In this episode, Sharon Leigh shares her insights on education, neurodivergence, and the importance of questioning traditional narratives, using the french poem about a 'bad student' as a springboard for deeper reflection.

Le Cancre by Jacques Prévert

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Greetings Friends!

This one from 2022 was very influenced by the Book Wanting from Luke Burgess and the concept of modelling he describes in the book.

Who am I modelling on?

is really hard for Alex to say - because some things he likes to model had to be separated from the person

- like Steve Jobs

- try to model for example thinking models like Reasoning from First Principles

- Stoicism

- Like to Model or be inspired by people who or whose work I like.

Have to differentiate their Life and Character from the WAY they do things or they think

and then see if it works for me

- Casey Neistat

- [[Quelle - Neil Gaiman]]

- Katy Bowman

- Ryan Holiday

- Seth Godin

- Gary Vaynerchuk

- Ali Abdaal

- Tim Ferriss

- James Altucher

Try to pick

What do children model

Book Luke Burgess Wanting

when Alex was a kid he modelled for example my older cousin and people from movies

today:

ALex doesn't model people he knows personally

Sharon:

Freshmanistan

Celebristan

George Carlin / Richard Prior

Die 2 - Tony Curtis - Roger Moore

Modelling Karate Kid

and wishing for Mr Miyagi

Yoda

Dumbledore

They are very caring and protective

You can model yourself but not the circumstances

Do nothing - conversations / workshop

Unhurried conversations

Slow food - slow interaction

Blogging for serendipty in ours

Modelling with intent

Writing. - not thinking about a target person for content - modelling neil gaiman for writing fiction conciously to get into the writing

Using neil gaiman's fountain pen

Art Matters

you are what you risk

The Artist's way

Ann Handley Newsletter

Taking notes in a converstaions

Follow multiple conversations

and people who cannot follow

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We knoooow it has been a long time :) But we are back (in fact we never went anywhere - we recorded almost weekly - but didn't published) until TODAY! YAY!

In this conversation, we (Alex and Sharon) shortly reflect on our summer adventures and the importance of maintaining connections.

Then we delve into the significance of self-calming techniques, coping mechanisms, and the dynamics of neurodiversity in relationships.

We highlight the necessity of preparedness in various situations, the role of humor and storytelling in social interactions, and the importance of communication in navigating relationships.

And in the end we share our own practical self-calming strategies and tactics.

If you would like to share your best self calming techniques with us, please let us know!

mail@alex-kahl.de with Subject: FRT Feedback Self Calming

Greetings Friends! This Episode revolves around being a Neurodivergent in relationships. Not only romantic relationships but friendships, work relationships and family business.

Have fun and get in touch with us!

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com

and

mail@alex-kahl.de

Load on attention

1 1/2 until Sharon hosts her retreat

Being Neurodivergent in a relationship

Sharon's take on relatoinships

Alex is bit responsible for himself and for his girlfriend's reactions

overselfimportance

Aren't YOU perfect?

What kind of therapy exist for neurodivergent partners?

In Germany Therapy is REALLY not as accepted as in US

What is therapy for?

You just have to be open to discuss it

Dealing with medicine

Not putting others on the defensive

"I am reviewing who i want to be involved with. i am specifically looking for cooperative healthinsurance partners" - change the dynamics for my self made healthcare plan

Our boundaries

Minimize sensory overload

Example: The Wedding Reception - with earplugs

The reason why it took Alex until he was 40 to have kids

Choose from whom you learn from

Caretaker for older pepople with robots

Ali Abdaal - got the Feedback as a medical Student he had to work on his empathy for bein ga Doctor

Future of medical care

lowering the Egos on both side

"how to be a good patient"

