In this episode, I explore the difference between trying to fit in and truly belonging, especially for ADHD and neurodivergent women who’ve been labeled “too much”—too sensitive, intense, chatty, or emotional. I reflect on how our bodies often sense when something is off in social settings, from subtle exclusions to polite but insincere connections, and how this can fuel overthinking and rejection sensitivity. I share how things change when you’re with the right people: less replaying conversations, more ease, and the start of unmasking—not by force, but in the presence of safety. I invite you to notice where you can exhale and be yourself, and I mention my Sweden retreat and my London event, Golden (15th of May), as spaces designed for that kind of connection.

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If you feel constantly “on” - ticking off tasks, replying to messages, holding everything together - this episode is your reminder that your best thinking doesn’t happen in the busy… it happens in the pause.

In this solo episode, Michaela explores the power of deeper reflection - and why creating space (not more productivity) is often the missing piece for ADHD brains.

From a simple walk through London to imagining a retreat in Sweden, this episode invites you to rethink what rest, creativity, and problem-solving really look like.

• Why constant busyness blocks creativity and insight
• The role of the default mode network (DMN) in ADHD — and why mind-wandering is not a flaw
• How “being away with the fairies” might actually be where your best ideas live
• The hidden cost of executive functioning overload (yes, even by 9am…)
• Why rest doesn’t have to mean being still or silent
• How movement (walking, swimming, singing) can unlock reflection and emotional processing
• The power of unstructured space vs over-planned routines
• A reframe on retreats — from “doing” to being, connecting, and allowing Events mentioned in this episode:
  • Sweden ADHD Women’s Retreat (11–14 June) A small, curated space (only 5 spots) for rest, reflection, and connection https://thethomasconnection.thrivecart.com/shine-retreat-2026/
  • Golden – London (15 May) A brunch-style in-person event to pause, reflect, and connect with like-minded women https://thethomasconnection.thrivecart.com/golden-in-person-event-may-2026/