse.  No abuser is worth a jail sentence or further injury of any type.  Today, I share with survivors valuable recovery techniques that help them become strong enough within themselves to not react to their abusers. Because I was also emotionally abused and neglected by my father, a Child/Family Psychologist(Therapist), I understand how abusive practitioners can be toward victims and survivors.  The practitioners who I am referring to include attorneys, judges, medical doctors, etc.  There is such a thing as Legal/System Abuse Syndrome, which exhibits the same symptoms as PTSD, which develops from being abused by practitioners that a survivor turns to for assistance. A) Initially, I will talk about the symptoms and why the syndrome occurs B) The talk regarding the syndrome will lead into the discussion of Parental Alienation (PA). I will: define PA talk about the symptoms of PA in children why PA is misinterpreted why so many high conflict divorces that include children are intertwined with PA what tends to cause wrong PA rulings in the courts Yes, it is possible to win, and I will discuss some of the ways of winning The next segment of my discussion will detail how people are treated if they fall under review of a Department of Children & Families (DCF) Why are so many children wrongly taken from their parents Yes, the system can be coped with-Parents can be reunited with their children Last but not least, I will talk about what a person, even if they are a survivor, can do to ensure not partnering with an abuser. What are the red flags How do you become strong enough to cope if you do have to walk away from an abuser Anyone can become brainwashed by an abuser, which is why you should educate yourself In closing, I want to say that I am living the dreams that carried me through the years.  As a Legal Advocate, not an attorney, I work with my clients throughout their cases until they win.   I assist with whatever it takes to achieve our goals.  Because I am not an attorney, there are no legal limits to whom I can approach for assistance.  I also help my clients emotionally become strong enough to fight their abuser without becoming accused of being a Narcissist or Parent Alienator. As a Life Coach, I offer "Unstick Yourself" seminars, workshops, and individual coaching.  I have 30+ years working with Domestic Violence (DV) coupled with a Ph.D., being a published author, motivational speaker, and ex broadcaster.  And, possibly the most important part of my past is that I am a survivor of almost all forms of abuse from birth. I understand what my clients are experiencing.
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  • 2021 03 17 – Re-play of FAN-PAC Legal Symposium
    Mar 18 2021
    https://youtu.be/kkcb9_ifbwM On March 5th, 2021 FAN-PAC of New Jersey (www.fanpacnj.org/donate) held a legal symposium followed by a question and answer session with Attorney Steven M. Resnick, Esq., a partner at Ziegler, Resnick & Epstein. He is a matrimonial and family lawyer and one of New Jersey’s trailblazing practitioners in custody matters and the area of parental alienation. A highly skilled litigator, Mr. Resnick handles all aspects of matrimonial and family law relating to divorce, equitable distribution, palimony, annulment, high net worth, pre-nuptial and post-nuptial agreements, business valuations, real estate, domestic violence, custody and visitation, paternity, estate/will contests, judgment/agreement modification, appeals, N.J. Supreme Court maters, trial, and case second opinions, among others. Mr. Resnick has also served as co-counsel for numerous out-of-state matters. Mr. Resnick recently broke new legal ground in New Jersey on the subject of parental alienation and has argued before the Appellate Division of New Jersey and New Jersey Supreme Court on many other matrimonial and family law issues, as well. Below are the questions from the Q&A period. If you have a question about this event please reach out to joeg@savingfatherhood.org. If you are interested in learning more about FAN PAC or supporting their efforts please use the following links. https://www.fanpacnj.org/donate https://www.fanpacnj.org/join https://www.fanpacnj.org/volunteer My case and many others in New Jersey would indicate the family court system has failed to meet its obligation as noted in 9:2-4, 'The Legislature finds and declares that it is in the public policy of this State to assure minor children of frequent and continuing contact with both parents after the parents have separated or dissolved their marriage and that it is in the public interest to encourage parents to share the rights and responsibilities of child rearing' In your opinion, is the family court functioning as it should in high conflict custody cases?   If so please discuss how?  If not, what does the system need to meet this objective?   It cost me $230k in legal fees to defend my right and obligation to maintain a relationship and support my children.  Once the money ran out so did my lawyer.  Is a lawyers job only to vigorously defend me when there is money? What are the professional conflicts a family law attorney must weigh?  Is a lawyer an officer of the court first? Then represent their clients interests?   