Welcome to the How to Love Yourself No Matter What podcast with Amanda Hess. In this episode, Amanda dives deep into a topic so many of us struggle with: feeling responsible for everyone around us. If you’re the person everyone relies on, the peacekeeper holding it all together, or someone who’s secretly exhausted but scared to stop, this episode is for you.

Drawing from her personal experiences and work as a certified life coach, Amanda unpacks why so many women feel trapped by the belief that they must be the strong one, and how this thinking leads to burnout, resentment, and the loss of self. She explores both societal and personal conditioning that teaches women to prioritize everyone else’s needs above their own and gets candid about the physical, emotional, and mental toll this takes.

But Amanda doesn’t stop there—she offers practical strategies for breaking this cycle, including the power of tiny acts of self-care, regulating your nervous system, emotional processing, and the radical act of putting yourself at the top of your own list. If you’re ready to set healthier boundaries, stop overfunctioning, and reclaim your sense of self, tune in and join Amanda as she shares the tools and mindset shifts you need to let go of what was never yours to carry.

Let’s get started on the path to freedom, fulfillment, and self-love—one small shift at a time.

Timestamps:

00:00 "The Burden of Being Strong"

03:48 "Conditioned to Prioritize Others' Needs"

07:04 Balancing Parenthood, Career, and Life

12:13 The Anxiety of Unwarranted Responsibility

15:34 Fear of Setting Boundaries

19:21 Begin Processing Personal Emotions

24:09 "Prioritize Personal Boundaries, Self-Care"

25:08 "Embrace Change for Personal Fulfillment"

30:03 "Free Week: Let Go & Transform"

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If you’ve ever felt like you just can’t handle rejection, this episode is for you. Amanda Hess dives deep into rejection sensitivity—what it is, where it comes from, and how it affects the way we think and feel, especially for those who are neurodivergent or have experienced trauma.

Key Takeaways:

What is rejection sensitivity?
Amanda discusses how rejection sensitivity is the tendency to feel real or perceived rejection more intensely than others, leading to heightened emotions, misreading social cues, and sometimes overreacting to neutral interactions.

Why are some people more sensitive?
Neurodivergence, trauma, and constant invalidation can train us to expect rejection, often resulting in masking behaviors and self-doubt.

How does it show up?
Rejection sensitivity can ebb and flow depending on emotional capacity—think stress levels, sleep, confidence, and life events. When we’re vulnerable, small rejections can feel overwhelming and lead to negative thought spirals.

Recognizing emotional bias:
Amanda explains the difference between “clean pain” (the immediate feeling) and “dirty pain” (the stories we tell ourselves about what rejection means), and how the latter keeps us stuck.

Regulating your response:
Instead of trying to avoid or tolerate rejection, Amanda encourages listeners to grow their capacity for it. This means grounding yourself, breathing, and reminding yourself that rejection is just a feeling, not a confirmation of unworthiness.

A personal example:
Amanda shares a story about navigating tense conversations in her son’s basketball team group chat and how perspective can change emotional reactions.

Practical advice:
If rejection sensitivity is getting in your way, try to pause, notice your thought patterns, and ask yourself what else could be true. Focus on expanding your tolerance rather than avoiding difficult feelings.

Join the conversation:
Amanda offers support through her coaching membership, with live coaching calls, daily written coaching, and a private podcast. If you need more personalized help, you can book a free consultation.

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We say we want peace, but what we really need is emotional safety—the ability to be with ourselves, feel any emotion, and know we can handle it.

This 18-minute episode dives into a truth that’s often overlooked in the self-help world. Peace isn’t about having a quiet life—it’s about having a strong inner world.

🧠 Timestamps & Key Takeaways:

00:00 – 01:45
📍 Why “peace” isn’t what you think it is
Amanda shares how this episode—originally recorded for private clients—turns into a universal message. The most common client request? “I just want peace.” But what does that really mean?

01:46 – 04:40
📍 Peace vs. Emotional Safety
Peace is a feeling, not a destination. It’s unique to everyone and often fleeting. Amanda explains how emotional safety—knowing you can handle any emotion—is what actually creates sustainable peace.

04:41 – 07:30
📍 What you're really asking for when you say “peace”
You’re probably trying to escape the overthinking, the mental tug-of-war. Amanda reframes this as a call for quieting the mind through emotional safety—not resisting your emotions, but allowing them.

07:31 – 10:30
📍 How to recognize and work with difficult emotions like loneliness
Using vivid metaphors (like the fluttering bird in your chest), Amanda explains how to stop resisting emotions like loneliness and instead become curious about what they’re telling you.

10:31 – 13:00
📍 Creating emotional safety starts with nervous system regulation
Peace isn’t found in a bubble bath—it’s in a plan. Amanda gets real about regulating your nervous system throughoutyour day, not just when it’s convenient.

13:01 – 15:00
📍 Allowing emotions in your body—not thinking your way out
Self-help often tries to logic away emotions. Amanda explains why feeling them in your body is more powerful, and shares what anxiety feels like for her—plus how she softens it.

15:01 – 16:30
📍 Rewriting the story in your mind
You don’t have to stay stuck in “I can’t” or “I’m too busy.” Amanda shows how to start shifting your inner dialogue to one that supports your growth.

16:31 – 18:00
📍 Nobody’s coming to save you—and that’s good news
You are your own hero. Amanda wraps up with a powerful message about self-responsibility, self-trust, and building the life you actually want.

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