Ever notice how love doesn’t usually fall apart with a bang…but with a quiet ugh?

A text that didn’t come. A plan that slipped. That weird moment where you realize you’re disappointed again and you don’t even know why.

In this episode, we talk about that feeling. The one that shows up when you’re doing your best to be chill, understanding, emotionally mature… and somehow still feeling unseen.

This isn’t a “lower your standards” talk. And it’s definitely not a “just be grateful” lecture.

We’re unpacking the invisible scorecards, unspoken expectations, and mental contracts we carry into relationships without realizing how much pressure they create for us and the people we love. Because when love starts feeling like a performance review, nobody wins.

Episode Resources

✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the protection pattern that turns expectations into disappointment.

✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the emotional habits that keep love feeling heavy instead of supportive.

In this episode, we explore:

✨ Why expectation often disguises itself as love

✨ How keeping score quietly drains connection

✨ The difference between appreciation and settling (yes, there is one)

✨ Why asking for what you need doesn’t make love less meaningful

✨ How to keep your standards without living in constant disappointment

If you’ve ever thought,

“Why do I feel disappointed when nothing is technically wrong?”

This episode won’t hand you a script but it will help you see what’s really happening beneath the surface.

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✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to unpack the expectations you’re carrying in love, understand where they come from, and learn how to ask for what you need without resentment or self-abandonment.

Connect with Me

🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com

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IG @sanaiyahgurnamal

@projectlovingmyselfpodcast

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Ever notice how overthinking feels like protection… until it quietly becomes the thing keeping you stuck?

The spirals.

The what-ifs.

The mental gymnastics that make love, decisions, and even joy feel heavier than they need to be.

In this episode, I sit down with Joelle Yuvienco, voice artist, events host, and the heart behind Paano Kung, a podcast that has become a refuge for overthinkers navigating love, life, and vulnerability. What unfolds is an honest conversation about emotional patterns, self-sabotage, shame, and the quiet courage it takes to choose yourself again, especially when certainty is nowhere to be found. Rather than fixing overthinking or rushing to clarity, this episode invites you to slow down and notice what your thoughts have been trying to protect you from, and what happens when you finally listen instead of running.

Episode Resources

✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the emotional pattern quietly influencing how you overthink, connect, and show up in love.

✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the unresolved emotional weight that keeps pulling you into the same relationship cycles.

✨ Connect with Joelle Yuvienco through her Paano Kung podcast on Spotify and follow her on Instagram at @joelleohwell.

In this episode, we explore:

✨ Why overthinking often comes from a desire to feel safe

✨ How shame and self-blame quietly shape our decisions in love

✨ What changes when you stop repeating patterns and start choosing differently

✨ The role vulnerability plays in healing and connection

✨ Why growth doesn’t mean arriving, but expanding into who you’re becoming

If you’ve ever felt stuck between fear and possibility, or caught in the loop of asking “What if?” instead of living “Why not”, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

Get Started Here

✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand your emotional patterns in love.

Connect with Me

🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com

▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal

IG @sanaiyahgurnamal

@projectlovingmyselfpodcast

Connect with Joelle Yuvienco

🎙️Podcast (Paano Kung on Spotify)

📸 Instagram

🎵 TikTok

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Ever notice how love can feel exciting one moment… and suddenly unsafe the next?

A delayed reply. A slight shift in tone. That tight feeling in your chest you can’t logic away.

In this episode, we sit with those moments.

Not to fix it. Not to label it. But to understand why it shows up.

Instead of giving you another “just trust it” pep talk, this conversation explores the quiet patterns that shape how you show up in love, the emotional rules you may be living by without realizing it, and why some connections feel harder than they should… even when nothing is technically wrong.

Episode Resources

✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the pattern quietly influencing how you love

✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the heartbreak influencing your current relationships.

In this episode, we explore:

✨ Why your body reacts before your mind catches up

✨ The difference between intuition and old emotional habits

✨ How past experiences can echo into present relationships

✨ Why closeness can feel confusing instead of comforting

✨ What changes when you stop fighting your reactions and start listening to them

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why does this keep happening?”

This episode won’t rush you to an answer—but it might help you ask a better question.

Get Started Here

✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand your emotional patterns in love.

Connect with Me

🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com

▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal

IG @sanaiyahgurnamal

@projectlovingmyselfpodcast

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