Feeling like the ground beneath you has shifted after divorce? You're not alone. That sense of instability, of losing your foundation, is one of the most challenging aspects of divorce recovery. But what if reconnecting with your body could help you find your footing again?

This episode of Becoming You Again explores what it truly means to feel grounded after divorce and introduces a powerful practice called "grounded sway" that can help you rebuild trust in yourself. Many women tell me they feel constantly off-balance during divorce, unsure how to recreate that sense of safety. The truth is, you have the capacity to create safety for yourself through reconnecting with your body's wisdom.

The guided practice I share walks you through a gentle swaying movement that helps you experience different sensations while actively narrating safety for yourself. As you sway and feel the solid ground beneath your feet, you learn to stay flexible rather than rigid when facing uncertainty - like willow bending in the wind rather than breaking. There's no right or wrong way to do this exercise, only your way, as you discover what feels right for your unique body.

So much of healing after divorce involves learning to trust ourselves again; our bodies, our intuition, and our ability to create the lives we want. This practice offers one gentle pathway toward rebuilding that trust, reminding us that everything we need to feel safe and balanced already exists within us. Sometimes we just need a reminder of how to access it.

Ready to go deeper with your healing? Working one-on-one with me as your coach might be exactly what you need to implement these practices in your daily life. Visit karinnelsoncoaching.com to learn more about how we can work together to help you become you again.

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Self-love shouldn't come with conditions, yet so many of us hold ourselves hostage to impossible standards. I’m tackling this concept of "transactional self-love" in this throwback episode. Transactional self-love are the unconscious bargains we make with ourselves, promising kindness and acceptance only after certain benchmarks are met.

We've all said it: "I'll love myself when I lose weight," "I'll be kind to myself once my divorce is finalized," or "I'll accept myself when I find someone new." These conditional statements reveal how deeply we've internalized the message that we must earn our own affection. I explore this phenomenon through multiple lenses; our biological negativity bias, childhood experiences of conditional love, and the societal conditioning that teaches women their value depends on external factors.

The relationship you have with yourself forms the foundation for every other relationship in your life. When you withhold compassion from yourself, you're likely applying the same transactional approach to others. Breaking free from this pattern starts with awareness – identifying your personal conditions for self-acceptance and consciously choosing more compassionate alternatives.

Through practical steps and thoughtful guidance, I demonstrate how to build an unshakable foundation of self-love that doesn't fluctuate based on achievements or circumstances. This isn't about achieving perfect self-love but creating a baseline of acceptance that supports you through life's inevitable challenges. You'll learn how to recognize your conditional thinking and practice new neural pathways of self-compassion through consistent, intentional thought work.

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

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The first night alone in your own home can be extremely challenging after divorce. For some of us, it's a completely new experience – I was 39 years old before I ever spent a night completely alone in a house. But what starts as overwhelming can transform into something unexpectedly liberating.

This episode explores five essential strategies for navigating the transition to solo living after your marriage ends. We begin with the foundation of creating genuine safety – not just physical security, but emotional and mental safety too. You'll learn how to develop a personal "safety plan" for those moments when loneliness or anxiety feels overwhelming, with practical ways to calm your nervous system and reassure yourself.

Loneliness represents one of the biggest hurdles during this transition. Whether you're experiencing actual solitude for the first time or feeling emotionally isolated despite having been lonely within your marriage for years, these feelings can be intense. I share specific techniques my clients have used to meet their needs in these moments – from immersive books that provide company to creating community connections when you feel most alone.

The surprising revelation for many is discovering unexpected joys in living alone. Sleeping in the middle of the bed. Eating whatever you want (or skipping dinner entirely). Cranking your favorite music while cleaning. The small freedoms of solo living can become genuine pleasures once you open yourself to the possibility that being alone might actually be fun.

Beyond survival, this episode guides you toward thriving independently through practices like establishing nurturing routines and finding daily moments of awe that research shows reduce stress and increase wellbeing. These micro-practices take just seconds but create meaningful shifts in how you experience your new living situation. Enjoy this throwback episode and start living a life alone on your terms.

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.