From People Pleasing to Self-Trust

What if the very habits you thought were protecting your relationships—like avoiding conflict or putting others first—were the ones keeping you stuck? In this insightful and empowering episode of Happiness On Tap, psychotherapist and codependency expert Michelle Farris joins Leann Herron to unpack the hidden costs of people-pleasing and the life-changing journey toward self-trust.

Michelle shares her compassionate wisdom and practical tools for breaking free from codependent patterns that erode self-worth and blur personal boundaries.

Together, they explore:

• What codependency really means—and why it's more common than you think

• Surprising signs of codependent behavior you might not recognize

• People-pleasing as a survival strategy—how it starts and why it sticks

• The role of self-trust in healing from codependency and how to begin reclaiming it

• Boundaries vs. walls—and how to create space for connection, not control

• How healing impacts every relationship, from romantic partners to coworkers

• Michelle’s courses and resources for ongoing support and growth

• The one message Michelle hopes every woman takes to heart when she realizes she’s lost herself in a relationship

Whether you're just beginning to notice patterns of self-abandonment or deep into your healing journey, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and direction. Tune in and start building relationships that honor you.

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Episode Resources:

Michelle Farris:

Website: https://www.counselingrecovery.com

Follow Michelle on Instagram: @counselingrecovery

YouTube: Relationships That Work with Michelle Farris https://www.youtube.com/@MichelleFarrismft

FREE Gift: 7 Steps Healing One-Sided Relationships https://counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-relationship-freebie/

Check out her online courses on Codependency, Anger Management, Self-Trust, and Healthy Relationships

Finding Resilience with Leann:

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Website: https://findingresiliencewithleann.com

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leannherron/

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Decoding Emotions

In this powerful episode, Leann Herron (transformation coach for women) is joined by Lisa Anzaldua (holistic psychotherapist and neurodiverse couples counselor) for a deep dive into the truth about our emotions.Too often, emotions are labeled as irrational or inconvenient—but in reality, they’re wise messengers from your inner world.

Together, Leann and Lisa explore how to decode emotional overwhelm and access the deeper intelligence hiding beneath the chaos.If you've ever felt like your emotions were "too much," this episode will help you reframe them as allies, not enemies.

Key Takeaways:

Greetings and introduction (small technical issues)

What your emotions are really trying to tell you—and why they’re never random

Elevated emotions (anxiety, panic), pay attention to what they are trying to tell you, and start reframing your experience

Your emotions are a signal, a window of opportunity to utilize the tools to control your emotions, not your emotions controlling you

What rumination thoughts are trying to tell you, and tools for regulating your nervous system

How suppressing emotions over time can lead to burnout, fatigue, and other psychosomatic issues

Example of repressed emotions from years of caretaking of others, manifesting into/trigger anger, resentment, rage

A closer look at the emotional phases of Cassandra Syndrome and how chronic emotional invalidation impacts expression, especially in neurodiverse and misunderstood relationships

Neurodiverse couples trauma cycle explained

Are you losing yourself in your relationship(s)

Lifegiving vs lifetaking energy

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Episode Resources:

Host:

Leann Herron

Finding Resilience with Leann

Website: https://findingresiliencewithleann.com

Podcast: Happiness On Tap Podcast https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLVch1Dz_wc4GYfCzZrK656eNXpOqBYcm3&si=yq5DJ2PixbIrlIQW

Host:

Lisa Anzaldua

Website: https://www.designed-empowerment.com/

Website: https://www.thrivingbeyondcassandrasyndrome.com/

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The Truth About Self-Love

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Leann Herron (Transformation Coach for Women) and Lisa Anzaldua (Holistic Psychotherapist and Neurodiverse Couples Counselor) strip away the surface-level clichés of self-love and dive into what it really means—especially when life feels overwhelming or messy.

*This episode was supposed to be a Livestream, due to technical issues, this is now a podcast episode.

