Get the real conversations and mom therapy you need to stop flooding. Learn how your nervous system impacts conflict dynamics and relationship stress.

Elizabeth Earnshaw @lizlistens with podcast Host Erin Vandermore discusses "Flooding"—a state where the nervous system is so overwhelmed by stress hormones (like cortisol) that the thinking brain (prefrontal cortex) goes offline. Visualizing this "Flip of the Lid" helps listeners realize that they cannot solve a conflict while their body is in a state of biological emergency.

"Avoidance Patterns" and "Relational Safety."

• The Nervous System & Conflict (03:15): Why your body treats a disagreement like a physical threat and how to recognize the early signs.

• Real Conversations on Flooding (08:45): Recognizing physical signals like leg shaking, facial flushing, or a racing heart before a spiral occurs.

• Mom Therapy & Avoidance Patterns (14:10): Understanding why "shutting down" is a nervous system survival strategy, not a lack of caring.

• Emotional Regulation in Relationships (19:30): Practical tools to de-escalate and return to a state of relational safety.Understanding the "Window of Tolerance"

In relationship dynamics, conflict usually happens when one or both partners are pushed outside their "Window of Tolerance." Visualizing this helps listeners identify their "threshold" and understand that co-regulation is the path back to the center.

This episode serves as essential mom therapy—providing the real conversations and psychoeducation needed to recognize nervous system triggers and create lasting relational safety. Stop the spiral before it starts. Download Mind Circuit EASE app for a science-backed Nervous System Reset and tools for Emotional Regulation to help you stay grounded during difficult conversations: Google Play →⁠⁠⁠⁠https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app.ageOfUncertainty&hl=en⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including episodes described as "Mom Therapy" or "RealConversations"—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship.

Emergency Resources:If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please do not rely on this content. Call or text 988 (in the US and Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or head to your nearest emergency room.

The Mind Circuit App "EASE": Use of the Mind Circuit app is a self-help tool for emotional regulation and is not a substitute for clinical treatment.

© 2024 Erin Vandermore. All rights reserved.

What does long-term partnership actually feel like when the butterflies fade and real life sets in? In this episode of Regulated-ish, two moms explore how nervous systems change in relationships over time—and why that calm, comfortable feeling isn't boring, it's actually safety.

We're talking about:

✨ How your nervous system shifts from early relationship dopamine to secure attachment

✨ Why positive changes in your partner can still feel unsettling

✨ Giving each other grace when you're both growing and healing

✨ The myth that long-term relationships should be "easy" by now

✨ Mind-reading expectations and why communication still matters after decades

✨ Renegotiating roles as life gets more complex (aging parents, kids, careers)

✨ Why feeling calm with your partner isn't disinterest—it's regulation

This isn't about perfect marriages or having it all figured out. It's about two real humans noticing what's showing up in long-term partnerships and being kinder to ourselves while we navigate it.

Perfect for moms who are:

• Working on their own nervous system regulation

• In long-term relationships wondering if they're "doing it right"

• Balancing therapy, growth, parenting, and partnership

• Looking for honest conversation about what marriage really feels like after years together

Keywords: nervous system regulation, long-term relationships, marriage advice for moms, secure attachment, parenting and partnership, mom therapy podcast, regulating in relationships, nervous system health, married life reality, relationship growth

Find the Mind Circuit app Ease for gentle nervous system support in Apple Store and Google Play.

This isn't therapy or a how-to show—it's two real humans noticing what's showing up and trying to be kinder to ourselves. If you're tired of perfectly staged mom content and want authentic conversation about women's health, mental health, and motherhood, this is your space.

🌐 Website: mindcircuit.org 📸 Instagram: @mindcircuitapp 👤 Facebook: @mindcircuitapp

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Support the Show: If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking for their own "Aha!" moments.

Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including episodes described as "Mom Therapy" or "Real Conversations"—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship.

Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please do not rely on this content. Call or text 988 (in the US and Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or head to your nearest emergency room.

The Mind Circuit App "EASE": Use of the Mind Circuit app is a self-help tool for emotional regulation and is not a substitute for clinical treatment.

