Struggling to move on after a breakup? Especially when you were the one who got left?

In this episode, I break down why 'focus on yourself' feels so hard after being dumped. If you’re overthinking, replaying memories, missing your ex, or feeling stuck in heartbreak, this episode explains the psychology behind it.

I cover breakup healing, attachment, rejection, and why letting go isn’t as simple as people say.

I actually challenge my own advice, so if you are SICK of reading 'just focus on yourself' then this episode will make you realise why you are struggling and why you should not beat yourself up.

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Healing after a breakup doesn’t have a deadline and the pace you’re moving at? It says more about your strength than you think.

In this episode of Coming Up For Air, I am talking about why slow healing is still powerful, how to stop comparing your journey, and what it really means to move on after heartbreak. If you’ve been feeling stuck, emotional, or frustrated with your progress after a breakup, this conversation will help you reframe everything. This is your reminder: you’re not behind, you’re healing.

🎧 In this episode:

1. Why healing after a breakup takes time

2. The truth about “moving on”

3. How to stop comparing your healing journey

4. Signs you’re actually healing (even if it doesn’t feel like it)

5. How to rebuild yourself after heartbreak Whether you’re dealing with a recent breakup or still healing from the past, this episode will meet you where you are.

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What happens when your ex moves on quickly… and the relationship actually lasts?

In this episode, I share my perspective three years later and talk about the emotions that come with watching someone you once loved build a long-term relationship with someone else. I discuss how to cope with the comparisons, the questions that come up, and how focusing on your own growth can slowly shift your perspective over time.

This is an honest conversation about healing, acceptance, and how life can evolve in ways you never expected after a breakup.

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There’s a quiet pain in feeling like life has moved on without you.

In this episode, I talk about what it’s like to be left while everyone around you seems to be moving forward. Friends at different life stages, a future that no longer exists, and the loneliness of being in an in-between space you never chose.

This episode is about coping mentally and physically when comparison hits, when your world feels paused, and when you’re just trying to find your footing again. If you feel left behind, you’re not broken, you’re healing.

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2026 is the Year of the Horse , a year of freedom, courage, and forward motion. In this episode, I explore how the Horse’s energy can help you move past heartbreak, restore your vitality, and reconnect with your true self. Learn practical ways to reclaim momentum, set boundaries, follow your desires, and trust your heart. Whether you’re navigating loss or seeking alignment, this episode guides you to move boldly, live fully, and step into life on your own terms.

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Single on Valentine’s Day? Congratulations, you’re doing it right. In this episode, we reclaim the day for yourself, celebrating independence, self-love, and the power of choosing your own joy. We explore meaningful ways to honour your life, your growth, and your relationships beyond romance , including how to handle seeing an ex with someone else, so you can fully own this day as your own.

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This episode explores the in-between phase after heartbreak, when the old version of you no longer fits and the new one hasn’t arrived yet.

I talk about identity loss, emotional waves, nervous system regulation, loneliness, and practical ways to cope without rushing healing. This is a slow, grounding episode for anyone living inside transition.

Nothing is wrong.
Something is reorganizing.

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This episode is for anyone who’s realised they’re spending more time thinking about their ex than actually living their own life. We talk about how heartbreak quietly hijacks your attention, how “waiting” can become a way of life, and why obsessing over what someone else is doing keeps you stuck. It’s an honest conversation about reclaiming your time, your energy, and your one precious life and choosing yourself instead of watching someone who has already moved on.

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