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Have you ever noticed how just one deep breath can completely change a tough moment? One minute you’re about to snap… and the next, you choose a calmer, kinder response instead.

That’s what we talked about with our dear friend and coach, Ellen Gray.

In this episode, we unpack Positive Intelligence and why learning to pause—just for a few seconds—can transform how we show up in our marriages, with our kids, with friends, and even with ourselves. This isn’t “office talk” or self-help theory. These are real-life tools for real people trying to love well and stay grounded in everyday stress.

Ellen explains PQ as “mental fitness”—basically learning how to train your mind the same way you’d train your body. We talk about our inner “Judge” and those familiar saboteurs like the Pleaser, Controller, and Avoider—and how many of them started as good qualities that just got overused along the way.

She also shares part of her own story, including becoming a “little mother” at just eight years old. It’s such a powerful reminder that empathy is a gift—but without boundaries, it can quietly run your life.

You’ll hear simple practices you can use right away—like focusing on your breath or paying close attention to small physical sensations—that even young kids can learn to calm big emotions. We talk about why feeling safe matters when you’re doing this kind of inner work, when therapy might be helpful, and why small, consistent habits beat “all-in” efforts every time.

Ellen also walks us through her seven-week program, the small pod groups, the daily app support, and how these tools help keep that inner critic from calling the shots.

We kept thinking while recording: what if families shared a common language for stress? What if teens learned these skills early? What if caregivers set loving boundaries without guilt?

That’s what this work makes possible.

You are not “just wired this way.”
You can notice your patterns, choose differently, and make your next conversation a little kinder and clearer.

Listen in, try the 10-second pause, and let us know what changes for you. And if this episode speaks to you, please share it with someone you love, subscribe, and leave a review—it helps us keep growing this community together.

Reach Ellen: EllenGray@verizon.net. Please say that you found me through the Agile Always podcast!

Thank you for spending time with us today! We hope you enjoyed our conversation, related to something we said, and learned something new along the way.

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A special thanks goes to @yancylott for producing, editing, and creating the music for our podcasts!
xo,
Robin & Rudy

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Healthy eating doesn’t have to mean giving up everything you love or memorizing complicated food rules. In this fun and relaxed episode, we’re busting some of the biggest nutrition myths out there (yes, even the one about carbs being the enemy) and sharing the simple swaps that helped us go from pre-diabetic to feeling our best—without giving up real food or taking medication.

Think of this as a casual kitchen-table chat where we spill the (unsweetened) tea on late-night snacking, smart shopping strategies (hint: stay around the edges of the store), and why adding veggies doesn’t have to be a chore. From our own experience—and a few good laughs—we’ve found that small, realistic changes add up fast.

You’ll get practical tips you can try today, whether you’re figuring out what to eat for breakfast or wondering how to help your grandkids develop better habits (spoiler: they’re watching everything you do).

It’s real talk, real food, and real results—served up with a side of encouragement and maybe a chuckle or two. Tune in and let us know which tips you’re trying this week. We’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for spending time with us today! We hope you enjoyed our conversation, related to something we said, and learned something new along the way.

Please give us a like and subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss ANYTHING!

Follow us @AgileAlways and be sure to check out our website, www.agilealways.com!

A special thanks goes to @yancylott for producing, editing, and creating the music for our podcasts!
xo,
Robin & Rudy

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Welcome to "The Barbershop", where real men have real conversations - uncut, unfiltered and unapologetically honest. It's the spot in our Agile Always podcast where we pull up a chair, talk life, health, and everything in-between, from the deeply personal to the universally important.

Pat Riley once said, "You have to be an active participant in your own rescue." These words perfectly capture the urgent message at the heart of this powerful episode of Officially Fenner/Agile Alway's new "Barbershop" segment, where host Rudy brings authentic men's health conversations out of the barbershop and into the open.

Rudy, joined by his brother Greg (a prostate cancer survivor turned advocate) and son-in-law David (representing a younger perspective), this multigenerational discussion tackles the staggering reality that 80% of men who live to 80 will develop prostate cancer—with even higher rates among African American men. Yet countless men avoid the simple PSA blood test that could save their lives.

The trio explores the complex reasons behind men's reluctance to seek medical care: historical distrust of the healthcare system, the masculine tendency to "tough it out," and fears about procedures and potential sexual dysfunction. With remarkable candor, they share personal experiences that illuminate how early detection dramatically improves both outcomes and treatment options.

Family history emerges as a crucial but often overlooked factor. As Greg powerfully states, "If you have had prostate cancer and you have a son, you're putting his life at risk not telling him." The conversation moves beyond detection to treatment decisions, with insights on everything from "active surveillance" (which Greg compares to "a stick of dynamite with a fuse") to radiation therapies and surgical options.

Whether you're approaching 40 or well beyond, this conversation could literally save your life or the life of someone you love. Listen, learn, and become an active participant in your own health journey. What's your PSA number?

Thank you for spending time with us today! We hope you enjoyed our conversation, related to something we said, and learned something new along the way.

Please give us a like and subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss ANYTHING!

Follow us @AgileAlways and be sure to check out our website, www.agilealways.com!

A special thanks goes to @yancylott for producing, editing, and creating the music for our podcasts!
xo,
Robin & Rudy

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