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Love How Deep Marriage

Love How Deep Marriage

De: Brian Mayer & Heather Mayer
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Love How Deep is a podcast designed to equip married couples like you with resources that rely on the transformative power of God's Word to strengthen your relationship. The hosts, Brian & Heather Mayer desire is to connect couples more deeply to each other. They do this by offering episode content that can help couples communicate better, resolve conflict, understand each other more, tackle roles and responsbilities, parent in better ways, control their finances more, and increase emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual parts of their lives. Engaging guests from married couples, pastors, therapists, authors, and other experts in the field offer great advice.2024 Ciencias Sociales Cristianismo Espiritualidad Ministerio y Evangelismo Relaciones
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  • 94: Healthy Marriage Boundaries: Property Lines, Not Walls! 🧱 #MarriageTips #ChristianRelationships

    94: Healthy Marriage Boundaries: Property Lines, Not Walls! 🧱 #MarriageTips #ChristianRelationships
    Jul 30 2025
    Here is the YouTube content and podcast show notes for transcript 94: Healthy Marriage Boundaries: Property Lines, Not Walls! 🧱 #MarriageTips #ChristianRelationships Are you and your spouse struggling with boundaries, unsure if they're helpful or hurtful? Many Christian couples misunderstand boundaries, fearing they lead to selfishness or disconnect. But what if healthy boundaries are actually the secret to deeper love, respect, and intimacy in your Christ-centered marriage? In this essential episode, we cut through the confusion, defining boundaries not as walls that keep people out, but as property lines that clarify individual space and responsibility within the union. Learn why boundaries are an act of self-care, not selfishness, and how they define what you will and will not tolerate. We explore powerful biblical examples, from God's boundaries with Adam and Eve to Jesus modeling healthy self-care through prayer. Discover the crucial role boundaries play in: Clarifying expectations and preventing misunderstandings.Protecting your identity and emotional well-being.Preventing unhealthy codependency and fostering mutual respect.Building trust by establishing consequences for harmful actions. We also dive into common areas where boundaries are vital, including time and energy, finances, in-laws, communication patterns (like avoiding contempt!), intimacy, and digital/social media use. Learn how to navigate these conversations with grace, firmness, and love, even when facing pushback. Most importantly, we reveal how to set and communicate boundaries biblically: Pray together for unity and wisdom (James 1:5).Communicate clearly using "I statements" to express feelings and concrete actions.Be firm but loving, guarding your heart (Proverbs 4:23).Establish consequences thoughtfully, escalating if needed.Be prepared for pushback and commit to consistency. Healthy boundaries ultimately lead to order, peace, and increased respect, allowing both partners to grow individually while strengthening the marital union – like concentric circles with healthy overlap. Embrace boundaries as a powerful tool to build a resilient, Christ-honoring marriage that truly flourishes. FREE RESOURCE: Ready to start setting healthy boundaries? Download our "10 Practical Steps to Communication Workbook"! It's your guide to kicking off these crucial conversations in a healthy way. Find the link in the description below! If you want to transform confusion into clarity and build a stronger, more respectful marriage, this episode is a must-watch (or listen)! Key Takeaways: Understanding Boundaries: Boundaries in relationships are often misunderstood. They are not walls meant to keep people out, but rather property lines that define personal space, responsibilities, and what you will or will not tolerate. They are an act of self-care and respect, not selfishness.Boundaries are About Your Response: You can't control your spouse's behavior, but boundaries define your actions, responses, and what you will do when a boundary is crossed.Biblical Foundation for Boundaries: God's Example: God set the ultimate boundary in Genesis 2 with Adam and Eve concerning the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, outlining consequences for crossing it.Jesus' Model: Jesus modeled healthy boundaries by regularly seeking personal time for prayer and quiet reflection (e.g., Garden of Gethsemane).Not Tolerating Harm: Biblical principles do not advocate tolerating abuse or harmful behavior. Boundaries, in such cases, involve removing oneself or ensuring safety. Verbalization Isn't Always Necessary: Not all boundaries need to be explicitly verbalized. Some can be internal decisions about how you will react or what you will do. However, for recurring issues, communication becomes crucial.Why Boundaries Are Essential in Marriage: Clarify Expectations: They define what's acceptable and unacceptable, preventing misunderstandings.Protect Identity & Well-being: They safeguard your emotional and mental health within the union.Prevent Codependency: They foster mutual respect and prevent individuals from losing their sense of self.Build Trust: By addressing harmful actions and their consequences, they build a more secure foundation.Communicate Values: They allow you to share what is important to you with your spouse. Speak Truth in Love: When communicating boundaries, ensure your words are tempered with kindness, patience, gentleness, and genuine love (Ephesians 4:29).Common Areas for Boundaries: Time & Energy/Personal Space: Negotiating downtime, personal hobbies, or unwinding after work.Finances: Setting limits on purchases, debt tolerance, and joint financial decisions.In-Laws/Extended Family: Discussing how to handle family interactions and support each other.Communication: Establishing rules for healthy dialogue (no yelling, name-calling; avoiding criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt - per John Gottman).Intimacy & Sex: Communicating comfort levels, ...
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    30 m
  • 93: Reframe Your Thinking in Marriage ✈️ Remember the Big Picture! #GodsPlan #PerspectiveShift

    93: Reframe Your Thinking in Marriage ✈️ Remember the Big Picture! #GodsPlan #PerspectiveShift
    Jul 23 2025

    See Your Life From God's View: Overcome Obstacles!

