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The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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This is the Elegant Warrior Podcast. It's a podcast about elegance and all of its forms. We're talking about our definitions of elegance and how we maintain it in times of trial. We're also talking about how we can advocate for ourselves with elegance and in a way that makes us most likely to win. I'm your host, Heather Hansen, author, speaker, consultant, trainer, and self-advocacy expert. Let's talk Elegance!2020 The Elegant Warrior Desarrollo Personal Economía Éxito Personal
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  • 354: One Sentence to Help You Face Difficult Conversations

    354: One Sentence to Help You Face Difficult Conversations
    Feb 16 2026

    In today's episode, Heather shares the one sentence that will get you to show up for high-stake conversations, even when you absolutely don't want to. While mindset and emotional management are powerful, some conversations - like receiving tough feedback or facing a dreaded interview - can't be thought or felt out of. Sometimes, the only answer is a simple mantra: Do it anyway.

    Drawing from her diverse background as a trial attorney, psychology major, and certified hypnotist, Heather explains why acting in spite of dread is the ultimate secret sauce to communication. This episode is a deep dive into the power of evidence and why "doing it anyway" is a win for your personal growth, regardless of the conversation's outcome.

    Together, we explore how to collect and create evidence that supports your dreams and how to prove to yourself that you are capable of far more than your feelings suggest.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    • The Power of "Do It Anyway": Why this simple sentence is the key to breaking through the avoidance of difficult conversations.

    • The Evidence Secret Sauce: How collecting and creating evidence makes you more persuasive, influential, and charismatic.

    • Evidence You Can Do Hard Things: How pushing through a dreaded talk provides lasting proof of your own resilience.

    • Why Feelings Aren't Fatal: A reminder that emotions like embarrassment, fear, or boredom are survivable and don't have to dictate your actions.

    • The Trap of the "Soft Life": Why letting your feelings hold you back can prevent you from achieving your goals in 2026.

    • Dismantling the "Difficult" Myth: How doing the hard thing often reveals that the conversation wasn't as difficult as you imagined.

    In this episode:

    00:00 Welcome & Introduction to High-Stakes Conversations

    02:10 Episode Theme: The Mantra "Do It Anyway"

    03:55 The Role of Evidence in Personal Growth

    05:00 Evidence #1: You Can Do Hard Things

    03:26 Evidence #2: Feelings Aren't Fatal

    10:01 Evidence #3: It Might Not Be That Hard

    11:33 Tool for Today: Use Evidence to Support Your Dreams

    12:24 Preview of next week's episode

    Resources and Links:

    📘 Book: Advocate to Win by Heather Hansen – Master the tools of a trial lawyer to advocate for your own goals and dreams.

    🎧Podcast Interview: How Heather uses the Evidence Journal to build self-belief

    🎥Cindy Brady Freezes on Live Television Heather uses this as an example of how "feelings aren't fatal"-even intense embarrassment like Cindy's can be survived.

    Connect with Heather:

    • Schedule a call with Heather

    • Follow Heather on Instagram

    • Follow Heather on Facebook

    • Connect with Heather on LinkedIn

    • Website

    • Watch Episodes on Youtube

    • Heather's TikTok ‍

    • heather@elegantwarrior.com



    The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
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  • 353: 3 Ways to Manage Your Emotions for High-Stakes Conversations