Do family court judges have too much discretion? How can I get a court order enforced? I have been trying to for years but, they run me around in an expensive circle. Can you sue the court /judge for PTSD Associated with alienation and numerous years of abuse during trial? "January 1, 2018 my ex and I are divorced (vanilla - almost 50/50 & no mention of abuse). June, 2018 my ex is interviewed. The night prior, I am told by our son; ""Dad, you would lie if it meant more money for your family, right?""My ex received $10k to say ""I abused her and my kids"". I have a liable/slander case against the corporation whom paid her and posted my kids pics on their website.My question: when & if my ex or my kids claim ""abuse""; isn't that perjury as she is going directly against the court case she file and agreed upon in our divorce/custody case? " Parties commit perjury. Attorneys conspire with the other side. Judges ignore the law. People injured by this conduct have no remedy, because it's all "absolutely privileged". If you even TRY to sue somebody for this stuff, YOU will be sanctioned severely. The predictable result is relentless dishonesty in every single case of which I am aware, which cases number in the dozens. Mr. Resnick, isn't placing wrongdoers above the law the problem here? "Your bio reads that you “recently broke new legal ground in New Jersey on the subject of parental alienation and has a...
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  • 2021 03 04 – Weekly Hopecast for Broken Families
    Mar 4 2021
    March 4th, 2021 – THE SAVING FATHERHOOD – WEEKLY HOPECAST FIRST ANNOUNCEMENT I want to personally invite each and every one of you to a ZOOM event this Friday March 5th at 7pm.  FAN-PAC is New Jersey’s Family Advocate Network – A Political Action committee with a mission to advocate for reforms in the family court that protect the interests of children and families in the state of New Jersey.  This Friday this online event will feature an attorney Steven M. Resnick, Esq.  who among other areas of family law promotes his experience in the area of parental alienation?  Submit questions ahead of time – herefanpacofnj@gmail.comLive question and answer periodRegister in advance for zoom credentialshttps://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAuce6trTwoHN0oXTfZHOhSSPsx8gaxKq5m?mc_cid=7cfd08dedb&mc_eid=53479cb507  SECOND ANNOUNCEMENT Breakfast with Bacon – airing on AM 1110 WKQASAVING FATHERHOOD WILL BE ON THIS SHOW ON MARCH 26TH Radio Host of Breakfast with Bacon: The Relationship Doctor Fridays from 11:00 until noon on AM1110 WKQA Website: www.drchristinebacon.com/Facebook: www.facebook.com/BreakfastWithBacon/Radio show: www.breakfastwithbacon.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/drchristinebaconOrder:  "Super Couple" book on AmazonParler: @DrChristineBaconTwitter: @BreakfastwBaconInstagram: BreakfastwithBacon THIRD ANNOUNCEMENT Clean Law Union Podcast – A NEW PODCAST HOST – JOE GORMLEY https://www.cleanlawunion.com/shows I meet many alienated parents and victims of broken families and they all ask the same question.  They say “How long, oh Lord”?  But they leave out the Lord part.  “How long, oh Lord” is a common question in the psalms and all over scripture – Psalm 13:1, 79:5, 89:46, 94:3, 6:3, 35:17, and there are many more places in scripture lamenting the same desire for rescue from many things.  I think the cry from broken families is best described in Psalm 94:3 which says            3       O LORD, how long shall the wicked, how long shall the wicked exult? But who are the wicked?  Who are we calling upon the Lord to crush on our behalf?  Is it our ex-wife or husband?  Is it the person we are still married to who is dragging us through the courts?   Is it a judge, an attorney or a psychologist, that we blame for our problems?  Is it a politician or a political party that deserves our wrath and by extension, God’s wrath?  We may reason that if God were just he would promptly strike down our enemies because of their ongoing, unrepentant sin. The problem with these theories is it ignores what Scripture teaches us about sin, God’s holiness, and how he handles evil.  There is no doubt that the alienated parent’s cause is just.  When the alienated parent cries out because their child has been taken from them either physically or emotionally it is not a cry that goes unheard by our creator.  When scripture asks “How long, oh Lord”?  the assumption is never that God doesn’t hear these cries, nor is he ambivalent.  The question is when will this sin be punished?  When will justice prevail?  Do you believe this is true?  Do you believe that God is just and he has a plan to destroy evil?  Or do you still wonder if this is true?  Do you doubt God’s love or his control of the situation?  These are the two most important things, and they are often the biggest reasons for doubt.  God loves you and he’s in complete control.  Don’t worry, he’s got this.  But if he’s in control, capable, completely sovereign over all creation, you may ask then, why?  Why doesn’t he crush all that is evil right now?  Why does he wait?   Because of the second premise.  He loves you.  And you are evil. Christians know this is true, King David who wrote most of the psalms knew this was true.  He had no doubt that he was guilty of evil acts, but God loved his repentant heart.  He cherished this man who struggled with his sin and called out for forgiveness.  God does not crush all evil because he is waitin...
