It’s never an easy decision to send your struggling child to treatment, whether it’ll be their first time or their tenth. As a parent, you’re exhausted, scared, unsure what’s actually best, and constantly questioning whether things are really as bad as they feel, or if you’re just out of options.

Today, Seth and I sit down for a short conversation on what so many parents silently carry: the fear of failing your child, the worry about keeping them safe, the confusion about what’s “normal,” and the sinking feeling when home no longer feels like a place where healing is happening.

Together, we talk about how to make sense of the patterns you’re seeing, how to approach this decision without blame or panic, and why communicating openly is often the first step toward clarity. We also share what we see in our own families and in the families we support: the moments when a higher level of care may be necessary, the moments when patience matters, and how to keep going when you feel completely stuck.

In this episode on deciding whether to send your teen to treatment (again) or not, we discuss:

• What it means when a teen or young adult feels stuck or unsafe at home;
• How to tell the difference between a momentary struggle and an ongoing pattern;
• Why parents often feel they’ve “failed”, and why that’s not true;
• How to start a conversation about returning to treatment without blame;
• When to bring in a coach, therapist, family specialist, or other neutral third party;
• How to poke holes in black-and-white thinking when crisis narrows your vision;
• The importance of vocalizing concerns rather than holding everything inside;
• Why there’s no single “right answer”, only the next informed step forward.

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What if the behaviors you see in your struggling teen aren’t just “problems,” but signs that the identity they were given no longer fits? What if their resistance, shut-down, or self-destructive choices are really the early stages of something Jake Wood knows all too well: the painful beginning of learning to trust yourself again after trauma, addiction, and conditioning?

In today’s conversation, Jake returns to share the part of his story most parents never get to hear from their own child: what it feels like on the inside when the systems that shaped you ( family expectations, culture, religion, diagnostic labels, school, recovery programs) tell you who you’re supposed to be, while your true self is begging for air.

Jake walks us through the years he spent trying to fit into a system that convinced him he was broken… until everything collapsed. Addiction, relapse, spiritual pressure, shame, and finally a life-threatening cancer diagnosis stripped him of every identity he’d ever carried. The belief system he built his whole life on fell apart and he had to rebuild from the inside out.

For parents, this conversation is a window into what your child may be wrestling with beneath the behavior. The confusion. The shame. The feeling of being “the identified patient.” The pressure to be who the system says they should be. And the long, messy, necessary process of learning to trust themselves again after trauma and conditioning.

Jake’s journey reminds us that breakdowns in our teens aren’t always signs of failure, but can also be signs of a self being born.

If you’ve ever wondered why your child reacts the way they do, why consequences don’t “fix it,” or why their behavior seems to carry so much pain, this episode will help you see their struggle with new compassion… and perhaps see your own inner work more clearly, too.

In this episode on learning to trust yourself again after trauma and conditioning, we discuss:

• How systems (family, school, religion, culture) shape identity, and shame;
• What it feels like to be the “identified patient” in a family;
• Why teens may crumble when they can’t meet expectations;
• How addiction, relapse, and shame cycles destroy self-trust;
• The symbolic collapse of identity through Jake’s cancer journey;
• Shadow work and parts work as tools for rebuilding inner authority;
• What unconditional love looks like when everything is falling apart;
• How breakdowns can become breakthroughs for both parent and child;
• And more!

More about Jake Wood

Jake Wood is a certified Resilience and Transformation Coach who helps individuals navigate their Soul–System dynamics — the interplay between the stories they inherited and the soul’s original truth. His descent through addiction, depression, and cancer became the doorway through which his soul revealed what had been buried beneath the early system conditioning. Today, Jake walks alongside those who feel called to turn inward and discover what their own soul is revealing.

He can be reached at coaching@lifebeyondthebrink.com.

Looking for support?

🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com

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Before your child has the chance to understand who they truly are, the world is already telling them what they are. Jake Wood knows this firsthand, and his story turns our whole conversation about teen drug addiction upside down.

In one of the favorite interviews I’ve ever done, I sit down with transformation guide Jake Wood to explore a perspective on teen drug addiction that most parents never hear: one rooted not in pathology, shame, or “fixing,” but in soul, story, and deep humanity.

“Shame has always been my monster” - Jake Wood

Jake shares his extraordinary journey from “System Jake,” shaped by rigid rules, labels, and misdiagnoses, to “Soul Jake,” the version of himself that emerged after surviving an aggressive cancer diagnosis, and a complete identity unraveling. His insight into labels like addict, bipolar, or behavioral problem will challenge the way you see your struggling teen, and maybe even yourself.

You’ll hear how addiction often begins as a coping strategy, not a character flaw, why shame disconnects kids from their true selves, and how parents can shift from fear-based reactions to compassion, presence, and genuine connection.

Have a listen to hear what Jake has to say about supporting your struggling teen or young adult without getting lost in labels!

In this episode on teen drug addiction, we discuss:

• Why labels like “addict” can sometimes do more harm than good;
• How shame disconnects teens from themselves and others;
• Jake’s life-changing journey through addiction, recovery, and cancer;
• The difference between “System identity” and “Soul identity”;
• How Internal Family Systems (IFS) reframes addiction as a protective part;
• Why connection, not control, is the antidote to teen drug addiction;
• How parents can hold space for their teen’s pain without absorbing it;
• The generational patterns that shape kids long before behavior shows up;
• And much more.

More About Jake Wood

Jake Wood is a certified Resilience and Transformation Coach who helps individuals navigate their Soul–System dynamics — the interplay between the stories they inherited and the soul’s original truth. His descent through addiction, depression, and cancer became the doorway through which his soul revealed what had been buried beneath the early system conditioning. Today, Jake walks alongside those who feel called to turn inward and discover what their own soul is revealing.

He can be reached at coaching@lifebeyondthebrink.com.

Looking for support?

🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com

You can support the show by:

Leaving a review

Subscribing to the show

And remember parents, the change begins with us.