Giving others a user manual for yourself

travelling as a neurodivergent

being overwhelmed by people

or

by expectation

preloading energy

segway into

Book: IMAGINABLE

by Jane McGonigal

course at stanford

muscles for imagination are very well developed in sharon

Sparring in Martial Arts takes the Shock away

like imagining takes the shock away

preparing for blackouts, anxiety

Prepare to being rediculous

Nature and Nurture

Raise kids being on the spectrum

it bothers us but it doesnt stop us

Montessori

Trust

female human animals are people pleasuers

trust own instincts and trust their own selfs

- freunde finden, freunde verlieren, angst davor ablegen, alleine sein

neurodivergent have more experience with taking a punch into the face

"thats the way society is"

as a neurodivergent in FRANCE

with all that kissing on the cheek :)

how much energy it takes to meat the demands of sucial and cultural

idea

RENT A NEURODIVERGENT

a Mediator

"What is your wicked problem?"

TV Series like Scorpion

underapprciated skillsets

like seeing around corners

Penetration testing for Business Models

https://tim.blog/2022/03/16/jane-mcgonigal-imaginable/

Greetings Friend!

Yaay! We have a YouTube channel! And we love you to subscribe and share it! :)

https://www.youtube.com/@freerangethinkingpodcast

So you can also SEE us in out cozy recording caves :-D

So we got the inspiration for this episode from a comment on the YouTube Channel called "How to ADHD"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEHD8B33-wc&t=2s

Alex often heard how he changed in the last years especially from his old friends

Friendship making with Neurodiversions

Prinz: Autsmus Pandemie / Ist Autismus jetzt In?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKWOyZr0QUg

Celebrating the labels or dropping the labels

How Technology can making friendshipmaking even easier

The danger of online friendships all around the world

Finding your tribe

Culture of US High School

Change your group of friends

THe Courage to be disliked

How to make / maintain friendships

What do I need in a friendships?

Interestingness :-)

Out of sight out of mind

Life is already hard enough

Don't make it harder for each other as friends

Maybe we are suspicious to Neurotypical people

Social anxiety

Tip: Abstraction

Being social for my daughter

Try PnP Roleplaying

Want to come out and play?

Let's have a coffee?

Sharon's tip on ending social events.

## Links

- YoutTube Comment

- The courage to be disliked https://www.amazon.de/Courage-Be-Disliked-yourself-happiness-ebook/dp/B074TWG8V7/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_de_DE=ÅMÅŽÕÑ&crid=16F0OOEC335VL&keywords=courage+to+be+disliked&qid=1678638620&sprefix=courage+to+be+dislike%2Caps%2C273&sr=8-1

We now: the last 3 episodes were released in between 3 days :) LOTS of Sharon and Alex for you this week - but I wasn't able to edit the episodes earlier. Now we are back on track.

If you would like to reach out to us we love to hear from you!

Ask us questions, tell us your stories or get on the show and let's talk together about Neurodiversity in all its facettes:

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com and

mail@alex-kahl.de

And now have fun listening! Here are some of our shownotes what we are talking about in this episode:

Do neurodivergent suffer more or less from Shame?

What are the family implications?

Imposter syndrome

Tv recommendation: Severance - split work and private life

Corporate Cultures

Comparison to other people

What are the difference between coaching and training

Sharon's take:

Emergent learning and client lead exploration

Fascilitation

Corporate Artist

Marcus John Henry Brown again :)

part 1 - The Tangible Corporate Machine https://youtu.be/YKSa_8vt-sk

part 2 - WORK like an artist https://youtu.be/JuBmHHKj6jk

part 3 - Sanctuary https://youtu.be/boW6nwW5LYU

Do Artists feel less shame?

Do they deal with it differently?

or do they become artists because the lack of shame?

Sounds we make in a conversation

Do actors become actors because they want to be someone else?

Alexes 2016 Project: 100 Vlogs a day to 42

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLa1NuzVzxAu1R57qW5bJWQKPmSTYDlPr4

How to teach kids to have a healthy relationship with shame

Being judgmental with yourself leads to shame

Singing

Level of Delightment

Let others do that better

Fortify Kids for shame

Personality type as receptive

Motivation intrinsically or extrinsically

Neuschwanstein as a metaphor for neurodiverse achievement