Stop Sending Energy to People Who Don't Deserve It

You don't have to forgive anyone to get your power back. This episode is about something better: neutralizing the hold that people and experiences have on you so you can finally move forward.

In this episode:

• Why this isn't about forgiveness the way you learned it, and what it actually is
• How unresolved energy quietly pulls you away from your goals without you realizing it
• Asha's personal story of carrying self-judgment from a past business failure into her current work
• A real example from her coaching clients, and how holding onto someone else's words can shape your behavior without your permission
• A guided white light visualization to neutralize the energy you're still spending on things that no longer deserve it

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction and the reframe on forgiveness
• (01:50) Asha's personal example — carrying old business wounds
• (04:14) Client stories: proving yourself to people who doubted you
• (05:30) The practice explained
• (07:30) Guided visualization begins
• (13:16) Closing the meditation + how to return to this practice

Links mentioned:

• Join Love Notes
• Connect with Asha on Instagram: @ashawilkersonesq
• Find Asha on Threads

You're Moving, But Not as Fast As You Want Because One Foot Is Still on the Brake

You can be working toward something with your foot fully on the gas pedal, journaling, and repeating your manifestations daily, and still feel like you're not moving nearly as fast for all the effort you're putting in. Or worse, you're giving it your all and still feel like you're standing still.

The reason is that you have some brake-pedal beliefs that, no matter how hard you press the gas, you will always be in the slow lane. This is what they look like in real life.

In this episode:

• What brake pedal beliefs actually are and why they're so hard to catch. You're still moving, so you don't notice them.
• The go-kart story that made it click: you cannot press the gas and the brake at the same time.
• Real examples from my own life: fear of visibility, holding back in dating, and nearly underselling her house because it felt easier.
• The inner child meditation I've been using to send love to the moments where the fear first started.
• How neutralizing the brake first makes your manifestation land at a completely different level in your body.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) I'm back, and why the podcast went quiet for a year
• (02:20) Opening Asha's Place Lisbon: how it happened in 30 days
• (06:50) The group call that sparked this episode: brake pedal beliefs
• (09:00) Real examples: visibility, dating, and the house in Oregon
• (12:30) The go-kart story
• (15:10) What to do once you notice the brake
• (17:00) The inner child meditation practice I'm using right now
• (21:00) How to put a halt to your own gas pedal beliefs

Links mentioned:

• Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Sedona Healing Arts / Yolesa Lawrince (intuitive reader training)
• Join the email list: Love Notes is for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing. We send multiple emails a week about self-trust, nervous system regulation, and coming home to the freedom that is always yours.

What does it really take to connect with your ancestors?
In this deeply personal episode of Because I’ve Healed, I share the three transformative steps that led me into ancestral connection, freedom, and alignment with my soul’s purpose.

Whether you're just beginning your spiritual journey or seeking clarity on your life path, this story is for you. 💫

Through mindset shifts, energetic awakening, and guided ancestral meditations, I discovered a powerful truth: your ancestors are waiting for you.
You’ll also hear about my group program, Guided, created to support Black women in reclaiming their power, healing lineage wounds, and stepping into their fully expressed selves.

✨ If you’ve felt disconnected or unsure of your next step — let this be your invitation.

Links & Resources

✨ Learn More About Guided → ⁠ashawilkerson.com/guided⁠

✨ Join the My Email List → ⁠ashawilkerson.com/email⁠

Let me know how these tips resonate with you—I’d love to hear your thoughts! And if you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and share Because I’ve Healed. See you inside the community! 💛✨

Hey, y'all! Welcome back to Because I've Healed! Today, I’m coming to you straight from the streets of Lisbon—literally. No fancy setup, just me sharing from the heart about something a lot of folks have been asking me: How do I create more joy in my life?

Over the past few weeks, I’ve had conversations with people navigating all kinds of challenges—relationship transitions, family struggles, and just feeling stuck. If you’ve ever felt like joy was out of reach or that your energy was low, this episode is for you. I’m sharing personal experiences, insights from my energy classes, and three powerful ways to shift your energy, raise your vibration, and bring more happiness into your life. Plus, I have something special for you at the end—a Joy Activation Challenge designed to help you integrate these practices into your daily life.

Tune in and let’s tap into more joy together!

Links & Resources

✨ Join the 5-Day Joy Activation Challenge → ashawilkerson.com/joy

✅ ✨ Join the My Email List → ashawilkerson.com/email

Let me know how these tips resonate with you—I’d love to hear your thoughts! And if you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and share Because I’ve Healed. See you inside the community! 💛✨

What does it mean to fully embody your truth? In this episode, I guide you through a powerful meditation to connect with your ancestors and explore the essence of truth. Inspired by a recent ancestral writing class, this practice invites you to listen deeply, feel into your lineage, and uncover the wisdom waiting for you. Truth isn’t about accuracy—it’s about freedom, authenticity, and being seen without masks or filters.

