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What if self-doubt isn't something to overcome, but rather a clue guiding us toward deeper self-understanding? In this transformative conversation, we're joined by leadership expert and Harley rider Pamela Say, who shares her journey of unlearning limiting beliefs and discovering authentic contentment.

Pamela introduces a powerful perspective: from birth, we absorb messages from others that shape our beliefs about ourselves and our capabilities. By adulthood, these inherited narratives feel like truth. The key to freedom? Embarking on what she calls "the greatest journey of my whole life" – the rigorous process of unlearning toxic messaging to discover who we truly are beneath it all.

The discussion takes unexpected turns as we explore how riding a 700-pound Harley motorcycle became Pamela's metaphor for freedom and presence. Once terrified of public speaking to the point of physical distress, she shares the technique she uses to transform this fear into confidence. Our hosts vulnerably share their own experiences with self-doubt, from career transitions to medical procedures and parenting insecurities.

We examine whether popular terms like "imposter syndrome" help us grow or keep us stuck, and dive into practical strategies for moving through fear: preparation, visualization, reframing anxiety as excitement, and perhaps most importantly, practicing radical self-compassion.

Whether you're facing a significant challenge or simply tired of the voice in your head questioning your worth, this episode offers both comfort and actionable insights. Join us to discover how connecting with others and questioning inherited beliefs can lead to the most authentic version of yourself – and why none of us would ever want to be 20 again!

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