Many high-functioning women feel unexpected guilt when life starts to feel calm, enjoyable, or easy. In this episode, I explore hedonic guilt, nervous system conditioning, and why pleasure can feel unsafe after years of survival, self-abandonment, or changing your relationship with alcohol.

This is not a mindset problem, it’s a biological and emotional recalibration. If you’ve ever struggled to relax, enjoy success, or let things be easy, this conversation will resonate.

If you are a high-functioning woman in midlife who is ready to make permanent changes to her relationship with alcohol, start here:

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The way that women treat themselves with alcohol is often reflected in their relationships, too! Evidence shows that some men rely on us having low-self-esteem so we can take the blame for everything wrong with them and their lives.

So what happens when we start our healing?? We've got years of reprogramming to sort through, and how are we supposed to act around people who prefer us to be slightly less of ourselves?

We get personal in this one... hope you like crying!

In this episode, Kinga breaks down a truth that high-functioning women feel but rarely say out loud:

You’re not going to change your drinking in a room where you don’t belong.

If you’ve ever walked into AA, treatment, or a mixed-support group and instantly felt like:

• “These aren’t my people…”

• “I’m too privileged to talk here…”

• “I don’t relate to any of this…”

• “I feel like I have to tone myself down…”

— this episode will hit you right in the solar plexus.

Kinga explains why your recovery accelerates when you’re surrounded by women who live similar lives, face similar pressures, and understand the emotional and social realities behind your drinking — not just alcohol in general.

This is a permission slip to stop forcing yourself into rooms that were never built for you.

In The Self-Control Solution™, Kinga vets every woman and curates the group intentionally so you’re surrounded by peers who get your lifestyle, your pressure, your habits, your emotional load, and your version of “functioning.”

If you want to change your drinking with women who actually understand you, start with the Free Masterclass:

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Why is it so hard for women to change their relationships with alcohol? Could be the dopamine! Many of us -- especially if we have ADHD symptoms -- have a painful time changing various behaviours, not just with alcohol, but with relationships, too. Let's deep dive into why, and what to do about it so it's not so painful for you! If you are ready to make some changes and possible work together, start here!https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

Midlife hormones, old family patterns, and a wine-o’clock culture—no wonder so many smart women feel like they’re fighting on three fronts. In this episode, I break down the biopsychosocial model the way Gabor Maté teaches it: how your biology, psychology, and social world team up to create (and heal) alcohol habits. I pull back the curtain on my own story—grief, over-functioning, 3 a.m. wake-ups, all of it—and give you practical, low-drama tools to calm your body, rewrite old scripts, and choose real relief.Listen if you’re ready to see drinking through a wider lens—and start changing it without white-knuckling your way through.And if you're ready to start making important changes to your own drinking, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

This one is messy, friends. 🫠 I ran into that ex at a festival—yes, the five-year, break-up-make-up disaster—and guess who he was with? Let’s just say my intuition has been screaming for years, and this weekend it brought the receipts.

In this episode, I unpack the difference between paranoia and intuition, how denial gaslights us harder than any toxic man ever could, and why your gut is always right—even when you wish it wasn’t. We’ll talk ex drama, and how the same denial/intuition tug-of-war shows up with drinking, friendships, and work.

⚠️ Disclaimer: The stories shared here are my personal experiences and reflections. Details have been blurred or changed to protect privacy—but the lessons are real, and maybe a little too relatable.

If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s your anxiety talking or your intuition whispering the truth…this episode is your sign.

In this special milestone episode, I’m celebrating 13 years sober by sharing 13 things I’ve learned along the way — the gritty, funny, sometimes painful truths about life without alcohol. From learning that willpower was never the answer, to discovering that real joy doesn’t come in a wine glass, these are the lessons that changed everything for me.

If you're ready to make these changes to your drinking, too, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

You’ve been told you have a drinking problem. But what if the problem isn’t the drinking at all? In this episode of Recovering from Everything, I break down why self-control and willpower aren’t the issue—and why the real culprit is the story you’ve been telling yourself.As always, if you're ready for some beautiful changes, start with the Free Masterclass, get to know who I work with and how I work with them, and if it aligns, feel free to book a time to chat with me about possibly moving forward together. https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register