© 2025 Mind Circuit Inc. All right reserved.

Get the real conversations and mom therapy you need for eating disorders and disordered eating. Learn how the nervous system uses these as survival strategies.In this episode of Notes to My Nervous System, host Erin sits down with Madeline Romeo, a doctoral candidate and eating disorder specialist, to explore how eating disorders function as nervous system survival strategies.

What You'll Learn: Eating disorders are often the body's attempt to find a "pseudo-safety" when the nervous system is overwhelmed. Understanding how the body moves from "Social Engagement" into "Freeze" or "Functional Freeze" is key to understanding the biology of the disorder.The Nervous System of Disordered Eating (05:40): Why the body views food restriction or bingeing as emotional regulation.

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• Real Conversations on Recovery (14:15): Navigating anorexia recovery, body image, and trauma therapy.

• Mom Therapy & Postpartum Health (22:30): Specialized support for postpartum mental health, food insecurity, and diverse populations.

• LGBTQ+ Mental Health (31:10): Exploring gender euphoria and recovery beyond weight-based criteria.

Topics Covered:

• Eating disorders in postpartum women
• Gender euphoria and eating disorder recovery in trans/non-binary adults
• Food insecurity and disordered eating
• Anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, and ARFID
• Nervous system dysregulation and body disconnection
• Compassionate, inclusive treatment approaches

Guest: Madeline Romeo - Doctoral candidate specializing in eating disorders among diverse populations, researching gender euphoria and recovery, and advocating for inclusive treatment approaches.

Resources Mentioned:

• 988 Mental Health Crisis Line
• Mind Circuit App (Apple Store & Google Play)

This episode provides the real conversations and mom therapy—essential psychoeducation and nervous system tools—needed for parents and individuals navigating the complexities of eating disorder treatment

Support the Show: If this episode helped you understand your wiring a little better, please follow the show and leave a 5-star review. It helps us reach more people looking fortheir own "Aha!" moments.

Reconnect with your body safely. Download Mind Circuit for science-backed Nervous System grounding and Emotional Regulation: Google Play →⁠⁠⁠⁠https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app.ageOfUncertainty&hl=en⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Download Now⁠⁠⁠⁠at App Store →⁠⁠⁠⁠https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mindcircuit/id6478664305⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow Us: Instagram →@mindcircuitapp

YouTube → @MindCircuitApp

Website →⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠@Mindcircuit

#Nervous System #Codependency #MomTherapy #SecureAttachment #EmotionalRegulation

Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including episodes described as "Mom Therapy" or "RealConversations"—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship.

Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please do not rely on this content. Call or text 988 (in the US and Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or head to your nearest emergency room.

The Mind Circuit App "EASE": Use of the Mind Circuit app is a self-help tool for emotional regulation and is not a substitute for clinical treatment.

© 2024 Erin Vandermore All rights reserved.

When stress and disruption pile up, burnout isn’t always a personal failure — it’s often a nervous system that’s been holding too much without support.

In this episode of Notes to My Nervous System, Erin Vandermore talks with Leigh Schultes, founder of Wilderness Muse in western North Carolina, about what regulation looks like after crisis. They explore how community, creativity, and clear boundaries can support nervous systems recovering from prolonged stress — especially for small business owners and caregivers.

This is a grounded conversation about pacing, trust, and learning to stop before the body forces it. No fixing. No performance. Just what actually helps people settle and keep going.

This conversation isn’t about heroics or resilience as performance.It’s about what actually helps a nervous system recover after disruption — community, creativity, boundaries, and knowing when to stop.

Mind Circuit⁠⁠⁠ is your pocket-sized support system for emotional balance and stress relief. With guided breathing, mood tracking, bilateral stimulation, and affirmations backed by neuroscience, it helps you calm your mind and reconnect with your body anytime you need it

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Follow Us: Instagram →@mindcircuitapp

YouTube → @MindCircuitApp

Website →⁠ ⁠⁠https://mindcircuit.org⁠⁠⁠

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