In Episode 85 (Part 3 of 3) of the Brotherhood Forged Podcast, Joey concludes a powerful and deeply personal conversation with Pastor Lamar Ferrell, author of The Dirty “Big” Secret.

This final installment centers on family, faith, community, cancer, and the life-changing impact of Jesus at the center.

Pastor Lamar shares heartfelt reflections on:

• His wife Maryanne, a faithful partner through decades of ministry

• His son Luke, a gifted pastor and emerging leader

• His daughter Ellie, whose joy and resilience shine through life with spina bifida

• Preventing burnout through margin, boundaries, and time with God

• Why isolation ends in destruction and community is essential

• His battle with bladder cancer and how God used it as a blessing

• Why life ultimately falls apart without Jesus holding it together

This episode is honest, encouraging, and deeply rooted in Scripture — a must-listen for men seeking strength, faith, and brotherhood.

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In Episode 84 (Part 2 of 3) of the Brotherhood Forged Podcast, Joe continues a deeply honest and raw conversation with Pastor Lamar Ferrell — pastor, chaplain, and author of Dirty “Big” Secret.

👉 Pastor Lamar’s book Dirty “Big” Secret can be found early at:

https://www.realcommunity4u.com/

This episode addresses the silent struggle many men face: compassion fatigue — the emotional and spiritual exhaustion that comes from giving endlessly without being refilled.

Pastor Lamar shares:

• What compassion fatigue really looks like

• How even Jesus felt power leave Him while healing others

• The danger of the “savior complex” in men and leaders

• The freedom found in the mysterious but powerful “S” word

• Why men resist asking for help

• When blessings turn into burdens

• Emergency sabbaticals, burnout, and emotional collapse

• Why “take as long as you need” can be life-saving

• The beauty and brutality of shepherding others

• The ministry of presence — why showing up matters more than words

This episode is especially relevant for pastors, first responders, chaplains, husbands, fathers, and any man carrying invisible weight while trying to lead well.

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Forge your identity.

Lead your family.

Reclaim your future.

Welcome to Brotherhood Forged, a podcast built for men who refuse to stay stuck.

In Episode 83 (Part 1), Joey sits down with his longtime friend, brother in Christ, and pastor Lamar Ferrell for the opening segment of a deeply honest conversation centered around Lamar’s book, The Dirty BIG Secret.

📖 The Dirty BIG Secret is a raw, behind-the-scenes look at pain, calling, pressure, and faith when life gets brutally honest. In this episode, we do not give the book away, but we explore the journey, heartbreak, and hope that led Lamar to write it.

Pastor Lamar is:

• Lead Pastor and Church Planter of Berachah Church

• A longtime Police and Fire Chaplain

• Author of The Dirty BIG Secret

In this episode, we talk about:

• How a simple free lunch led Lamar into police chaplaincy

• His first death notification and how it shaped his faith and ministry

• The weight of grief, loss, and responsibility at a young age

• Losing a child and losing his father at 29

• How faith holds when everything else falls apart

This is Part 1 of a longer conversation. Due to technical difficulties, the remaining segments will be re-recorded and released soon as Part 2 and possibly Part 3.

📖 Get the book, The Dirty BIG Secret, here:

👉 https://www.realcommunity4u.com/

Brotherhood Forged is a coaching-driven community for men who are ready to lead with strength, faith, and integrity in their homes, their bodies, their mindset, and their legacy.

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Forge your identity.

Lead your family.

Reclaim your future.

In Episode 81 of the Brotherhood Forged Podcast, we close out 2025 with a powerful wrap-up of the last four weeks of relationship-focused content for Christian men.

This episode brings together the most important lessons from our recent series — lessons every man needs if he wants stronger relationships, deeper faith, and leadership that lasts.

We dive into:

• Why isolation quietly keeps men stuck and how to break free

• How gratitude restores connection in marriage, faith, and brotherhood

• The tension between grit vs. grace — and why grit alone leads to burnout

• What it truly means to be a godly husband who leads like Christ

• How real growth often requires ending patterns, not marriages

This is not a highlight reel.

It’s an honest debrief — filled with reflection, conviction, humor, and real-life application.

If you’re a Christian man who feels stuck, disconnected, or ready for the next level, this episode will challenge you to stop hiding and start leading.

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• Daily challenges to sharpen discipline and identity

• A brotherhood of men who actually show up for each other

• Workouts, accountability tools, and tactical content you can use

• A proven system to build the 2.0 version of you — no fluff, no excuses

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Forge your identity.

Lead your family.

Reclaim your future.

In this episode, we break down what it truly means to love your wife the way Christ loves the church. We talk Ephesians 5, sacrificial love, realistic marriage expectations, conflict, growth, and becoming the kind of man who can lead, serve, and love with Christ-like purpose. Whether you’re single, dating, or married, this conversation will challenge and encourage you.

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Caleb officially joins Paul and Joey as a full-time co-host, bringing new structure, energy, and clarity to the mission of Brotherhood Forged. In this episode, the guys dive deep into a theme every husband and father needs to master:

Rooted in 1 Peter 3:7, this conversation unpacks how men often rely on grit—fixing, pushing, forcing solutions—when what their marriages actually need is grace, compassion, understanding, and Christlike leadership. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Kickoff

00:20 Welcoming Caleb as a Co-Host

00:41 Community and Podcast Reflections

03:49 Improving Communication Skills

07:04 Grace vs. Grit in Relationships

15:50 Grace in Marriage

20:54 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

21:35 Understanding and Responding with Grace

22:37 Knowing Your Audience: The Key to Connection

23:51 Grit vs. Grace: An Analogy

24:33 Biblical Insights on Marriage

25:30 The Role of Grace in Relationships

30:46 Honoring Your Wife: A Deeper Dive into Scripture

38:59 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections

39:58 Closing Prayer and Final Remarks

The guys explore:

• What “grit” looks like when it becomes harshness, impatience, or emotional withdrawal
• Why many husbands default to fixing instead of listening
• How grace restores connection and softens the heart
• The “Roots and the Rain” analogy and how it applies to marital strength
• How 1 Peter 3:7 calls men to honor, protect, and study their wives
• Why your relationship with your wife affects your relationship with God
• Practical tools to break out of scorekeeping, resentment, and burnout
• What it means to become a man led by the Spirit, not ego

This episode is honest, challenging, and packed with practical wisdom for husbands who want to lead their homes with integrity, tenderness, and strength.

1 Peter 3:7 (ESV)

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