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This week, Chelsea steps away from their typical format to "try again" at a moment they’ve replayed for twenty years. At sixteen, Chelsea met their hero, Brandi Carlile, and was left stumbling over words, unable to express the profound impact of her music.

Now, in their late 30s, navigating life as a disabled, non-binary, and chronically ill parent, Chelsea uses this space to pen an open letter to the artist who has been the "steady hand" on their shoulder through every storm.

Chelsea reflects on how Brandi’s discography served as a lifeline during mental health mayhem, gender identity journeys, and the "pitch black void" of perinatal mental health struggles. From psychiatric hospitalizations to living room concerts with their "neuro-sparkly" children, Chelsea shares how specific songs like The Mother, The Joke, and The Story helped them navigate the specific shame and beauty of being a disabled mom.

This episode is a raw testament to the power of art to save a life hundreds of times over.

🗝️Key Takeaways

• The Impact of Art on Survival: Chelsea credits Brandi Carlile’s music as a primary reason they are "still breathing" after two decades of mental and physical health challenges.
• Navigating Disability and Motherhood: Being a disabled mom involves a "specific kind of mess" that requires relying on others to carry a load you wish you could carry yourself, often accompanied by heavy guilt and shame.
• Music as a Clinical Tool: Chelsea recounts singing lyrics softly at the suggestion of kind nurses to survive endless nights during psychiatric hospitalizations.
• Identity and Duality: Through their journey as a non-binary and queer individual, Chelsea found comfort in the idea that one can be "mainstream and a misfit at the same time".
• Vulnerability as Light: Instead of hiding "broken parts," Chelsea discusses learning that these vulnerabilities are what actually "let the light in".

💬Sound Bites

• "How do you tell a person in 30 seconds behind a merch table that they are the reason that you're still breathing?"
• "I've spent much of my life in a body that feels like a house on fire."
• "Being a disabled mom is a specific kind of mess. It means relying on everyone else to carry the load I wish I could carry."
• "Your music reminds me that right isn't a straight line."
• "Our stories don't mean anything if we've got no one to tell them to."

Links & Resources

• Music Highlight: The Mother by Brandi Carlile (A reflection on the mess and beauty of parenthood)
• Support Resource: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (988)

This episode discusses topics that may be triggering for some individuals. Please check the show notes for more information and be mindful of your own mental health and comfort levels.

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When Amy became a mom, she thought she had to “grin and bear it.” Instead, she found herself battling exhaustion, anxiety, and postpartum rage that left her terrified of her own reactions.

In this raw and compassionate conversation, Amy shares what it felt like to lose control, the turning point that led her to accept medication, and how she found her way back to herself. We also talk about cultural stigma, the importance of support networks, and why giving kids honest language around emotions matters.

Whether you’ve experienced postpartum rage yourself or love someone who has, this episode is a powerful reminder that naming our struggles is the first step to healing.

• Postpartum rage is common but often overlooked — and deserves recognition and support.
• Accepting medication is not failure; it can be a lifeline.
• Cultural attitudes toward mental health still impact how we seek help.
• Parenting without a “village” leaves many mothers isolated and vulnerable.
• Honest conversations with children about emotions help break generational cycles of silence.

• “I was terrified I was going to hurt my kids — and that’s when I knew I needed help.”
• “Taking Lexapro didn’t make me a failure. It made me a better mom, a better wife, and a better me.”
• “Most grown adults can’t handle their emotions — why do we expect parents to always hold it together?”
• “We all deserve at least one person we can fall apart with, snot bubbles and all, without judgment.”
• “Postpartum rage isn’t an official diagnosis, but it is very, very real.”

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From missing Thanksgiving and family parties to navigating the "reentry anxiety" of the holiday season, this episode explores the intentional boundaries Chelsea and their husband have set to protect their health while raising two "neuro-sparkly" children. It is a candid look at the intersection of parenting, disability, and the profound impact of simple acts of consideration from friends and community members.

🗝️Key Takeaways

• The High Stakes of Common Viruses: For those who are immune-compromised and chronically ill, a simple virus can result in weeks of total isolation and physical exhaustion.
• Adrenal Insufficiency & Steroid Stress: Chelsea details the "nightmare" of having to increase steroid intake to help their non-functioning pituitary gland fight infection, leading to intense physical and "ragey" symptoms.
  
  
• Medical PTSD Triggers: Being confined to bed due to illness can be deeply triggering for those with medical trauma, often mirroring the isolation of a difficult postpartum recovery.
• Leaning into the Village: Recovery requires a radical acceptance of help. Chelsea shares their journey of becoming better at asking for support from family and their husband for daily tasks they physically could not perform.
  
  
• Intentional Health Boundaries: Living as a chronically ill parent involves strict hygiene protocols, such as masking in specific settings, using hand sanitizer, and teaching kids about germ safety to limit exposure.
  
  
• The Impact of Consideration: Small gestures, like a friend proactively putting on a mask without being asked, can take a massive emotional weight off a chronically ill person's shoulders.

💬Sound Bites

• "A virus is a very different experience when you are immune-compromised... even the tiniest cold becomes this ridiculously long exile from my own life."
• "I had to up my steroids... which was its own nightmare of physical symptoms and ragey symptoms."
• "Anytime I am super sick and I can't leave my bed, it is incredibly triggering for me. I get flashbacks."
• "I'm still on day three of a horrible headache... since my pituitary tumor, I will get a migraine that'll usually last the day, then a lingering headache for three or four days."
• "When people take the initiative and don't get offended or don't even make it a thing... it takes a huge weight off my shoulders."

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Special Thanks to Steve Audy for the use of our theme song: Quiet Connection

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