    Key Takeaways:

    • The Bird's Eye View: Just like observing the world from an airplane window, gaining a higher perspective can reveal beauty and insights even amidst apparent destruction or mundane patterns on the ground.
    • Earth's Scars, God's Design: Even barren land, clear-cutting, or mining scars show new growth near water, symbolizing that even through destruction, new life and opportunities can emerge.
    • Water Brings Life: Water brings new growth, which brings new opportunities and beauty. This parallels the "living water" that Jesus offers for our spiritual and emotional healing.
    • Our Scorched Hearts: We often experience "scorched, barren, or dry" periods in life, feeling broken or useless. Gaining a "bird's eye view" allows us to see how God can bring new growth and opportunities from these challenging times.
    • God's Master Plan: God sees the entire "finished masterpiece" of our lives, even when we're focused on the "dead tree" or "fallen log" blocking our immediate path. He's developing our character.
      • Hebrews: Things unseen are more real than things seen.
    • Marriage & Hyper-Focus: We can get "hyper-focused" on small frustrations in marriage (e.g., an empty lemonade glass) and lose sight of the bigger picture of our spouse's love, effort, and commitment. Practice "zooming out."
    • Jesus, the Living Water (John 4:13-14): Jesus offers living water that brings healing, refreshing, rest, comfort, and peace to our dry and barren hearts.
    • Open Hands: Our encouragement is to approach Jesus with open hands, asking Him how He wants to use our struggles, heal us, and what He wants to do in our lives, rather than demanding our own desires.
    • Action Before Emotion: Take the action of seeking Jesus and His healing, even if you don't feel the change immediately. Consistency, like going to the gym, leads to transformation over time.
    • The Power of Gratitude: Practice gratitude exercises (e.g., listing three things you're grateful for daily). This can rewire your brain, shift your mindset, and help you "zoom out" to see the bigger, positive picture.

    Free Resource Mentioned:

    • 21 Days of Gratitude: A simple, daily exercise to create a habit of gratitude and change your perspective.

    Connect with Us:

    • Love How Deep Website
    • Follow/Subscribe: Like, follow, and subscribe wherever you're hearing or seeing this!
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    19 m
  • 92: Ditch Your Baggage! 😫 How to Lighten Your Load in Marriage #RelationshipBaggage #LetGo

    92: Ditch Your Baggage! 😫 How to Lighten Your Load in Marriage #RelationshipBaggage #LetGo
    Jul 16 2025

    Ditch Your Baggage! How to Lighten Your Load in Marriage

    Key Takeaways:

    • The Weight of Our Baggage: Just like physical luggage, emotional, mental, and spiritual "baggage" from our past, present, and future fears can be incredibly heavy and burdensome in our lives and relationships.
    • The Death Grip: We often hold onto this baggage with a "death grip" – it can define us, make us comfortable, and we might be afraid to be without it.
    • Personal Experience with Baggage: Heather and Brian share their own experiences bringing baggage into their marriage (e.g., trust issues, insecurities) and how it impacted them.
    • Why We Hold On: Fear of being without these burdens, comfort in the familiar pain, and letting them define us.
    • Shaped, Not Defined: The past makes us who we are today, but the emotional pain should not define who you are now.
    • God Works for Good (Romans 8:28): Even seemingly negative or painful experiences (like a cancer diagnosis) can be reframed and used by God for good, leading to strength, empathy, and ministry opportunities.
    • You're Not Chained: Our baggage is not shackled to us; we are actively holding it. It is our choice to let it go.
    • God Restores and Makes You Strong (1 Peter 5:10): "And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast." This is a powerful promise of God's active role in our healing.
    • Giving It to God (Even When It's Ongoing): Even if the "baggage" is an ongoing situation, the answer is to do it anyway – daily surrender it to God, pray for intervention, wisdom, and protection.
    • Action Before Emotion: Don't wait for your feelings to change before you act. Take the action of letting go and giving it to God, and your emotions will follow. It's like building a muscle – it takes consistent effort over time.
    • Impact on Relationships: Holding onto baggage actively interferes with having the best relationships with your spouse, children, family, and friends. Walls are built to protect, but they also prevent true connection.
    • Trials Produce Perseverance (James 1:2-4): "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds... because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." God uses trials to develop our character.
    • Seek Help: Don't hesitate to seek out help if you need it to release your baggage.

    Free Resource Mentioned:

    • Forgiveness Conversation Starter: A powerful resource to help initiate conversations about letting go and forgiveness in your relationships.

    Connect with Us:

    • Love How Deep Website
    • Follow/Subscribe: Like, follow, and subscribe wherever you're hearing or seeing this!
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    26 m
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