For centuries, we’ve been told to move on, stay quiet, be grateful, or trust the system—whether that system was religious, medical, familial, or societal. But what if the very institutions we were taught to trust are where the deepest betrayals took root?

In this raw, deeply personal episode, I walk you through a trauma-informed lens of betrayal in all its forms—and why naming it is not "playing the victim," but a powerful act of nervous system repair and reclamation.

We explore:

• 🔥 What betrayal trauma actually is (and why it lives in the body)
• 💔 The hidden cost of religious, medical, and societal betrayals
• 😶‍🌫️ How women especially are conditioned to betray themselves to belong
• 🧠 What neuroscience and trauma research say about repair, healing, and hope
• 💡 Why witnessing ruptures is sacred—not shameful
• 🌿 My own story of healing from personal and systemic betrayals

If you've ever felt dismissed, gaslit, silenced, or ashamed for being too sensitive or too much—this one is for you. Your wounds are real. And your healing? It’s revolutionary.

🔗 Resources & Mentorship Mentioned:

• Apply for 1:1 Mentorship: [Insert your mentorship link here]
• Join the free ReSourced Community: [Link]
• Learn more about trauma-informed coaching: [Link to certification or about pag

01:00 Personal Journey into Betrayal Coaching

04:25 Types of Betrayal

18:39 Internalized Betrayals

20:47 Healing and Moving Forward

24:34 Mentorship Opportunities

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

In this episode, host Lindsay continues her insightful discussion with trauma therapist Kathy Kinghorn. They delve into the dynamics of Internal Family Systems, drawing parallels between individual trauma responses & societal behaviors in the USA. They explore the roles of different internal 'parts' & how these dynamics manifest in current socio-political climates. They emphasize the importance of conscious inner work, understanding personal values, and fostering self-energy to drive positive change. The conversation also touches on systemic racism, privilege, and the power of collective healing. Tune in for an episode that offers hope and actionable insights for personal & societal transformation.

00:50 Understanding IFS

01:57 State of the USA: A Metaphor

02:31 The Role of Firefighters in Society

03:22 Addressing Systemic Issues

06:07 Personal Values & Beliefs

08:36 Privilege & Systemic Racism

17:19 Legacy & Intergenerational Trauma

21:22 Hope for the Future

🔗 Know an immigrant who needs a mental health eval with Kathy's team? Click here. Kathy's website: here.
💫 Become trauma-informed? Click here.
🌄 Somatic retreat this fall: Mythic Zions
🤍 Work w/ me privately: Mentorship for Coaches + Creatives

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...

What if the parts of you that sabotage, overachieve, numb out, or shut down… were just trying to help?

In this 2 part series, I sit down with trauma therapist and IFS expert Kathy Kinghorn to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) gives us a radical, compassionate map of the human psyche. You'll learn how the different “parts” of you—yes, even the ones that seem chaotic or contradictory—are showing up for a reason.

✨ Topics We Cover:

• What IFS actually is (& how it mirrors your external family)
• Why they're ALL trying to help you
• The neuroscience of parts
• What happens when we speak, lead, or parent from unintegrated parts

🔗 Know an immigrant who needs a mental health eval with Kathy's team? Click here. Kathy's website: here.
💫 Become trauma-informed? Click here.
🌄 Somatic retreat this fall: Mythic Zions
🤍 Work w/ me privately: Mentorship for Coaches + Creatives

✨ Tik-Tok-er who insipired this interview: here.

Overview:

01:17 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS)

04:55 Exploring Parts and Self-Energy

14:23 Real-Life Examples and Applications of IFS

29:00 Conclusion & Teaser for Part Two, w/ how this all relates to the current state of the US

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Looking for a new career as a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here. Next round starts September, 2025!
• Are you already a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed, with a spiritual twist? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Intuitive Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round will begin September, 2025.
• Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing and accepting her circumstance more fully, she found coaching—which propelled her into a forward focused state of ...