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De: Brian Mayer & Heather Mayer
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 Love How Deep is a podcast designed to equip married couples like you with resources that rely on the transformative power of God's Word to strengthen your relationship. The hosts, Brian & Heather Mayer desire is to connect couples more deeply to each other. They do this by offering episode content that can help couples communicate better, resolve conflict, understand each other more, tackle roles and responsbilities, parent in better ways, control their finances more, and increase emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual parts of their lives. Engaging guests from married couples, pastors, therapists, authors, and other experts in the field offer great advice.2024 Ciencias Sociales Cristianismo Espiritualidad Ministerio y Evangelismo Relaciones
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  • Why Do We Keep Fighting? Unpacking the Root of Marital Conflict | 83

    Why Do We Keep Fighting? Unpacking the Root of Marital Conflict | 83
    May 14 2025
    Why Do We Keep Fighting? Unpacking the Root of Marital Conflict Introduction Welcome back to Love How Deep.Heather poses the question: Why do you and your spouse fight a lot?The frustration of feeling unable to stop fighting.Common fight topics: Dishwasher, trash, parenting, etc.The focus on finding the root cause of these conflicts. Scripture: James 4:1-3 Reading of James 4:1-3.The title of the section: "Submit Yourselves to God."Addressing the negative connotations of "submit" and its true meaning in relation to God and each other. Verse 1: The Source of Fights "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?"Fights stemming from personal wants and desires (tangible or intangible).Selfishness as the underlying issue.Losing sight of the spouse's needs in the moment.Breakdown of healthy communication and intentions.The cycle of wanting and fighting. Selfishness in Marriage Brian's reflection on selfishness as the root of most arguments.Selfishness on one or both sides.Difficulty recognizing selfishness in the heat of the moment.The impact of emotions on rational thinking.The ongoing process of learning and growing in this area. The Power of Submission Letting go of personal wants for the sake of the spouse and the marriage.Submission as a choice driven by love and prioritizing the spouse's well-being.Submission not equating to being a doormat.The healthy dynamic of choosing to submit, mirroring God's relationship with us. Verse 2: The Destructive Nature of Unmet Desires "You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want.""Killing" the spouse's spirit, dreams, and self-esteem through negative words.The gradual erosion of the marriage due to unkindness.The impact of the silent treatment as another form of "killing" connection.The vicious cycle of unmet desires leading to more fighting. Verse 2 (Continued): The Gangrene/Cancer Analogy Brian's analogy of unchecked negative behaviors as gangrene or cancer in the marriage.The need to "amputate" harmful behaviors (unkind words, dismissiveness). Verse 2 (Continued) & Verse 3: The Role of Prayer and Motives "You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God."Clarifying that asking God doesn't guarantee material desires.Asking for God's will above personal desires."When you ask, you do not receive because you ask with the wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures."Examining the selfishness vs. godliness of our prayer motives.Personal learning experience: God's will differing from personal wants. The Example of Jesus in the Garden (Luke 22:42) Jesus' prayer: "Let this cup pass from me; yet not my will, but yours be done."The strength in prioritizing God's will over personal desires.The "but" in Jesus' prayer as a positive negation of his initial desire. Praying for Change in Yourself Praying for God to fix the marriage is good, but also pray for personal change.Asking God to change your heart, mind, perspective, and words.Trusting God's timing and plan.The challenge of stopping the blame game and living in peace. The Difficulty and Worth of Change Acknowledging that these changes are not easy and require patience.The analogy of growing a garden – waiting for the results.Emphasizing that the effort is worth the outcome. Choosing Change Daily Making a daily choice to watch your words and stop harming your spouse's spirit.The role of forgiveness (God's and each other's) in the process.The slow but rewarding nature of this journey. Conclusion and Call to Action Recap of the importance of addressing the root of conflict.Reminder of the free communication packet at lovehowdeep.com. Click Here: 10 Practical Communication StrategiesEncouragement to use the resource for better connection.Closing remarks and farewell.
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  • Psalm 23 for Your Marriage: Finding Refreshment and Guidance | 82

