What happens when your relationship (or your life) doesn't look the way you thought it would or were told it was supposed to look? Libby talks with Carrie Jeroslow about how having a relationship diversity mindset may help you make peace and even embrace with how your life and love actually work for YOU.

Carrie's Website: https://www.carriejeroslow.com/

If you're struggling and need help with your relationships, where should you turn? Libby shares her advice on how to find good help.

Meta analyses of studies that show that therapeutic alliance matters more than therapeutic modality for positive outcomes in therapy: https://psycnet.apa.org/PsycARTICLES/journal/pst/55/4

APA article explaining: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/11/ce-corner-relationships

What is compersion? Can you cultivate compersion in yourself and in your relationships? Libby invites Marie Thouin, PhD to discuss her research and book on this important and sometimes misunderstood topic in polyamory.

Marie's book! https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781538183939/What-Is-Compersion-Understanding-Positive-Empathy-in-Consensually-Non-Monogamous-Relationships

Marie's Compersion Resources: https://www.whatiscompersion.com/

Marie's Coaching Website: https://www.loveinsight-dating.com/

Marie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love_insight_dating/

Libby is joined by Genevieve King of Chill Polyamory to discuss individualism, community care, and ways you can shift your mindset to ecological thinking within polyamorous (or not!) relationship structures.

Genevieve's Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/chillpolyamory

Genevieve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PUizxdp_vj2A5fUdBgzgw

Genevieve's website: https://www.chillpolyamory.com/

Libby discusses the distinction between offers and requests in relating and how important it can be to make sure you're saying what you actually mean.

Kai Cheng Thom's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaichengthom/?hl=en Spectrum of Consent: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1kvYW4eSVKRuwUt5Mc-DnCyNVzvA036f8/view?usp=sharing

Marcia Baczynski on Desire Smuggling: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/desire-smuggler/

27 Alternatives to "Is this Okay?": https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/27-alternatives-to-asking-is-this-okay/

Libby talks with AASECT-certified sexuality educator Aubri Lancaster about asexuality and aromanticism.

Aubri's website: https://acesexeducation.com/

Aubri's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/acesexeducation/

Libby shares her thoughts about debate about whether hierarchy is bad or wrong in polyamory.

Additional reading: Lola Phoenix - the Hierarchy Polyamorous People Don't Talk Enough About: https://www.nonmonogamyhelp.com/the-hierarchy-polyamorous-people-dont-talk-enough-about/

Ready for Polyamory - Is there a Problem with Hierarchy https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/guest-post-is-there-a-problem-with-hierarchy

Poly.Land - Sneakiarchy: https://poly.land/2018/11/01/sneakiarchy-secret-hierarchy-dishonest-egalitarianism/

Joreth Retracts Descriptive vs Prescriptive Hierarchy: https://joreth.dreamwidth.org/408917.html

Podcast episodes referenced in the episode: Veto Happens: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/veto-happens

Where is this Going?: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/where-is-this-going