We conclude this series this week with Part 3. To make it easier for you to remember the outline for the last two weeks we've included all three weeks below.

Part 1

1. It is hard.
   1. Life is busy all by itself, but caring for aging parents doubles or triples the load.
   2. Some parents are pretty much on their own all the way through life, but others need lots of help and care.
2. As much as possible, plan ahead before care is needed.
   1. Talk with all the family who is involved or who will be.
   2. If possible, purchase insurance plans that will help.
      1. Perhaps pay for them as a family.
      2. Secure wills and power of attorneys and bank accounts and all that while it can be done easily.
   3. Have a plan as to who is in charge and who will help and how it will be done.
3. Be prepared for misunderstanding and difficult responses
   1. Remember truth when accusations are made
   2. Remember truth when challenges occur

Part 2

1. It needs to be a WE affair and not a ME affair
   1. Get everyone involved
      1. Brothers and sisters
         1. Typically best to give someone power of attorney
         2. Typically best to give someone the power of the money
      2. Aunts and uncles
         1. They can spend nights
         2. They can transport to appointments
      3. Sons and daughters
         1. If you parents live with you, the kids can help with them
      4. Spouse
         1. Communicate
         2. Prioritize
            1. On both sides
               1. The one who is care-giving needs love and understanding as they give to their parent
               2. The one who is married to the care-giver needs the same as they give to their spouse
   2. Everyone should get involved
      1. One person likely cannot do it by themselves
      2. Each person must shoulder some responsibility
2. Make it a practical matter
   1. Prepare wisely
      1. Think ahead while the decision is easy
      2. Decide ahead of time as many things as possible
         1. Have a will
         2. Have a living will
         3. Have all information and important papers located and available
   2. Plan carefully
      1. Sit down with as many people as possible to make a plan
      2. Someone should be designated as the one who “takes-charge”
   3. Talk continually
      1. Keep everyone in the loop
      2. Keep everyone organized
      3. Perhaps use a group text morning and evening

Part 3

4. Schedule specific responsibilities

1. 1. 1. Living arrangements
      2. Driving arrangements
         1. Appointments
         2. Events
      3. Financial arrangements
2. Know your limitations
   1. Some things can be done
   2. Some things cannot be done
   3. Some times you need a break
      1. Never allow yourself to feel guilty for taking a break when it is needed
3. Some questions
   1. How do you handle difficult parents?
      1. Do the right thing
         1. The right thing is to keep caring
         2. The right thing may be to allow someone else to do the caring
      2. Do the hard thing
         1. You may have to choose a nursing home
         2. You many have to choose assisted living
      3. Allow someone to have veto power over your decisions?
         1. By that I mean limited veto power
            1. Limited by time (they can override for a set amount of time)
   2. How do you handle parents with whom you have little or no relationship?
      1. Prayerfully
         1. Pray about it
         2. Seek counsel as you pray
      2. Wisely
         1. If you have no relationship, you do not have to carry the burden of responsibility
         2. If you have a damaged relationship, seek to make things right
         3. If you cannot make things right, you may need to allow others to serve as the care-giver and you serve as a helper . . .

Part 2

Caring for aging parents is hard! Dave and Bethlie discuss practical ways you navigate these difficult times. If you are in this season, or will be in this season, we trust this content will be a help. If you know of someone who could use this, please share it.

4. It needs to be a WE affair and not a ME affair

1. 1. Get everyone involved
      1. Brothers and sisters a
      2. Aunts and uncles
      3. Sons and daughters
      4. Spouse
   2. Everyone get involved
      1. One person likely cannot do it by themselves
      2. Each person must shoulder some responsibility

5. Make it a practical matter

1. 1. 1. 1. Prepare wisely
         2. Plan carefully
         3. Talk continually
            1. Keep everyone in the loop
            2. Keep everyone organized
         4. Schedule specific responsibilities
            1. Living arrangements
            2. Driving arrangements
               1. Appointments
               2. Events

Links:

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Caring for aging parents is hard! Dave and Bethlie discuss practical ways you navigate these difficult times. If you are in this season, or will be in this season, we trust this content will be a help. If you know of someone who could use this, please share it. \