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  • 38 – Preview of the December 4th FAN PAC – Parental Alienation Event.
    Dec 4 2020
    Tonight your Saving Fatherhood host speaks with Julie "X" attorney at large, a certified mediator and family court reform advocate with mediation experience in the New Jersey family court system. Julie is a member of FAN PAC - Family Advocate Network - Political Action Committee.This is a two part discussion discussing FAN-PAC event on December 4th at 7 PM. Please register on the FAN PAC website - Speaker 1 - DR. LYNN STEINBERG, PH.D. (Parental Alienation)Speaker 2 - DR. JEFF GARDERE, PH.D. - AMERICA'S PSYCHOLOGIST (PTSD - Family Systems)Q&A Session - the majority of the event.https://www.fanpacnj.org/events Benefits of membership in FAN-PAC - Legislative initiatives Show mentions - Dr. Miller and this link was discussed. http://savingfatherhood.org/7-minutes-to-understand-parental-alienation/
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  • 37 – PRESUMED GUILTY – An appeal to North Carolina Governor Roy Cooper to save a family from being destroyed.
    Aug 16 2020
    Homeless children not allowed to speak with father in North Carolina.
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  • 36 – Family Law 2.0 with Aaron Wemple
    Aug 4 2020
    Today's episode is a conversation wtih Aaron Wemple, founder of Clean Law a new way to navigate family courts.You can purchase Aaron's book on Amazon - HERE. or directly from the CleanLaw.Today website. About today's guest Aaron WempleAaron W. Wemple is an author, social entrepreneur at Clean Law, and co-founder of CLU family trial research and support group.           As an entrepreneur, Aaron’s venture Clean Law started off with the dream of every child having a family. So, his team went to work developing a safer private network (SPN), which includes a child safety file system, or what’s called Family Law 2.0. And to accomplish the goal of every child having a family, the company donates all proceeds from product licensing Family Law 2.0 to CLU parents who are in desperate need of a right to be represented in classical family law courts when they are indigent, a right to bail policy when accusations are made, and encouragement to bear their own family sustainability crosses. Especially when they’re unwillingly involved in decades of divorce protocols. Clean Law provides a safer experience for families through military deployments, quarantines, divorce, and other life-altering trials.           Clean Law is grateful for many achievements, including: Provided free community resourcesRewarding family connection-keeping milestones“My Lead Style” smartphone appSeven books on AmazonNumerous TV interviews, speaking engagements, and articles           published in other professional publications.            Before devoting his life to Christ and their vision of Clean Law, Aaron served as the facility administrator of the Old King’s Orchard Community Center in Decatur, IL, a co-founder of Clean Law Union (CLU) family trial group, and a member of Sheet Metal Workers Union. He teaches the Bible at Water Street Mission homeless shelter and writes grants for Decatur Cares Rescue Missions.           Aaron has an education in electrical engineering and psychology, which turned out to be a perfect blend for his product. Now their peer-to-peer team makes clean law & clarity for improved peace of mind and next-generation safety.
