Episodios

  • What If Love’s Story Is The One You Write For Yourself
    Mar 15 2026

    What if the love you chase is really a story you wrote to survive? We sit down with writer-director Just Thrasher and lead actor-producer Todd Ajax to unpack Unrequited, a Black queer dramedy that turns limerence, therapy, and hard-won honesty into must-watch storytelling. We start with 90s TV nostalgia, then shift into how a “throwaway” script became a calling, how a table read lit the fuse, and why this project demanded everything—housing, jobs, sleep—and still got a yes.

    Todd reveals how he built Liam from a past self: the corporate grind, therapy’s mirror, and the ache of wanting what wasn’t offered. He walks us through the season one finale, where he shared a private truth before cameras rolled and crossed into a performance so raw even the director couldn’t tell where life ended and character began. Just traces the writing process, the moment he recognized the show’s power, and the radical decision to keep going through a car accident and unemployment. Their partnership—actor, director, producer, editor—shows why trust is the secret ingredient audiences can feel across a screen.

    We go deep on representation and the “niche” label often thrown at Black queer stories. Unrequited answers by naming the thing so many of us live with: limerence, the habit of filling silence with fantasies that look like love. Therapy in the show becomes a lantern, not a lecture, guiding characters to separate imagination from truth. The takeaways are practical and tender—watch your inner voice, learn to choose your person daily (especially when that person is you), and let your definition of partnership evolve as you do.

    Season two is taking shape, and the team is inviting the community in through a Seed&Spark campaign to pay crew fairly, expand the world, and build toward a Black queer cinematic universe where characters travel across stories and no one asks if they belong. If you believe in bold indie storytelling, in art made from grit and heart, and in seeing Black queer love on screen with nuance and humor, this is your moment to lean in. Listen, share with a friend, and help bring season two to life—then tell us: what story about love do you need to see next? Subscribe, rate, and leave a review to keep these conversations flowing.

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    50 m
  • Boundaries, Brilliance, And Becoming Again
    Mar 9 2026

    What if the bravest love story is the one where you finally choose yourself? We celebrate six years by getting honest about heartbreak, the lines we draw to protect our peace, and the fierce joy of becoming again. With writer, speaker, and strategist Erin Lang, we move past buzzwords to name the difference between rules we place on others and true boundaries that we uphold with our actions. We dig into how staying too long can turn care into self-betrayal, and how walking away can be the most loving act—for you and for them.

    We also talk brilliance without permission. Degrees or not, lived experience is hard-won data, and Erin breaks down how Black trans women’s liberation is inseparable from Black liberation as a whole. From being misunderstood in advocacy to pushing back on reductive narratives about transness, Erin’s insights keep dignity at the center. Expect candid keys on cancel culture, evolving opinions, and finding the nerve to speak when the room would rather you didn’t.

    On the practical side, we map the daily habits that rebuild self-trust: journaling before the world loads its noise, choosing internal cues over external approval, and setting boundaries that stop you from bleeding when you think you’re pouring. Erin shares a bold vision—stability, a talk-forward platform, and collaborative solidarity that links our futures instead of siloing our fights. We close with grounded guidance for young trans girls: your worth is not up for ransom, and desperation is not your destiny.

    If this conversation hits home, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs a nudge toward self-respect, and leave a review telling us the boundary you’re reclaiming next.

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    56 m
  • Larry Praylow On Family, Ballroom, And Becoming Pop
    Mar 2 2026

    Family before trophies. That’s where Larry Praylow begins as we sit down with the iconic father of the House of Ebony to chart a path from a Brooklyn brownstone to a global ballroom legacy. Larry opens the door to a time when the category didn’t matter as much as the table heaped with food, the mother who waited up at the window, and the kids who found a safe place to land after midnight. From those roots came Banji in 1976, then Ebony—named for the Black excellence that defined making it in that era—and the standards that shaped generations of leaders.

    We unpack the early wins and the hard truths: why Ebony required independence and hustle, how Larry owned his bisexual identity long before it was common to say out loud, and what it means to lead with care and boundaries. He doesn’t hold back on today’s scene either. Money changed the energy, he says; fun and sportsmanship must return. The advice is specific and direct—do your homework before joining a house, choose stability over status, and stop blurring the line between parent and peer. Real mentorship looks like school, jobs, healthcare, and a safe place to sleep, not bottles and parties.

