Our scars from childhood can follow us long into our adulthoods, and they often manifest in ways we may not realize or fully understand. In this episode of Never in Reverse, Doug and Jeremy discuss their childhoods as children of divorce, and the fear of abandonment that resulted from their childhood struggles. This insightful conversation focuses on emotional growth, security, and healing.

Jeremy and Doug begin by discussing their parents’ divorces. Divorce was different in Doug’s family and in Jeremy’s, and both learned from their parents’ experiences and carried traumas with them. Next, they explore how coming from a broken home can lead to fearing abandonment, and what healing has looked like for them.

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[0:00] Introduction

[2:52] Today’s episode topic is near and dear to Doug and Jeremy: growing up with a divorced parent. This can be a touchy topic, particularly as the feelings you experience as a child manifest in unexpected ways as an adult.

[4:55] Doug’s parents divorced about a month before his fifth birthday. They were very transparent about what was going on, and Doug never felt that it was his fault.

[8:22] Doug didn’t feel any toxic pressure from his parents during the divorce. His parents were very young and did the best that they could.

[10:32] Jeremy grew up in an unsafe environment due to his parents’ divorce. He found refuge in his friends and in sports.

[15:01] Doug always viewed his father and stepmom as a safe place, so they proved his fear of abandonment wrong. However, there were still elements he missed in his connection with his mom.

[18:09] Jeremy still struggles with his fear of abandonment. He found some safety in his stepdad’s family and in his Aunt Diana.

[25:55] Doug and Jeremy sometimes still have unrealistic expectations of their parents, specifically their mothers, stemming from their childhoods.

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How has dating changed in the last ten years? And what are the most valuable lessons you’ve learned in dating that have shaped how you view relationships today? In today’s episode, Doug and Jeremy discuss dating and relationships, from their journeys with dating and relationships to the current dating scene. Whether you’re looking for love or settled into a relationship, this episode gives valuable insights to help you build and maintain healthy relationships.

Dating apps offer a new tool and a new obstacle to singles as the instant accessibility of apps leads to frequent “ghosting.” Jeremy and Doug discuss the motivations and effects of ghosting, and how dating apps enable instant gratification and the ability to cut anyone off at any time – for better or for worse.

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[0:00] Introduction

[3:47] Today’s conversation is about dating. Doug’s first relationship in high school taught him how to deal with heartbreak, and that things will not always work out as they initially seem they will.

[9:32] Jeremy found it easier to hide behind sports and his other interests in early relationships to avoid having to be vulnerable. He learned to take accountability and use mistakes to improve.

[14:47] The dating landscape has changed dramatically over the last ten years. It has become very difficult to date as any small perceived misstep in communication can be the difference between a date and a swipe left.

[18:08] The easy abandonment of dating apps can also leave you feeling very vulnerable very quickly, particularly if you have problems with rejection that you have not addressed.

[24:47] Boundaries and baggage go hand in hand. In a healthy relationship, you take accountability for your baggage and grow with your partner, whether that is by creating new boundaries or adhering to your partner’s boundaries.

[28:56] Society expects men to keep their personal lives private, which can make it very difficult to open up with someone new.

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