Many high-functioning women feel unexpected guilt when life starts to feel calm, enjoyable, or easy. In this episode, I explore hedonic guilt, nervous system conditioning, and why pleasure can feel unsafe after years of survival, self-abandonment, or changing your relationship with alcohol.

This is not a mindset problem, it’s a biological and emotional recalibration. If you’ve ever struggled to relax, enjoy success, or let things be easy, this conversation will resonate.

If you are a high-functioning woman in midlife who is ready to make permanent changes to her relationship with alcohol, start here:

https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

The way that women treat themselves with alcohol is often reflected in their relationships, too! Evidence shows that some men rely on us having low-self-esteem so we can take the blame for everything wrong with them and their lives.

So what happens when we start our healing?? We've got years of reprogramming to sort through, and how are we supposed to act around people who prefer us to be slightly less of ourselves?

We get personal in this one... hope you like crying!

In this episode, Kinga breaks down a truth that high-functioning women feel but rarely say out loud:

You’re not going to change your drinking in a room where you don’t belong.

If you’ve ever walked into AA, treatment, or a mixed-support group and instantly felt like:

• “These aren’t my people…”

• “I’m too privileged to talk here…”

• “I don’t relate to any of this…”

• “I feel like I have to tone myself down…”

— this episode will hit you right in the solar plexus.

Kinga explains why your recovery accelerates when you’re surrounded by women who live similar lives, face similar pressures, and understand the emotional and social realities behind your drinking — not just alcohol in general.

This is a permission slip to stop forcing yourself into rooms that were never built for you.

In The Self-Control Solution™, Kinga vets every woman and curates the group intentionally so you’re surrounded by peers who get your lifestyle, your pressure, your habits, your emotional load, and your version of “functioning.”

If you want to change your drinking with women who actually understand you, start with the Free Masterclass:

https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register