Have you ever stayed in a relationship just to avoid being alone?

Did staying make you feel better or worse over time?

Today, Jay sits down with writer and relationship coach Quinlan Walther to explore what it truly means to build healthy, lasting relationships. Quinlan, known for her viral reflections on love and self-trust, explains the difference between wanting a relationship and being ready for one. She compares it to grocery shopping when you’re hungry, a reminder that desperation often drives us to make poor emotional choices. Together, they explore how self-awareness, emotional safety, and self-trust form the foundation for a genuine connection. Quinlan introduces her “Four C’s of Self-Trust”: curiosity, capacity, compassion, and commitment, a framework for strengthening one’s relationship with the self before seeking partnership.

Jay and Quinlan confront the hard truths about modern love, how expectations, attachment wounds, and emotional burnout often distort our perception of what love should feel like. They explore the difference between chemistry and compatibility, reminding listeners that while excitement can spark a connection, it’s shared values and emotional maturity that sustain it. Quinlan emphasizes that relationships are not meant to fill our emptiness but to reflect our growth. Through stories and practical wisdom, she explains how the healthiest relationships allow space for vulnerability, accountability, and change, rather than perfection. Jay reflects on his own marriage, highlighting how communication, patience, and self-reflection create emotional safety and deepen love over time.

In his interview, you'll learn:

How to Know If You’re Ready for Love

How to Build Self-Trust Before Dating

How to Create Emotional Safety in Relationships

How to Tell Chemistry from Compatibility

How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt

How to Heal After a Breakup

How to Stop Repeating Unhealthy Patterns

How to Grow Together Without Losing Yourself

Real connection isn’t about finding someone to fix or complete us, it’s about growing into the version of ourselves that can give and receive love freely. Every heartbreak, disappointment, and moment of self-reflection brings us closer to understanding that love begins within.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:24 Wanting vs. Being Ready for Love

04:07 The Four C’s of Self-Trust

06:41 Relationships Should Help You Grow

10:32 Building Stability and Emotional Safety

13:27 When Requests Become Unreasonable

15:15 Love Within Someone’s Capacity

17:57 Are You Exhausted From Dating?

22:05 Does the Spark Really Matter?

23:28 When Attraction Misleads You

25:16 Compatibility vs. Chemistry

27:52 How Black-and-White Thinking Hurts Love

31:10 Is Love Alone Ever Enough?

32:43 What True Commitment Looks Like

36:39 Learning to Show Up for Yourself

39:35 Healing Family Wounds and Finding Peace

42:19 Breaking the Criticism–Withdrawal Cycle

49:31 Your Partner Reflects How You Love Yourself

51:14 Dating is Discernment, Marriage is Devotion

55:16 Real Change Takes Time

58:10 Why Every Relationship Needs Boundaries

59:47 How to Set Healthy Boundaries

01:01:21 Stop Compromising Your Own Boundaries

01:02:42 Are Soulmates Real?

01:05:01 What Should Love Feel Like?

01:08:59 Do You Want a Partner or a Spouse?

01:13:11 How to Move On After a Breakup

01:16:47 You Are Not Hard to Love

01:19:32 The Lessons Hidden in a Heartbreak

01:21:40 Quinlan on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Quinlan Walther | Website

Quinlan Walther | Instagram

Quinlan Walther | TikTok

Quinlan Walther | YouTube

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Do you believe in manifestation?

What are you currently manifesting?

Manifestation isn’t about magic, shortcuts, or wishing something into existence, it’s about clarity, belief, and intentional action. In today’s episode, Jay unpacks the biggest myths around manifestation and explains why vision boards, affirmations, and journaling alone often leave us feeling stuck or unfulfilled. Instead, he shows us how to set clear goals, pair affirmations with real action, and create systems that actually move us forward.