    Larry shares the pivot points that defined his life: five years in prison, losing his mother while inside, getting clean, and promising never to go back. He credits elders like Avis Pendavis and Paris Dupree for saving him from the edge and celebrates a moving collaboration with filmmaker Seven King, revisiting the rooms on Hancock Street where it all began. Threaded through is a call to action on addiction and mental health—areas where our community needs more awareness, structure, and love. By the end, you’ll hear why he still pays at the door, stands in line, and lets his legacy speak through service, not shortcuts.

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    42 m
  • Intersex, Love, And Healing
    Feb 15 2026

    The mic crackled, but the message came through with force: intersex lives deserve care, respect, and room to breathe. We sat down after a heartfelt conversation with our friend, an intersex advocate, to unpack what we heard—medical trauma that should never have happened, language that can bruise or heal, and a partnership that proves love is more than parts. The audio from part one had issues, yet the insights were too important to leave behind, so we gathered our thoughts and carried them forward with intention.

    We talk about what it means to be intersex in a world that still treats difference like a diagnosis. From early procedures and paperwork to appointments that ignore consent, the medical system often becomes a maze. Hearing how our friend navigated that maze—with courage, support, and humor—reshaped how we think about informed consent, privacy, and patient dignity. Alongside the hard truths, we celebrate the joy of being fully seen by a partner who shows up every day, not to fix, but to love. That kind of steady care can turn shame into strength and isolation into community.

    We also confront the harm language can do. Casual slurs, jokes, and rigid labels push people toward silence, and silence can be deadly. Naming suicide risk is not drama; it is honesty about the weight many carry when their identity is debated more than it is believed. Our takeaway is clear: be kind, be precise, and be willing to learn. We close with a moment of personal reflection on grief, birthdays, and why gratitude keeps us grounded while we stay unapologetically loud about justice. Part two of the conversation is on the way with cleaner audio, but the heart remains the same—affirm intersex people, honor consent, and love beyond parts.

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    4 m
  • Love Without Illusions; Setting Real Standards
    Jan 15 2026

    Love Without Illusions; Setting Real Standards

    What if the story you tell about love is the very thing keeping you from it? We open up about the gap between desire and devotion, and how easy it is to confuse attention with intimacy when the culture rewards secrecy and punishes public love. From childhood crushes you can’t name to late-night arrangements that never see daylight, we trace the quiet ways fantasy takes over—and the louder way truth breaks the spell.

    We talk candidly about DL dynamics, safety, and disclosure as an openly trans woman navigating dating, where strategy can protect your body but sometimes cages your heart. The real turning point came in an entanglement that felt stable until a small detail exposed the bigger pattern: no dates, no daylight, borrowed money, and a cycle of charm and retreat. Naming those red flags made room for a new metric—standards, not just boundaries—where love is measured by clarity, reciprocity, and presence in public.

    Along the way, we dig into the difference between sex and intimacy, the power of language and pronouns, and why public affirmation matters for mental health, dignity, and community. Self-work became the bridge: lifting to steady the nervous system, meditation to hear the honest voice, journaling to catch self-deception, and self-pleasure to reduce urgency so attention stopped feeling like oxygen. We also celebrate a partner who loves out loud, models accountability, and shows how fatherhood and activism can live beside tenderness and growth.

    If you’ve ever felt stuck in almost-love, this conversation offers practical markers to reset: write your standard, keep it, and let the right people meet you in the light. Listen, share with a friend who needs the reminder, and leave a review to tell us the standard you’re setting next.

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    15 m
  • We Broke Up With Toxic Friends And Kept The Wine
    Oct 30 2025

    Quiet can be a refuge, but it can also become a cage. Season six opens with a promise to get loud on purpose—naming the wounds, honoring the work, and choosing a voice that builds rather than burns. I’m joined by my friend Drea, host of Healing from Trauma, for a raw, steady conversation about what it costs to heal while life keeps moving. We talk about separation from our kids, the slow churn of courts, and the pressure of being Black women navigating identity, bias, and expectations. The stories are personal, the stakes are real, and the through line is resilience.

