What happens when the "nice" girl stops giving a fudge?

In this raw and real episode of ily, but BFFR, host India sits down with Rosa Nice- singer, record label founder, public health activist, and plus sized model. Rosa opens up about setting boundaries in the music industry, and why being nice is overrated.

Timestamps:

💋0:00 Why “nice” isn’t the goal💋10:45 Boundaries in the studio & exposing the music industry

💋20:08 Being a plus sized girl in public health and the modeling industry

💋33:55 People were nicer to me when I was overweight

💋41:00 What radical self-respect actually looks like

If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, creative burnout, or finding your voice, tune tf in baby girl.

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Special Guest: Rosa Nice, ⁠@rosa_notso_nice⁠ on Instagram

Let’s BFFR: not every white boy is getting an invite to the cookout. And most journalists aren’t as “neutral” as they claim, verified by a real life news reporter, Nigel.

In this episode of I Love You, But BFFR, India and Nigel debate:

💋What gets a white man invited to the cookout, and the definition of spicy white

💋Kensington is way more than just a devastated neighborhood of addicts💋How media “objectivity” often masks racial bias💋Putting politicians on the spot

💋Bad bunny, metrosexuality, and internalized disgust

💋The power of storytelling, platforming, and who gets trusted on-air

I think Nigel can come to the cookout, what y’all think?

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Special Guest: Nigel Thompson, @nigelthewriter on Instagram

Social media loves to glamorize sourdough starters, herbal remedies, and the new-age tradwife aesthetic. But let’s be clear: Black and Brown communities have been growing, healing, and surviving through the land long before it became trendy. In this episode, India sits down with urban farmer and wellness advocate, Samira, to discuss reclaiming space, food access, and community.

Seeds we sow in this episode:

💋How land and wellness got separated from Black communities

💋Guerilla gardening, and how we can take back vacant land

💋Eating alone raises your blood pressure, literally

💋What to do if you’re kidnapped: Fight, flight, freeze, or a new one, fawn💋Reclaiming and redefining what was always ours: whole foods, community, and surviving off of soil

If wellness has ever felt too whitewashed, too expensive, or too curated to include you, this episode is your reminder that healing doesn’t have a look. It has a lineage. Let’s reclaim our health and wellness together. XOXO

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Special Guest: Samira J, @samibear267 on Instagram

BFFR — not everyone in the group chat is actually your friend. In this episode, India sits down with model and news reporter, Liz Crawley, to unpack the real-life signs of fake friendships, being the pretty friend, and why being desired isn’t the same as being valued. The pretty committee talks:

💋How to know if your friend is praying on your downfall

💋Pretty privilege and its impact on your friendships

💋How desirability is ultimately dehumanizing

💋The difference between being seen and being possessed

💋Refusing to shrink to make others feel better about themselves

If you’ve ever had to grieve a one-sided friendship or shrink yourself to be liked, this one’s for you baby gurll.

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Special Guest: Liz Crawley, @lizlovely on Instagram

Not every white boy in the studio is a culture vulture… even when he primarily makes drill rap. In this episode, India taps in with Philly-based engineer, producer, and Italian American, Shep, to get into the real about the music industry, sobriety, and addiction cycles most artists face.

We get into:

💋Why living in New York City will humble you, fast.

💋The pressure to constantly perform and the drugs that get you there.💋Chasing validation vs. chasing legacy.

💋Strip clubs have the best steaks, and are pivotal in cathartic purges.

💋Druski skits, and the spicy white scale

💋LA industry party scene, and how easy it is to get caught up in a freak off.💋Does drill rap promote violence, or provide a platform for rappers to heal?

This episode is a real life representation of what happens with two ADHD creatives get together and have a conversation. Buckle up for the chaos babe.

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Special Guest: Shep, @gtheshep on Instagram

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Being the oldest daughter is not just a role—it’s a lifelong sentence, with chronic sacrifice and no parole. In this episode of I Love You, But BFFR, India is joined by Sade—a first-gen Ghanaian-American immigrant, angel investor, wife, girl mom, and certified eldest daughter.

We get into:

💋The invisible labor and thankless labor of eldest daughters

💋Survival mode vs. thriving—how to know if you’re still secretly in survival mode

💋How childhood adultification shows up in friendships, love, and your career

💋Learning how to put yourself first without guilt

💋How to feed the inner child in you while still being a responsible adult

💋Why Kanye should’ve stopped at Donda, but Rihanna got it right

Join us to unpack the unspoken burdens of the oldest sibling, survival mode, and what it really takes to leave survival mode.

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Let’s be so for real—stepping into any form of on-screen entertainment is way deeper than having a pretty face. In this episode, India sits down with Philadelphia-based photographer and creative director, Justin Bullock from Unspoken Photography to set record straight about models, relying on drugs to create art, and underrated visual artists

We’re talking:

💋Why most people can’t do what models and dancers do💋The fine line between using drugz for creativity vs. dependency💋Philly sports hot takes (and also, F#$* Boston)💋Strippers, drink champs, and industry pressures

💋Shannon Sharpe’s fall from grace, and what it means for black entertainers

The Philly girl in India really popped out and screamed at y’all in this one. Pretty faces alone don’t cut it, and maybe some of your deep-rooted hate and underappreciation is internalized jealousy. The first step to healing is acceptance, mama. Tune in!

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Special Guest: Justin Bullock, @_j.bullock on Instagram

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Love you, but BFFR — what the media is “teaching” you about wellness is *mostly* a lie designed to steal your monies. My favorite fitness girlie, Jasmine Henry — a holistic health coach, Orange Theory Manager, and certified yoga instructor, joins us to debunk the myths.

We get into:

💋 Obsessing over Pilates and cardio won’t get you your “dream” body

💋 The high-protein everything craze (like the Khloe Kardashian popcorn) and why that alone isn’t enough

💋 Why developing muscle and improving bone density is more sustainable and realistic

💋How social media distorts body image expectations to create exclusivity and increase consumer spending

💋Cultural foods can be part of a healthy diet with modifications.

💋 The ongoing Tory/Megan controversy and the fight between undercover misogynists and hyper-feminists

Let’s give a collective middle finger to the fitness and cosmetic industry that’s stealing our monies and self-confidence. Jasmine is breaking down the barrier to long-term health — making it realistic, sustainable, and without pressure to be someone you’re not.

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Special Guest: Jasmine E. Henry, @jhenryhealth on Instagram