Christmas is supposed to be joyful. Magical. Simple. So why does Becoming You host Suzy Welch feel so…troubled…by Santa Claus?

This week on the podcast, Becoming You is celebrating Christmas with a conversation about one of the most misunderstood of the 16 values in Becoming You’s Values Bridge system: Cosmos.

Cosmos represents religion or spirituality—not any specific religion, but the degree to which faith shapes how someone experiences the world. And here’s what the data tells us: Cosmos is the most polarized value there is. You either have it…or you don’t. Suzy does.

In this episode, she explores what it’s like to live as a high-Cosmos person in a largely Santa-forward, faith-agnostic culture—especially at Christmas. Why suppressing your #1 value can be exhausting. Why faith can feel disconcerting to people who don’t share it. And why understanding this value—whether it’s yours or not—may be one of the most important acts of respect we can offer each other.

Along the way, Suzy shares her own unexpected faith story, why she almost left Cosmos out of the Values Bridge entirely, and what Christmas means to her.

This is not a sermon. It’s not an argument. And it’s definitely not a typical holiday episode. It’s an invitation: to understand a value you may not share, to see the people who hold it more clearly, and to consider whether the greatest gift this season might be learning how to honor each other’s differences—with compassion, curiosity, and a little grace.

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In this special episode of Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch does something few mothers-in-law would dare to do: she cold-calls her daughters-in-law and asks that question – Am I a good mother in law?

Suzy is joined by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, author of You, Your Husband & His Mother, for an honest, deeply human conversation about values and family. Together, they ask: What does a good mother-in-law really look like? Why do the holidays so often expose unspoken power dynamics and values conflicts? And how does insecurity – especially in family systems – cause us to lose curiosity, shut down, and stop asking the questions that actually build connection?

Dr. Tracy explains why staying curious about a daughter-in-law (or any new family member) is one of the most important – and hardest – skills to develop, and how inquiry can replace control without sacrificing your values.

They also explore whether couples can thrive with differing values and why sometimes the healthiest move isn’t pulling harder on either side, but dropping the rope entirely and accepting that not everyone in your family will see the world the way you do. Suzy shares a moving story about her son and daughter-in-law – a seemingly simple moment – that reveals what it really means to face family pressure together.

This episode is for anyone navigating in-laws, holidays, or family tension, and wondering how to stay true to themselves without losing the relationship.

Find Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

https://drtracyd.com/

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What makes a relationship truly work? Is it chemistry, shared interests, or something deeper – something that holds when life gets complicated? In this special installment of Becoming Us, where host Suzy Welch applies the Becoming You values methodology to couples, Suzy sits down with media and reality TV personality Sam Feher and her boyfriend William Hayden, co-founder of the startup Bags. Together, they explore how aligned values create the real foundation for a strong, lasting partnership.

Using the proven, data-driven Becoming You values framework, Suzy helps Sam and William illuminate exactly where their values naturally align and where meaningful gaps appear. They dig into one of their biggest value contrasts: Cosmos, the value of faith, which sits at the very bottom of Sam’s list but in William’s top tier. They discuss navigating conversations about religion and spirituality with respect instead of friction. And they unpack the reverse dynamic with Belonging – a core value for Sam, but one of William’s lowest – complete with a hilarious story about a competitive game night that revealed exactly what Belonging looks like in action for them as a couple.

Throughout the conversation, Suzy shows how understanding these contrasts through The Values Bridge can turn potential conflicts into opportunities for connection. And she also reveals the “green flag” of all green flags: the one value Sam and William rank nearly identically – and how that shared priority quietly strengthens their relationship every single day.

This episode is a masterclass in how clarity about your own values – and your partner’s – can turn “me” and “you” into a thriving, unstoppable “us.”

Find Sam on Instagram and CAPS LOCK podcast

Find William's company, Bags

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