Caring for Aging Parents

1. It is hard.
   1. Life is busy all by itself, but caring for aging parents doubles or triples the load.
   2. Some parents are pretty much on their own all the way through life, but others need lots of help and care.
2. As much as possible, plan ahead before care is needed.
   1. Talk with all the family who is involved or who will be.
   2. If possible, purchase insurance plans that will help.
      1. Perhaps pay for them as a family.
      2. Secure wills and power of attorneys and bank accounts and all that while it can be done easily.
   3. Have a plan as to who is in charge and who will help and how it will be done.
3. Be prepared for misunderstanding and difficult responses
   1. Remember truth when accusations are made
   2. Remember truth when challenges occurC
4. It needs to be a WE affair and not a ME affair
   1. Get everyone involved
      1. Brothers and sisters
      2. Aunts and uncles
      3. Sons and daughters
      4. Spouse
   2. Everyone get involved
      1. One person likely cannot do it by themselves
      2. Each person must shoulder some responsibility

Links:

Want to hear Pastor Dave Young preach?

Westwood Baptist Church

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Join Dave and Bethlie as they discuss medication and the role it plays in their home.

• Try exercise
• Try counsel
• Try meditation
• Try lifestyle changes
• Try prayer
• Try family changes
• Try training
• Try spanking
  • Spanking is a simple method of amplifying the consequences of negative behavior at a time when the negative behavior is not as BIG of a deal

If you choose to use medication, use them sparingly

Small doses

Short time, not a lifetime

Aware of all the side effects

Do much research

• Billion dollar industries produce modern meds
• Then subsidize doctors and pharmacys and clinics who prescribe them
• It is a FOR profit business
• Your health is your responsibility.

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1. Meds and special needs: often asked question and often commented matter (both for and against)

1. 1. Meds are here to stay

1. 1. 1. Most everyone uses meds in some way
         1. Some are pharmaceutical
         2. Some are natural
         3. Some are spooky
      2. We take Tylenol, blood pressure medication, antibiotics
      3. Most will take some vaccines.
         1. Polio
         2. Measles
         3. Illustration of mine
            1. Yellow fever vaccine on one of my missions trips
               1. It was required to enter the country
            2. Chicken Pox because I have never had it

2. Do everything possible not to use them; instead focus on older, proven methods that have worked for centuries:

1. 1. 1. Home and Family
         1. Determine to have a strong family
            1. Lots of love - said and shown
         2. Work to have a peaceful home
            1. Quiet
            2. Routines
         3. Work to have a protected home
            1. The internet has caused a huge mental health crisis
               1. Bullying
               2. Shaming
               3. Promotion of negativity
                  1. Climate change
                  2. Gender issues
                  3. War
                  4. Famine
                  5. Etc
            2. TV has contributed as well
            3. Remove access to social media or greatly limit its use
               1. Our kids never had it and have all had great friends
                  1. We found those at church
                  2. We found those at Sunday School and youth programs
                  3. We found those in our own family (brothers, sisters, cousins, etc)

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Thanks for joining us! See you next week.

1. Take aways from Renea’s session (Episode 265 adn 266
   1. Have Faith in God
   2. Get all the help you can get
   3. Patiently train them
   4. Have a journal to write the journey and the memories and the blessings
   5. Have a Bible to note the promises
   6. Introduce them to Jesus
      1. Friend for my heart . . .
   7. Teach your special needs child to pray
      1. I’m very bad weak, Help me to be strong in Jesus Christ
   8. See them as a beautiful gift from God

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For this special episode Dave and Bethlie invite you to join them for part 2 of 2 of the 2024 Special Education Summit hosted by Tabernacle Christian School in Hickory North Carolina. The speaker is Renee Gamble and you will not want to miss her talk!

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Thanks for joining us! See you next week.

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For this special episode Dave and Bethlie invite you to join them for part 1 of 2 of the 2024 Special Education Summit hosted by Tabernacle Christian School in Hickory North Carolina. The speaker is Renee Gamble and you will not want to miss her talk!

Do you know someone who could benefit from this series? Will you share this episode with a friend?

Interested in attending the 2025 Special Education Summit? Click Here for more details.

Thanks for joining us! See you next week.

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