Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the often taboo topic of erectile dysfunction, sexual performance anxiety, and the fear of being broken with guest Shay Doran. Shay, a coach who helps men overcome these issues, shares his personal journey and insights on why ED is rarely just about the body but more about mindset. They discuss the societal pressures and beliefs that contribute to performance anxiety, the impact on relationships, and the importance of seeking help.

Shay also explores the harmful cycle of quick fixes and the cultural differences in perceptions of masculinity and sexual performance. The episode emphasizes that these challenges are normal and that men aren't alone in their struggles.

00:00 The Influence of Porn on Sex Education
00:36 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Today's Topic
00:52 Meet Shay Doran: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety
01:43 Shay's Personal Journey with Performance Anxiety
04:24 The Root Causes of Performance Anxiety
06:31 The Performative Mindset and Its Impact
07:17 Distinguishing Between Medical and Mindset Issues
10:06 The Trap of Quick Fixes and Marketing Scams
13:10 The Importance of Seeking Help and Guidance
17:37 The Relational Impact of Erectile Dysfunction
20:31 Addressing the Elephant in the Room
21:11 Non-Judgmental Support and Communication
22:10 Working with Men on Performance Issues
23:19 Unique Challenges for Gay and Bi Men
25:43 Decoupling Masculine Identity from Sexual Performance
28:26 Common Aha Moments in Therapy
30:30 Cultural Differences in Masculinity and Performance Anxiety
32:01 Normalizing Sexual Performance Fluctuations
34:10 Impact of Porn on Sexual Performance
34:56 Connecting with Shay Doran
36:14 Beyond Sexual Performance: Living Authentically
38:28 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Shay
Shay Doran — https://shay-doran.com
YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:
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Navigating Grief with Gratitude: A Conversation with Steve Gamlin

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Steve Gamlin, known as the Motivational Firewood Guy. Steve shares his journey of grief and gratitude after losing his wife, Tina, in December 2024. The conversation delves deep into the process of living and creating with a broken heart, the power of visualization, and the impact of everyday kindness.

Steve also discusses the importance of authentic expression and being honest about where you are in life. This heartfelt discussion is both uplifting and profoundly human, providing insights into how to find strength and purpose amid profound loss.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Tragedy
00:41 Meet Steve Gamlin: The Motivational Firewood Guy
01:46 The Origin of Motivational Firewood
03:50 Understanding Visualization and Vision Boards
08:15 The Power of Everyday Kindness
14:02 Navigating Grief and Sharing the Journey
19:09 Personal Journey Through Grief
20:49 Rebuilding and Moving Forward
21:26 The Importance of Lived Experience
23:26 Honoring Tina Through Vision Boards
27:03 Daily Habits and Positivity
33:29 Future Relationships and Self-Discovery
35:32 Final Thoughts and Connection

Connect with Steve
Steve Gamlin — http://SteveGamlinSpeaker.com
Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/SteveGamlin
LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevegamlin/

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:
Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the
Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group
Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant
Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org
YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Breaking Down Barriers with the LezBro

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Aastha Lal, a lesbian coach who is transforming men's relationships by providing a safe, non-competitive, and non-judgmental space for growth. Aastha shares her journey in creating the LezBro, a coaching practice where men can explore vulnerability, emotional honesty, and mindfulness.

They discuss common challenges men face, such as reactivity and the need for connection, and highlight practical solutions through mindfulness and meditation. Aastha's unique approach bridges the divide in how men approach emotional openness and mental well-being, creating a ripple effect that benefits their relationships and communities.

Join Andy and Aastha as they dive deep into the importance of emotional safety and the unexpected benefits of having a lesbian coach for straight men.

00:00 Introduction: The Starvation for Connection
00:29 Meet the Guest: Aastha Lahl, The LezBro Coach
01:17 The Birth of LezBro: A Safe Space for Men
03:00 Common Reactions and Client Experiences
04:46 The Importance of Vulnerability and Mindfulness
09:43 Challenges Men Face: Emotions and Reactivity
12:38 Mindfulness in Practice: Real-Life Applications
17:12 Connection in Relationships: Single vs. Married Men
19:18 Outdated Masculinity and Emotional Expression
27:35 Practical Steps for Men: Starting the Journey
31:29 Conclusion: Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Aastha
TheLezBro — https://www.thelezbro.com/
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/the.lezbro/

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:
Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the
Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group
Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant
Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org
YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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