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  • 35 – Custody Denied! – the movie
    May 14 2020
    MARYANN PETRI, author of the new book called, “Dismantling Family Court Corruption.” Subtitle, Why taking the Kids was not enough. SHOW NOTES! False allegations which brought her into this mess.The family court motive was to take away the kids (motive is child support)a. They didn’t want to hear about thatb. Couldn’t work being around kids.c. Can’t work no money.Debtors prison!Heart Attack 5 months later.a. Wouldn’t adjust child support.Canadian Film producer to make a movie about the book!Are Narcissists irredeemable? Female version of Job?Pennsylvania HB 1397 - In favor of 50/50 shared parenting Are you in favor of equal shared parenting?Was the bill written properly in your opinion?Accountability for Judges. LINKS Please visit https://dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com To purchase the book - https://dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com/shop or go to Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Dismantling-Family-Court-Corruption-Taking/dp/1648718361/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3NB9L9X7KQD33&dchild=1&keywords=dismantling+family+court+corruption&qid=1589418698&sprefix=Disman%2Caps%2C153&sr=8-1 Source book for the proposed movie - Custody Denied!
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  • 34 Will Tyranny bring Compassion to Family Court Victims?
    May 7 2020
    On the back of my Saving Fatherhood business cards is the verse Genesis 50:20. It’s a great verse for anyone who has suffered and wondered, "has God abandoned me?". We all need hope, especially when trials are long. We pray for God to lighten our burdens and if we look for comfort everywhere. Sometimes it may be easier to accept the idea that God is punishing us. But that’s not necessarily true. Sure when we sin we may be choosing to inflict suffering upon ourselves but God is merciful and long suffering. He gives us warnings to stay away from sin to help us not to suffer. But as the sovereign Lord of all creation he certainly could step in but sometimes he doesn’t. Reading about the story of Joseph in Genesis 50:20 points us to an instance when God used suffering for good. The verse reads: 20 As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people[a] should be kept alive, as they are today. This is the story of Joseph and the trials he had to go thru were significant. First his brothers tried to kill him but they decided to spare his life when one of the brothers suggested profiting off of Joseph by selling him into slavery. As a slave he was falsely accused of trying to rape his Master’s wife. So off to prison he went. He spent at least 2 years in prison and another 11 years in slavery. But God did rescue him and without ruining the story he became a very powerful man in Egypt. When famine came throughout the region his brothers came to buy food and Joseph was there to meet them, in a position to help them or deny them. Joseph saw God’s hand at work to help his family to survive. That’s when Joseph said what is written in Genesis 50:20 to his brothers. 20 As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people[a] should be kept alive, as they are today. Now it was not easy for Joseph. You need to read the details. He struggled with anger and bitterness, but He knew that God is sovereign and faithful. Now while we don’t always see what God is doing we can trust that he’s doing something. As I look at this current crisis, I see a lot of other people suffering because they lost their rights. I wonder if the tyranny people are experiencing will be used for good. Will this tyranny bring compassion for family court victims? Last Tuesday on April 28th, 2002 I drove north to Trenton, NJ to participate in a rally outside of the Trenton War Memorial Building. The event coincided with Governor Phil Murphy’s address to the state. After that rally and another rally, King Murphy decided to open up some state parks, beaches and golf courses but they he changed his mind and closed some as well. There is also another rally tomorrow Thursday, May 7th1:00 PM - 03:00 PMSee map[May 7, 2020, 137 W State Street, Trenton, NJ 08608 FOR MORE INFO - opennj2020@gmail.com Now my intention was not just to be a protestor although I feel very strongly that we need to open New Jersey immediately. If you are a family court victim fighting for your rights I can’t understand why you would not support freedom unless you are scared, and as a Christian I realize I need to respect your views while I make cogent arguments to persuade you that we can’t love our neighbor by trying to control our neighbors. My intention was to interview other protestors to find out what they know about family courts and to help these people realize that before New Jersey took their Constitutional Rights they practiced on Family Court Victims.I understand that I may lose some of you that are passionate about keeping everyone at home. You may have a legitimate fear that could be out of compassion for a loved one who is high risk. So please don’t hear what I’m not saying. We need to care for those people who are high risk.Regardless, our fears do not allow us to violate the rights of others. Our fears do not allow us to prevent others from exerci...
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