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You asked for help. You thought you were clear. And it landed… wrong.

The tone shifted. The energy changed. Now you’re wondering if you just made yourself look incompetent.

In this short solo episode of Communication Skills for Working Women, we talk about what to do when your ask doesn’t go the way you expected.

Because sometimes it’s not incompetence.

Sometimes it’s timing. Sometimes it’s stress. Sometimes it’s context you can’t see.

And repair is part of professional communication.

• Why asking for help can feel high-risk at work

• How timing affects how your request is received

• What to do instead of panicking when the energy shifts

• Why the first attempt is not the final verdict on your competence

• How to create space and revisit a conversation strategically

• Four ways to ask for help that signal initiative, not insecurity

1. Show Your Work Before You Ask “I’ve tried A and B and I’m not getting the result I need. Can you help me understand what I’m missing?”

Signals effort. Protects credibility. Invites collaboration.

2. Frame the Ask Around Impact, Not Your Limitation Shift from “I’m confused” to “I want to make sure we get this right.”

Leaders respond to outcomes.

3. Ask to Learn the System, Not Just Fix the Moment “I’d love to understand your process so I can handle this independently going forward.”

Shows ownership and long-term thinking.

4. Name the Gap Without Apologizing for It “I don’t have visibility into X yet. Can you walk me through it?”

Neutral. Clear. Direct.

If your first ask lands wrong, that does not mean you are incompetent.

You are allowed to:

• Pause.

• Revisit.

• Clarify.

• Try again.

Asking for help is not a one-shot performance.

It’s an experiment.

And capable professionals don’t grow by struggling silently — they grow by asking strategically.

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• Communication Skills for Working Women Facebook Group
• Visit our website: communicateconnectthrive.com
• Email: communicationskillsforwomen@gmail.com

Struggling to ask for help at work because you're afraid it'll make you look incompetent? You're not alone. In this episode, we break down why asking for help feels so vulnerable—and how to do it in ways that signal competence and initiative, not weakness.

• Why smart, capable people struggle to ask for help
• The hidden commitments keeping you stuck and isolated
• How to distinguish help-seeking that signals incompetence vs. initiative
• Four strategic ways to ask for what you need while preserving credibility
• How to test your assumptions about asking questions

In this short mid-drop episode, we continue to explore imposter syndrome—also known as the impostor phenomenon—and why it disproportionately impacts women, particularly those from marginalized communities.