There is a gap between where your life is and where you thought it would be. That gap has a name. It is grief. A kind of hidden, invisible grief. And most of us are walking around carrying it without ever calling it that, because we have been taught that grief belongs only to those who have lost someone to death. The rest of us are supposed to just get on with it.

Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct senior fellow at the University of Canterbury, a leading resilience researcher, and one of the world's most trusted voices on loss and grief. Her TED talk on resilience has been viewed more than nine million times. She is also a mother who lost her 12-year-old daughter, Abi, in a car accident in 2014, and who has spent the decade since weaving her scientific training and her lived experience into tools that actually work. Her new book is How Will I Ever Get Through This?

In this conversation, we go to the places most conversations about grief are afraid to go.

What you will explore:

• Why grief is not an emotion but a full-body experience that explains the exhaustion, brain fog, and 3 am waking you may have been blaming on other things
• What "living losses" are, the griefs that come without a funeral, and why they may be driving far more of our suffering than we recognize
• The difference between acceptance and coming to terms with, and why one word changes everything about how you move through loss
• What the research actually shows about post-traumatic growth, including the statistic that will surprise you about how common it actually is
• Why resilience is not about bouncing back, and what Dr. Hone means when she says you do not bounce back from anything that matters
• The one question she asks herself in the hardest moments, and why it is a more useful starting point than any technique

If you have ever minimized something you were going through because it did not feel like it counted as real loss, this conversation is for you.

You can find Lucy at: Website | Instagram | Episode Transcript

Next week, I am going solo to talk about something that I think a lot of us are quietly carrying, the conversations we know we need to have with the people who matter most to us, and why we keep finding reasons not to have them. The research turns out to be really clear on this: we consistently overestimate how bad it will be and underestimate how much it costs us to stay silent. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you don’t miss any upcoming episodes!

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Somewhere in the last few years, a lot of us started asking a version of the same question: who am I now, and what am I actually here to do? The answers don't come from a quiz or a vision board. But they just might come from the one word that has been running your life all along, whether you knew it or not.

Erin Weed is a speaker coach, keynote speaker, and the creator of the Dig, a purpose-excavation method she has used with over a thousand leaders, founders, and changemakers across every stage of life and reinvention. Her new book, Just One Word: The Surprisingly Simple Method to Discover Your Purpose and Unleash Your Power, is the culmination of that work. She also spent over a decade as head speaker coach for TEDxBoulder, helping people find the one true thing they need to say and the courage to say it.

In this conversation, you get to watch the Dig happen in real time, because Jonathan sits down in the chair and lets Erin guide him through the full process.

What you will explore:

• What the Dig is and why close to 100% of people who think they know their word are actually wrong
• How your life story, all of it, from childhood to present day, contains a 10-word operating system that explains exactly how you tick
• Why your deepest violations, the things that make you genuinely angry, point directly toward your core word
• The difference between the word you think defines you and the one that actually does
• How knowing your word changes the way you make decisions, support the people you love, and build the things that matter most to you
• What Jonathan's word turned out to be, and the moment in the conversation where it landed

If you have ever felt like you were circling your purpose without quite landing on it, this conversation is for you.

You can find Erin at: Website | Instagram | Episode Transcript

Next week, we're sharing our conversation with Dr. Lucy Hone to talk about something most of us are carrying without ever calling it what it is: the grief that comes without a funeral, the losses that do not count as real loss in our culture but may be driving more of our suffering than we know. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you don’t miss any upcoming episodes!

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• Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel
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The voice telling you that you're not enough, that something is about to go wrong, that you should have done it differently, it sounds like you. That's exactly what makes it so hard to catch and so hard to stop.

Emiliya Zhivotovskaya has spent decades inside the science and practice of mental wellbeing, training thousands of coaches worldwide through her Certification in Applied Positive Psychology program.

Her own path into this work began with a personal reckoning. An eating disorder that started in adolescence, years of thoughts she couldn't separate from herself, and the moment someone first told her she didn't have to be a passive recipient of what her mind was doing to her.

In this conversation, we go deep into the phenomenon most of us call overthinking and find out it's not one thing. It's five distinct types of chatter, each with its own voice, its own purpose, and its own specific antidote.

What you'll explore:

• The five types of mind chatter: worry, motivation, mindset, judgment, and regret. And how to tell which one is running you at any given moment
• Why high-level worriers actually problem-solve less effectively, and what to do with anxiety that won't respond to "just let it go"
• The "I can't... yet" reframe that shifts a fixed mindset in a single word, and why it works where positive affirmations don't
• How to take your brain to court, the evidence-based tool for the thoughts that insist you're not enough
• Why your chatter isn't trying to destroy you, and what it's actually asking for

If you've ever found yourself exhausted not by what's happening, but by what your mind keeps doing with it, this is the conversation for it.

You can find Emiliya at: Website | Instagram | Mind Over Chatter Course | Episode Transcript

Next week, we're sharing our conversation with Erin Weed, talking about her book Just One Word, and the surprisingly simple method she's used to help over a thousand people unlock their purpose and finally feel clear on who they are and where they're headed. If you've ever felt like you're searching for that through-line in your life, this conversation is for you.

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• Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel
• Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes

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