Through practical steps and powerful research, Jay reshapes our understanding of manifestation, not as wishful thinking, but as the alignment of our thoughts, words, and actions. He reveals why positivity without effort quickly falls flat, how struggle signals growth rather than failure, and why surrender can be an act of wisdom instead of passivity. Jay shows us how to actively create the life we imagine. Whether your pursuit is abundance, purpose, or simply the courage to take the next step, he reminds us that manifestation isn’t about waiting for the universe to deliver, it’s about showing up ready, prepared, and fully present for the opportunities ahead.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Set Clear Goals for Manifestation

How to Pair Affirmations with Daily Action

How to Break Big Dreams into Small Steps

How to Turn Desire Into Direction

How to Value Growth Over Outcome

Growth is rarely smooth or instant, but it’s always possible when you stay committed to the process. Keep showing up with clarity, with consistency, and courage, because the life you dream of is created one intentional choice at a time.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:50 What is Manifestation?

01:52 Myth #1: Manifestation isn't Magic

05:42 Myth #2: Positive Thoughts Alone Attract Success

08:12 Myth #3: Writing it Down is Not Enough

11:11 Myth #4: The Universe Rewards Wanting

13:35 Myth #5: The Path Will Be Smooth If It's Meant to Be

16:14 Myth #6: Manifesting is Passive

20:07 Myth #7: Manifestation is About Stuff

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What does rejection feel like to you?

What do you usually do to move past that feeling?

Today, Jay sits down with legendary filmmaker and comedian Judd Apatow for a vulnerable and inspiring conversation on life, creativity, and resilience. Known for shaping modern comedy with films like The 40-Year-Old Virgin and Knocked Up, Judd opens up about the struggles behind the success, sharing how self-doubt, early failures, and rejection shaped him into the storyteller he is today. He reflects on the power of mentorship, the lessons he learned from icons like Gary Shandling, and why finding your voice often requires patience, humility, and a willingness to fail forward.

Together, Jay and Judd explore how comedy can be both healing and revealing, born not just out of joy but often out of pain. Judd talks about the risks he took, the creative experiments that didn’t work, and how those “failures” became stepping stones toward lasting impact. He reveals how therapy, mindfulness, and even family dynamics have influenced his work, and why the most meaningful measure of success is not box office numbers, but whether your work truly connects with people.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Find Your Creative Voice

How to Balance Ambition with Presence

How to Use Mentorship to Grow

How to Push Through Self-Doubt

How to Create With Authenticity

How to Learn From Rejection

How to Protect Your Flow State

The setbacks you face today can become the foundation of your greatest breakthroughs tomorrow. Stay patient with the process, stay true to yourself, and keep moving forward with faith that your story has meaning and impact waiting to unfold.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:09 What Made You Laugh Out Loud?

03:52 Raising Children Without Pressure

05:22 Never Limiting a Child’s Potential

08:09 The Most Memorable Interview

09:44 Discovering a Personal Path

10:27 From Fan to Friend

11:58 Running a Show Together

14:24 Growing with Creative Peers

15:58 Why Failure Leads to Success

18:00 The Power of Putting Yourself Out There

20:27 Why Success Takes Time

23:21 Creating Something Original

27:00 A Sliding Doors Moment

28:15 Realizing the Power of Choice

30:22 Becoming Part of Another’s Success

31:40 Confronting Creative Blocks

34:06 Inside a Storyteller’s Mind

35:34 Choosing to Be Part of the Solution

38:00 Taking Creative Risks

40:34 Silencing the Inner Critic

43:27 The Real Formula for Comedy

47:26 The Pitfalls of Mocking Others

48:41 The Promise and Peril of AI

51:39 Letting Go of a Problem-Seeking Mind

54:13 Projecting Childhood Trauma at Work

57:47 Separating Emotions from the Work

01:00:09 Choosing the Right Collaborators

01:02:58 Learning to Lighten Up

01:05:27 What Leads to True Success

01:07:30 The Most Impactful Self-Help Books

01:13:13 The Pain Behind Comedy

01:17:14 Defining True Happiness

01:22:33 Exploring an Ayahuasca Experience

01:24:18 The Secret to a Lasting Marriage

01:28:05 Lessons to Share with Children

01:30:07 Being Direct Yet Constructive

01:31:48 Finding Drama in Good People

01:34:07 Why Mentorship Matters

01:38:09 Judd on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Judd Apatow | Website

Judd Apatow | Instagram

Judd Apatow | Facebook

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