We discussed:

What we are going to cover in this episode (self-love, integration of the parts of ourselves, power of self-forgiveness)

What self-love means (in relationships, within neurodiverse couples)

Tool for going within ourselves in a way that is powerful and life-changing - breath work

Conceptual self-love - we are not our story, we are our truth, integration of all parts of ourselves

Connection to relationships and neurodiverse dynamics (our needs)

Working with Internal Family System Therapy (IFS) to support the parts that feel unworthy, unsafe, or over-responsible

Safety

Tool for reimagining experiences to neutralize emotional triggers

Go to your core true self to heal parts of you

Shame and judgment - where did it come from, is it your truth, how internalized shame sabotages self-worth

Value - who are you when you are fully authentic, allowing yourself to naturally be who you are authentically

Honoring the journey of self-forgiveness

Experiential exercises: Silva method of meditation (alpha brainwave state), journaling the next time you feel triggered and explore from a place of love, create a scale on one area of your life (1-10) identify how you are currently feeling/fulfilled in this area and identify one step at a time what you can do to move through the scale.

👍If this conversation inspired you, imagine what’s possible when you take control of your own health and wellness journey!

Visit Leann Herron at https://findingresiliencewithleann.com/ for coaching, resources, and support to help you thrive.

Visit Lisa Anzaldua at https://www.thrivingbeyondcassandrasyndrome.com/ for guidance, community, and a framework designed for post-traumatic growth.

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Becoming Your Own Healer: Brainwaves, Chakras & Inner Alchemy

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In this empowering episode, Leann Herron (Transformation Coach for Women) and Lisa Anzaldua (Holistic Psychotherapist and Neurodiverse Couples Counselor) explore the often-overlooked inner technologies that support deep, personal healing.

We guide listeners through the interconnected wisdom of brainwave states, chakra consciousness, and the sacred role of imagination in transformation.

We unpack how the theta brainwave state—commonly accessed in meditation and creativity—acts as a portal for healing and intuitive insight.

The conversation then turns to the chakra system, not just as energy centers but as maps of consciousness and emotional memory.

We introduce the concept of “Power Portals”, key chakra points that can be intentionally activated to shift emotional blocks and restore energetic flow.

Through breath, sound, and imagery, listeners are invited to reclaim their healing journey with practices that feel both grounded and mystical.

Key Highlights:

How imagination and theta brainwaves help rewire old emotional patterns

Using your chakras as guides to decode where trauma lives in your body

Clearing emotional energy by working with your Power Portals

Tapping into your natural healing intelligence using simple tools

Guided Practice: Lisa leads a short visualization meditation, activating the heart and third eye chakras using breath awareness. This practice invites you to reconnect with your inner wisdom and begin restoring your sense of wholeness.

🎧 Tune in to learn how your own body and mind hold the keys to transformation.

👍If this conversation inspired you, imagine what’s possible when you take control of your own health and wellness journey!

Visit Leann Herron at https://findingresiliencewithleann.com/ for coaching, resources, and support to help you thrive.

Visit Lisa Anzaldua at https://www.thrivingbeyondcassandrasyndrome.com for guidance, community, and a framework designed for post-traumatic growth.

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How to Heal Attachment Wounds

In this heartfelt and eye-opening conversation, Leann Herron (transformation coach for women) is joined by Lisa Anzaldua (psychotherapist, spiritual coach, and neurodiverse couples counselor) to explore the roots and ripple effects of attachment wounds—the emotional injuries that often stem from unmet needs, emotional neglect, or inconsistent caregiving in early life.

Lisa breaks down what attachment wounds are and how they form, explaining how they can leave deep emotional imprints that shape how we relate to others, especially in Cassandra relationships and neurodiverse partnerships, where chronic misattunement and misunderstanding can reopen old wounds.

