So often we believe that a better relationship depends on our partner changing. But the truth is, the real work starts with you.

If you’ve ever felt stuck giving too much, overcompensating, or constantly managing the relationship on your own, this episode is for you. I share practical ways to start building self-love as a standard in your life, how to navigate guilt or frustration when it arises, and why creating this inner foundation can transform your romantic relationships from the inside out.

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Beating yourself up might feel productive, but it's actually keeping you stuck in the same painful patterns. The real work of healing from trauma isn't about fixing all your problems or thinking positive thoughts. It's about developing self-love as a skill—a feeling you can generate in your body that becomes the fuel for different actions.

In this episode, I'm sharing why the skill of self-love isn't fluff. Through a specific process of recognizing when you're in a trauma response and bringing love to that moment, you can start to grow around your pain rather than trying to make it disappear.

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Life moves in seasons, just like the world around us. Summer turns to fall, winter melts into spring, and nature shows us how to flow with change. Yet in our own lives, we often fight those shifts—pushing ourselves to stay in “summer mode,” always productive, always busy, always trying to feel amazing.

In this episode, I’m sharing how to honor where you are right now and use each season to your advantage. You’ll discover why rest can be just as productive as action, how to nurture new growth, and when to harvest the wisdom your current season is offering. Most importantly, you’ll walk away knowing that no season lasts forever—and each one is preparing you for what’s next.

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