In this episode, we dive deep into a topic that often gets overlooked in marriage: the difference between wounds carried into the marriage (pre-marriage wounds) and wounds that arise in the marriage (in-marriage wounds).

If you’ve noticed recurring conflict, cycles you can't seem to break, or strain in your relationship that doesn’t seem to make sense, this one is for you.

We’ll unpack:

• Why simply changing the scenery (new job, new house, new spouse) won’t fix the root of the problem.

• How to identify whether a struggle started before your covenant or within it.

• The difference between trigger and root — what event might have ignited the wound versus what history is actually fueling it.

• A useful diagnosis framework (four questions) to help you trace the origin, the agreement you've made, and where the fruit of the wound is showing up.

• Common examples of pre-marriage wounds: family dysfunction, step-family trauma, unmet father/mother images, old soul-ties, unhealed childhood vulnerabilities.

• Common examples of in-marriage wounds: betrayal or secrecy, poor communication patterns, spiritual imbalance, financial conflict, withholding affection or intimacy, misaligned leadership in the home.

• Practical next-steps: How to steward the wound — for pre-marriage wounds, how to renounce unhealthy vows, rebuild identity, seal the temple and fill the void; for in-marriage wounds, how to walk in ongoing repentance, rebuild governance, restore what’s broken, and remove what’s feeding the wound.

Why it matters:
Many couples think their conflict is only about “what’s happening now,” but the truth is that unresolved issues from before the marriage often surface inside the marriage and get mis-diagnosed.

If you treat the fruit instead of the root, you might keep experiencing the same patterns in a new season.

What you’ll walk away with:

• A clearer understanding of whether your marital pain is rooted in the past or being created in the present.

• A clearer path toward healing: both internal (identity, past wounds) and relational (communication, trust, leadership).

• Practical steps to apply in your life and in your marriage that move you beyond mere avoidance or surface fixes.

• A renewed hope: you don’t have to keep repeating the same cycle. The difference between pre-marriage and in-marriage wounding can make all the difference.

In this episode, we talk about the rise of false brides in the church, the danger of false stands in marriage, and the spiritual deception that’s entering homes under the disguise of faith. Many believers have received salvation, but they’re building their marriages in their own name instead of God’s.This message will shake every spouse who’s praying for restoration but standing from the wrong posture. It’s a prophetic warning for those who are tolerating compromise, idolatry, and self-righteousness — in the name of “waiting on God.”🔥 Topics Covered:The difference between the Designed Divide and the False DivideHow the Refiner’s Fire exposes what was built on the wrong foundationWhy your heart can make you just as guilty as your spouseHow to discern when your “stand” has turned into idolatryThe Hebrew word pictures behind fire, man, woman, and warWhy the church is being infiltrated by false brides and false doctrines📖 Scriptures:1 Corinthians 3 • Luke 13 • Malachi 3 • Isaiah 46 • Matthew 25

The Church is failing marriages...but marriages are also failing the Church.We’ve watched believers show up for service, serve faithfully, tithe consistently and still live in bondage. Why?Because the modern church looks alive, but carries no authority.And marriages keep feeding that same system with unhealed hearts, unbroken pride, and unrepentant patterns.In this episode, Derek breaks down what Jesus actually came to build.He didn’t say, “I’ll build My synagogue.”He said, “I’ll build My ekklesia.”The ekklesia isn’t a building.It’s a governing body of called-out ones, sons and daughters walking in covenant, carrying authority, and legislating heaven’s rule on earth.We expose why so many churches today are spiritually dead:— They avoid deliverance.— They lack discipleship.— They place people in leadership without accountability.— They hide behind programs and personality tests instead of repentance and transformation.But we also confront how marriages have failed the Church, by bringing unclean, undelivered, divided temples into the house of God and expecting revival to come from a place we refuse to purify.This is a call to return.To understand what it means to be the Bride.Because God isn’t just healing your marriage…He’s healing His ekklesia through your marriage.