Together, Leann and Lisa dive into:

How attachment wounds manifest in adulthood—through anxiety, avoidance, or emotional dysregulation in relationships

The unique challenges neurodiverse couples face in building connection and safety

How tools from Inner Child Work and Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help us access, validate, and heal wounded parts of ourselves

What secure attachment actually feels like in the body—calm, consistent, and safe

Lisa offers practical, compassionate guidance for anyone navigating old emotional injuries in current relationships, especially those wondering why certain patterns keep repeating no matter how much they "work on themselves."

Key Insight: “You can’t heal attachment wounds with logic alone—you have to bring your body, your nervous system, and your inner parts into the process.” – Lisa Anzaldua

Episode Resources:

Leann Herron

Finding Resilience with Leann

Website: https://findingresiliencewithleann.com/ for coaching, resources, and support to help you thrive.

Podcast: Happiness On Tap Podcast https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLVch1Dz_wc4GYfCzZrK656eNXpOqBYcm3&si=yq5DJ2PixbIrlIQW

Lisa Anzaldua

Website: https://www.designed-empowerment.com/

Website: https://www.thrivingbeyondcassandrasyndrome.com/

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Inside the Mind of a Narcissist: How to Break Free and Reclaim Your Life

In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Leann Herron sits down with Ben Taylor, a self-aware narcissist in recovery and the creator of Raw Motivations. Ben brings a rare and raw perspective to the world of healing from narcissistic abuse—offering insight from the inside of the narcissistic mind and a roadmap for survivors seeking freedom.Ben Taylor, founder of Raw Motivations, a global platform that helps women break free from narcissistic abuse and rebuild the lives they were always meant to live. Ben isn’t your average coach—he’s a self-aware narcissist in recovery, using his unique perspective to expose what really happens inside these relationships and how survivors can truly break free.Key Takeaways:

1. Ben’s Story of Awareness and Healing - Ben shares how he came to recognize his own narcissistic patterns, the pain and shame behind them, and what the recovery process has looked like for him. His self-awareness now fuels his mission to help others break free from similar cycles.

2. Signs You May Be in a Toxic Relationship - Subtle but significant red flags—like brain fog, erosion of identity, boundary violations, gaslighting, and mirroring—can keep people stuck in relationships that slowly dismantle their sense of self.

3. Understanding Trauma Bonds - Ben breaks down what trauma bonding is and why it’s so powerful. He highlights three core components—hope/potential, cognitive dissonance, and intermittent reinforcement—that make it hard for survivors to leave, even when they know something is wrong.

4. The FREEDOM FORMULA for Healing - Ben walks us through his trauma-informed FREEDOM FORMULA, a step-by-step process designed to help survivors rebuild their lives, reclaim their identity, and break free from manipulation for good.

5. Debunking Myths that Keep People Trapped - From “narcissists can’t change” to “I have to stay for the kids,” Ben tackles the lies survivors are told—and tell themselves—that keep them stuck in shame, fear, or silence.

6. Programs that Rebuild Identity and Self-Worth - Using tools like STACK, CORE4, and the FREEDOM FORMULA, Ben helps women reconnect with who they are, rebuild confidence, and trust themselves again after years of emotional erosion.

7. Why Community and Education Matter - Healing doesn’t happen in isolation. Ben emphasizes the power of community, coaching, and education as pillars of accountability and long-term growth.

With over 450,000 followers and a passionate, purpose-driven approach to trauma recovery, Ben is helping shift the narrative around narcissistic abuse—from confusion and codependency to clarity, empowerment, and freedom.

This episode is for you if:

• You’ve experienced narcissistic abuse

• You’re trying to make sense of a confusing relationship

• You want to understand the deeper dynamics of toxic behavior

• You’re ready to reclaim your identity and step into healing

🎧 Tune in to reclaim your power and discover that freedom isn’t just possible—it’s waiting for you.

Episode Resources:

Ben Taylor

Website: Raw Motivations

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations

Email: support@rawmotivations.com

Free Gift: 9 Traits ofNarcissistic Personality Disorder https://www.rawmotivations.com/9-traits-of-npd

Finding Resilience with Leann:

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