As you move through this meditation, you’ll be encouraged to notice where truth resonates in your body, what messages your ancestors have for you, and what it requires of you moving forward. Whether this is your first time connecting with your lineage or you’ve done this work before, I invite you to sit with these questions and embrace the experience fully.

Links & Resources:📖 Journal your reflections or record a voice note to revisit later.

📩 I’d love to hear about your experience! Leave a comment on the podcast, and let me know what you think!

Also, join my email list to stay connected for more workshops, meditations, and snippets for healing and ancestral connection.

If this meditation resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, review, and share the podcast. Your support helps more people discover these transformative practices. Thank you for listening! 💛

Hey y’all!

I’m coming to you from a little sound booth inside the airport lounge — because when the energy’s right, you just gotta roll with it!

I’m on my way back to Lisbon after a month in the US, and I’m feeling surprisingly joyful. So, in this episode, I’m diving into what it really takes to call more joy into your life.

I’m sharing three simple — but powerful — steps I’ve been using to create more space for joy, connect with what truly lights me up, and release the things that no longer align.

Whether you’re feeling stuck, craving a shift, or just wondering how to bring more fun and fulfillment into your daily life, this one’s for you.

Plus, I’m sharing some personal stories, from my salsa dancing days to the lessons my ancestors have passed down about living in freedom and joy.

Trust me, you deserve to experience a life that feels good. Let’s talk about how to make that happen.

Join my email list for the Joy Activation Challenge: ashawilkerson.com/email

Thanks so much for hanging out with me today! If this episode inspired you, don’t forget to rate, follow, and review Because I’ve Healed. And be sure to share it with someone who’s ready to call more joy into their life. See you next week — love y’all!

In this episode, Asha takes a walk while reflecting on a major personal breakthrough: learning to embrace her inner critic instead of fighting it. She shares insights from an 8-week coaching experience with confidence coach Sylvia Brands (Wrangle Your Inner Critic program) and dives into how radical self-acceptance has been a game-changer in her personal growth journey.

If you've ever struggled with self-doubt, high expectations, or feeling like you're "too much" or "not enough," this episode is for you.

Asha challenges the idea that our inner critic is something to silence and instead explores how listening to and nurturing that voice can lead to greater self-trust, confidence, and alignment.

Key Topics Covered:
🔹 Understanding the Inner Critic – Why we develop it and how it impacts our self-worth
🔹 High Standards vs. Self-Criticism – The fine line between ambition and self-sabotage
🔹 Radical Self-Acceptance – How embracing your sensitivity, fears, and wounds can empower you
🔹 Shifting Mindsets – Moving from "fixing yourself" to truly loving and trusting yourself
🔹 Business & Authenticity – Why Asha is stepping away from social media and choosing long-form content instead

Notable Quotes:
💬 "What if you didn’t treat those parts of yourself like a problem? What if you met them with the same compassion and love that you would have for a child?"
💬 "My sensitivity is my superpower. It makes me a better friend, a better guide, and a better healer."
💬 "You know who you are. The things you think are a problem probably aren't—they're areas where you need more love and acceptance."

Resources & Mentions:
✨ Wrangle Your Inner Critic coaching program by Sylvia Brands
✨ Human Design & Self-Discovery
✨ The power of intuitive decision-making

Join the Conversation!
💬 How do you navigate your inner critic? Share your thoughts with Asha on Instagram or in the comments!
📩 Subscribe to the email list for more real & reflective conversations on personal growth, confidence, and self-trust.

In this heartfelt and reflective episode of Because I’ve Healed, Asha takes us on a walk—literally and spiritually—through her journey of ancestral connection and intuitive growth. Fresh from leading a retreat for founders in the Bay Area, she shares the powerful realization that her healed ancestors are propelling her forward with unstoppable energy.

Asha challenges the common belief that ancestral work is only about healing past trauma. Instead, she invites us to tap into the joy, support, and momentum that our ancestors can provide. She shares how this connection has freed her from guilt, helped her embrace a life of ease, and allowed her to fully step into the dreams she once only imagined.

In This Episode, Asha Discusses:
✨ How connecting with healed ancestors can supercharge your life
✨ Releasing guilt and embracing freedom as a first-generation professional
✨ Why ancestral support isn’t just about healing—it’s about thriving
✨ The power of intuition in shaping a joyful, fulfilling life
✨ A thought-provoking question: What kind of joy could you access if you knew your ancestors were fully behind you?

Let’s Continue the Conversation:
Asha wants to hear from you! Reflect on the question and send her a message on Instagram @ashawilkersonesq. How do you connect with your ancestors? What dreams could you manifest with their support?

🔔 Subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. Joy is your birthright—go claim it! 💫

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