    We get practical about surviving hard seasons without losing yourself. Faith shows up as surrender and stamina, paired with therapy, community, and the small daily choices that regulate a stressed nervous system. We share the tiny habits that make a big difference—walking, journaling, budgeting for peace—and why praying over our children matters even when outcomes lag. If you’re a mom fighting to be heard, you’ll find language for your grief, a framework for advocacy, and a reminder that your bond with your kids is bigger than anyone’s narrative.

    Friendship takes center stage too: boundaries over access, respect over proximity, and discernment over drama. We unpack people pleasing, call out red flags, and admit the grief of letting go. Not every reunion is healing; not every collaboration is mutual. We talk about choosing rooms that protect your peace, building with people who say your name in rooms you’re not in, and owning your value without apology. Unmuted doesn’t mean reckless—it means aligned, honest, and brave.

    If this conversation steadies you, share it with someone who needs a nudge toward healing. Subscribe for season six, leave a review to help others find the show, and tell us: what’s one boundary you’re protecting this week?

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    40 m
  • How Trans And Black Men Navigate Mental Health With Courage And Community
    Jun 13 2025

    Joy without care is fragile. We bring both, linking Pride energy to an honest conversation about men’s mental health with the cast of Eden’s Garden and community leaders who know the stakes. From the Trans Visibility March in DC to the quiet rooms and late‑night calls that keep people here, we trace how safety, affirmation, and practical support turn struggle into momentum.

    We open with clear check‑ins—what’s working, what isn’t, and how the “strong friend” myth isolates the very people everyone leans on. The guests break down why so many Black and trans men hesitate to seek help: toxic masculinity that punishes emotion, providers who aren’t trained for trans and intersex care, and insurance barriers that rip off the bandage right when someone finally opens up. Instead of vague advice, we get a toolkit: limit doomscrolling, move your body, create art, serve others, journal gratitude, lean into faith, and keep one person on speed dial who won’t treat your pain like a problem to fix.

    We talk warning signs—unusual quiet, withdrawal, numbness—and what to do when life roles pile on: name your limits, ask for a shoulder, and stop pretending to be okay. The conversation gets real about suicide risk and everyday triggers, showing how a few minutes of compassionate attention can interrupt a spiral. Workplaces come into focus, too: peer groups, mental health retreats, quiet rooms, and managers trained to ask “Are you okay?” before penalties. Community isn’t a slogan here; it’s a plan that includes Eden’s Garden as a hub where truth, grief, and growth can live in the same room.

    If you or someone you love needs this reminder: you’re allowed to feel, to ask, and to heal. Tap play, share this with a friend, and tell us one small practice that helps you reset. Subscribe for more conversations that pair celebration with care, and leave a review so others can find the support they need.

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    52 m
  • Finding Family, Finding Self
    Jun 4 2025

    A single Facebook post. A last-minute flight to New York. One line that turned into the lead. Rail Lowry joins us to share how a quiet decision to live fully at 32 opened doors from Charlotte to the set of Eden’s Garden, and why family acceptance—from a mother’s practical love to an 87-year-old grandmother’s affirmation—can change the arc of a life.

    We dig into the real work behind the camera, from painstaking sound checks to the power of improvisation that lets lived emotion set the tone. Rail explains how his character, Pernell, mirrors his own values: fierce loyalty to family, protection of community, and a love that refuses secrecy. The theme that threads it all together is timing—how past relationships became teachers, how healing readied him for partnership, and how visibility lands different when it’s rooted in truth.

    As we gear up for the Visible Voices Festival in New York, Rail speaks candidly about navigating a hostile political climate, setting boundaries with social media, and pushing back on harmful myths with lived evidence. He offers direct, grounded advice for trans youth: be yourself, build chosen family if needed, anchor to something that sustains you, and keep moving. Eden’s Garden becomes more than a series; it’s a lens that shows trans masculine life in full color—ordinary, loving, and profoundly human.

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    29 m