    353: 3 Ways to Manage Your Emotions for High-Stakes Conversations
    Feb 9 2026
    Ever feel your heart race or your voice shake the moment you need to ask for a raise, set a boundary, or give tough feedback? High-stakes conversations don't have to be high-stress battles. In this episode, communication expert Heather shares three powerful tools to help you master your emotions and handle "difficult" conversations with clarity and calm. You'll learn how to shift your mindset from "combat" to "collaboration" using the BEAR technique - understanding how your beliefs lead to your energy, actions, and results. Heather breaks down how to stop viewing others as enemies and how to use a simple linguistic trick used by top athletes to stay objective under pressure. Whether you are navigating workplace confidence or strengthening personal relationships, these tools will help you advocate for yourself with charisma and ease. ✨ In this video, you'll learn how to: Define what advocating really means. Break down your goals into actionable, strategic steps. Overcome fear and guilt about wanting more at work. Identify the right people to ask for opportunities or resources. Strengthen your confidence by following through on your commitments. 💡 Heather introduces three core tools you can use immediately: Persuade yourself to believe something different: Use the "ladder of beliefs" to shift from fear to opportunity without gaslighting yourself. Be A.G.I.L.E.: Learn to "Assume Good Intentions, Love Everyone" to change your energy and get better results. Practice Illeism: Use the psychological power of speaking about yourself in the third person to remove emotional triggers. 🕒 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Handling emotions in high-stakes conversations 01:23 The BEAR framework: beliefs, energy, actions, results 02:00 Tool #1: Persuade yourself to believe something different 03:05 Using a ladder of beliefs (without gaslighting yourself) 04:18 Collecting vs. creating evidence for new beliefs 05:31 Tool #2: Be agile - assume good intentions, love everyone 06:28 Seeing others as teammates, not enemies 09:39 Tool #3: Illeism - speaking about yourself in the third person 12:08 Recap: the three tools for emotional control 13:08 What's coming next + listener invitation 📝Related Resources: 📘 Book: Advocate to Win by Heather Hansen https://www.amazon.com/Advocate-Win-Tools-What-Want/dp/1642936634 🧠 Book: Chatter by Ethan Kross https://www.amazon.com/Chatter-Voice-Head-Matters-Harness/dp/0525575235 📗Book: Shift: Managing Your Emotions--So They Don't Manage You by Ethan Kross https://www.amazon.com/Shift-Managing-Your-Emotions-So-Manage/dp/B0D5YZ42FL/ 💬 Join the Conversation: Which of these three tools do you need most for your next big meeting? Let us know in the comments! 👍 If this video helped you: Like it to support the channel Subscribe for more communication tips and high-stakes conversation strategies Share it with a friend who is preparing for a difficult talk SEO Keywords: self advocacy at work, communication skills, workplace confidence, how to speak up at work, career growth, advocate for yourself, difficult conversations, negotiation skills, personal development, Heather Hansen, Elegant Warrior Podcast. Connect with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather https://www.beliefbuilders.com/contact Follow Heather on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/anelegantwarrior/ Website https://www.beliefbuilders.com/ Watch Episodes on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@Beliefbuildersacademy Heather's TikTok ‍https://www.tiktok.com/@theelegantwarrior?_t=8oq50EMkKPG&_r=1 heather@elegantwarrior.com The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
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  • 352: Three Tools for Mastering "Difficult" Conversations

    352: Three Tools for Mastering "Difficult" Conversations
    Feb 2 2026

    In today's episode of The Elegant Warrior, Heather breaks down why "difficult conversations" are only difficult if you believe they are. Whether you're giving or receiving feedback, negotiating a raise, setting a boundary, or asking for help, Heather shares three practical tools to help you prepare mentally, emotionally, and strategically.

    Drawing from her experience as a trial attorney, communication expert, and advocate, Heather explains how your beliefs shape your energy, your actions, and ultimately your results. You'll learn how to reframe the story you're telling yourself, calm your nervous system when fight, flight, freeze, or fawn shows up, and recognize when argument helps and when it hurts.

    This episode is a grounded, actionable guide to approaching high-stakes conversations with more confidence, calm, and clarity.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    • Why "difficult" is just a story
      How your belief about a conversation determines your energy, behavior, and outcome.

    • The BEAR framework
      How belief leads to energy, energy leads to action, and action leads to results.

    • How to test your story
      Why changing the narrative in your head can immediately change how your body responds.

    • Mothering the animal of your body
      How to work with your nervous system instead of fighting it when stress shows up.

    • The three Bs for calming your nervous system
      Breathing, binding, and bending to signal safety and control.

    • Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn
      How these instinctive responses show up in conversations like negotiations and feedback.

    • When argument is the wrong tool
      Why arguing rarely works when the other person is the decision maker.

    • A grounding mantra for high-stakes moments
      A simple phrase to calm your subconscious and help you choose presence over fear.

    In this episode:

    00:00 – Introduction & Evolution of the Podcast

    04:00 – Preparing for High-Stakes Conversations

    04:30 – Tool 1: Test Your Story

    08:24 – Tool 2: Mothering the Animal

    09:47 – The Three B's: Breathe, Bind, and Extend

    14:28 – Tool 3: Know When to Argue

    17:15 – Summary of the Three Tools

    18:21 – Tool For Today (TT): Affirmation Mantra

    20:12 – Conclusion & Closing Remarks

    Resources and Links:

    📘 Book: Advocate to Win by Heather Hansen
    Learn how to persuade, influence, and communicate effectively in high-stakes situations.

    🎧 Grace Smith, Clinical Hypnotherapist
    Learn more about hypnosis, subconscious calming techniques, and the mantra shared in these videos. Learn more about Grace Smith at her official website: gracesmith.com

    Connect with Heather:

    • Schedule a call with Heather

    • Follow Heather on Instagram

    • Follow Heather on Facebook

    • Connect with Heather on LinkedIn

    • Website

    • Watch Episodes on Youtube

    • Heather's TikTok ‍

    • heather@elegantwarrior.com



    The Elegant Warrior Podcast and content posted by Heather Hansen is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.
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