    Psalm 23 for Your Marriage: Finding Refreshment and Guidance | 82
    May 7 2025
    Psalm 23 for Your Marriage: Finding Refreshment and Guidance Introduction Welcome back to Love How Deep.Introduction of the topic: How Psalm 23 can positively benefit marriage.Heather's love for and the refreshing nature of Psalm 23. Verse 1: The Lord is My Shepherd; I Shall Not Want Brian introduces the "Shepherd's Psalm."The comforting and soul-restoring nature of the passage.Sheep knowing the shepherd's voice and listening for God's guidance in marriage."I shall not want" - lacking nothing in God's care.Needs vs. wants and trusting God's provision for your marriage.Examining intentions behind desires in the context of marriage. Verse 2: He Makes Me Lie Down in Green Pastures; He Leads Me Beside Quiet Waters The idea of God "making" us rest – not forceful, but knowing what's best.Finding rest and refreshment together as a couple.The peaceful imagery of quiet waters and God's presence amidst chaos.Connecting with God's beauty for refreshment (Shenandoah example).Simple acts of finding peace together (neighborhood walks). Verse 3: He Restores My Soul; He Leads Me in Paths of Righteousness for His Name's Sake Continuing the theme of refreshment for the soul.God guiding along the right path, allowing free will but offering direction.God as the roadmap for making the best decisions in life and marriage.The concept of God ordering our steps. Verse 4: Even Though I Walk Through the Valley of the Shadow of Death, I Will Fear No Evil, for You Are With Me; Your Rod and Your Staff, They Comfort Me Facing trials and difficulties in marriage.God's promise to be with us – Emmanuel, God with us.Times of feeling distant from God and trusting His constant presence.Understanding the comfort of the rod and staff:Boundaries for protection and training (children analogy).Consequences as a form of protection.The freeway guardrail analogy. Deeper explanation of the staff: Gentle guidance and the crook for rescue.Deeper explanation of the rod: Warding off enemies and providing consequences. Verse 5: You Prepare a Table Before Me in the Presence of My Enemies; You Anoint My Head with Oil; My Cup Overflows God preparing a table – provision and sustenance in the face of challenges.A table as a form of protection and a symbol of celebration.Marriage as an oasis and a place of refuge.Anointing with oil: Representing the Holy Spirit, refreshing, healing, and covering.The desire for home to be a place of rest and refreshment for both spouses. Verse 6: Surely Goodness and Mercy Shall Follow Me All the Days of My Life, and I Will Dwell in the House of the Lord Forever God's promise to stay with us forever.The desire for lasting commitment in marriage.A declaration of knowing God is with you and choosing to be with Him.The parallel between the beginning and end: The Lord as our shepherd always. Conclusion Hope that Psalm 23 brings refreshment to marriages.Encouragement to read and discuss this passage together during difficult times.Seeking ways to apply the principles of Psalm 23 for a stronger marriage.Finding refreshment and a new pathway with the Lord at the center. Call to Action (33:00-35:00) Reminder of the online forgiveness course at lovehowdeep.com/forgiveness with a special code - fg19 to get the course for $19Closing remarks and farewell.
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  • Martha vs. Mary: Finding Focus in Your Marriage | 81

    Martha vs. Mary: Finding Focus in Your Marriage | 81
    Apr 30 2025

    Podcast Outline Show Notes Page: Episode 81 - Martha vs. Mary: Finding Focus in Your Marriage

    Introduction

    • Welcome and Episode Introduction
    • Encourage liking, following, subscribing, and sharing.
    • Heather poses the question: If Jesus were coming for dinner, what would your focus be?

    The Story of Martha and Mary

    • Reading of Luke 10:38-42.
    • The universality of the story: We are all Martha and Mary at different times.

    Martha: The Hostess with the Mostess

    • The pressure of preparations: Planning, purchasing, preparation (the 3 P's!).
    • Cleaning and cooking and the desire for perfection.
    • The impact of busyness on brain space.
    • Wanting to impress Jesus.
    • Identifying with Martha's desire to do things well.

    The Impact on Your Spouse

    • What happens to your spouse when you're in "Martha mode"?
    • Feeling forgotten and the potential for snapping.
    • The "hurry and scurry" hindering connection.

    Considering Martha's Actions

    • Why weren't some tasks done beforehand? (A moment of reflection, not judgment).

    Mary: Sitting at Jesus' Feet

    • Mary's awe and reverence for Jesus.
    • Absorbing His teachings and the importance of listening to the Holy Spirit.
    • "God moments" of feeling present with Jesus.
    • Avoiding judgment of Mary's seemingly "lazy" behavior.
    • Mary's priority: Being in the presence of Jesus.

    The Contrast and Jesus' Response

    • Martha's frustration and request for Mary to help.
    • Jesus' gentle response focusing on priorities.
    • Martha's good intentions vs. Mary's pure intentions.
    • Jesus wants us to sit at His feet, worship, rest, and learn.

    The Daily Grind and Our Focus

    • The shift from party preparations to the everyday busyness of life.
    • Work, errands, bills – where does our focus lie?
    • The importance of prioritizing Jesus amidst the daily tasks.

    A Personal Anecdote

    • Heather's experience at a party: Choosing presence over tasks.
    • The impact of a few minutes of intentional connection.

    The Danger of Overlooking Loved Ones

    • Spouses and children feeling forgotten in the busyness.
    • The importance of setting aside tasks for moments of connection.
    • Temporal vs. eternal priorities.
    • Putting Jesus first helps in managing everything else.

    Conclusion

    • Recap: It's okay to be Martha sometimes, but prioritize being Mary when your spouse needs you.
    • Encouragement to take a breath, pause, and spend quality time together and with Jesus.

    Call to Action

    • Reminder of the free communication packet at lovehowdeep.com. Click Here: 10 Practical Communication Strategies
    • Closing remarks and farewell.
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