Most high achievers take pride in the fact that they’re not too emotional. They stay cool under pressure, act like nothing bothers them, wear their emotional armor like a badge.

But one day, they wake up and realize that they’re a mere observer of their life. They’re not actually living their own life. Instead, they feel empty, like something’s missing that they can’t quite put their finger on.

Worst part?

They don’t realize that the emotional armor they wore so proudly is the exact thing preventing them from experiencing all the good life has to offer: Joy, love, connection, growth.

In today’s show, you’ll discover why emotional armor is not emotional strength (despite what you’ve been led to believe), how emotional armor prevents you from experiencing the full breadth of life, and how to start taking steps to remove your emotional armor, so you can show up fully even in the midst of an emotional storm.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• Here’s why reaching your biggest, most ambitious goal feels empty (0:48)
• How suppressed emotions fester under the surface and can actually cause physical pain (2:23)
• The dark side of making millions before turning 40 that nobody understands or even talks about (4:10)
• How people with real emotional strength handle being triggered (and no, building emotional strength doesn’t mean you’re immune to being triggered) (8:53)
• The “Emotional Strength Inoculation” secret for gradually building your emotional resilience without suppressing or repressing emotions that will come back to haunt you (10:32)
• Why numbing your emotions turns you into a lifeless, soulless robot that never experiences the full breadth of life (16:19)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

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Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There are 3 distinct levels to personal development and self-improvement. And most high achievers get trapped forever in Level 2—never fully healing or integrating with their internal world because they’re stuck trying to conquer it.

While Level 2 is helpful up to a point, if you stay in Level 2 for too long, you’ll never experience true healing or integration.

Worst part?

Most influencers and coaches intentionally keep you stuck at Level 2 because it’s easier to sell you “the one thing” you need than to fix yourself than sell the message that you don’t need fixed and you’re already worthy.

But there’s a way through Level 2 to reach Level 3 and experience how life fundamentally feels different when you’re healed and integrated.

In today’s show, I’ll walk you through the 3 stages of personal growth, explain why Level 2 is so intoxicating, but stagnate, and reveal the counterintuitive approach to get to Level 3.

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Show Highlights Include:

• Why obsessing over self-development stunts your internal growth (0:18)
• The 3 levels of personal development and how learning which level your stuck at explains almost everything about your current struggles (1:04)
• 3 telltale signs you’re stuck in the insidious “Level 2 Self Improvement” trap (and how to finally break through to the third level and experience true healing) (3:25)
• The “stop fixing, start listening” secret that actually heals your inner world instead of trying to fix it (4:34)
• How trying to conquer or change your parts means you’re still not integrating or healing (and one question to help you integrate and heal) (10:15)
• Why most of the deep- or enlightened-sounding advice on the internet keeps you stuck at level 2 (15:20)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it’s fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you’ll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you’re struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what’s waiting for you:

https://dtphd.com/quiz

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There are certain emotional scripts you learned in your formative years that are running your life today. These emotional patterns aren’t the enemy. They don’t mean that you're broken as a person or flawed in an insidious way.

Instead, it simply means that you’re not aware of these emotional scripts.

But if you’re been stuck in the same loops for years, trying harder, doing the same thing over and over, something deeper is necessary. In fact, gritting your teeth and trying harder will only give these emotional scripts more power over you and your behavior.

In today’s show, you’ll discover how to start noticing these emotional scripts, you'll understand how they started, and more important, how they protected you, and you’ll learn the key that makes your emotional scripts stop running the show of your life.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• Sneaky emotional patterns that control your life without you even realizing it (0:18)
• A few examples of how you might’ve picked up some of the emotional scripts that still control your every action (2:32)
• The one thing anxious people who feel broken never hear—but desperately need to hear (5:29)
• How childhood parts that once protected you can sabotage your adult relationships (and how integrating these parts can stop their self-destruction) (8:37)
• How to finally break free from being a slave to your emotional patterns (and why it won’t necessarily feel like a perfect sense of enlightenment) (17:14)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it’s fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you’ll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you’re struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what’s waiting for you:

https://dtphd.com/quiz

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery