Stop Sending Energy to People Who Don't Deserve It

You don't have to forgive anyone to get your power back. This episode is about something better: neutralizing the hold that people and experiences have on you so you can finally move forward.

In this episode:

• Why this isn't about forgiveness the way you learned it, and what it actually is
• How unresolved energy quietly pulls you away from your goals without you realizing it
• Asha's personal story of carrying self-judgment from a past business failure into her current work
• A real example from her coaching clients, and how holding onto someone else's words can shape your behavior without your permission
• A guided white light visualization to neutralize the energy you're still spending on things that no longer deserve it

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction and the reframe on forgiveness
• (01:50) Asha's personal example — carrying old business wounds
• (04:14) Client stories: proving yourself to people who doubted you
• (05:30) The practice explained
• (07:30) Guided visualization begins
• (13:16) Closing the meditation + how to return to this practice

Links mentioned:

• Join Love Notes
• Connect with Asha on Instagram: @ashawilkersonesq
• Find Asha on Threads

You're Moving, But Not as Fast As You Want Because One Foot Is Still on the Brake

You can be working toward something with your foot fully on the gas pedal, journaling, and repeating your manifestations daily, and still feel like you're not moving nearly as fast for all the effort you're putting in. Or worse, you're giving it your all and still feel like you're standing still.

The reason is that you have some brake-pedal beliefs that, no matter how hard you press the gas, you will always be in the slow lane. This is what they look like in real life.

In this episode:

• What brake pedal beliefs actually are and why they're so hard to catch. You're still moving, so you don't notice them.
• The go-kart story that made it click: you cannot press the gas and the brake at the same time.
• Real examples from my own life: fear of visibility, holding back in dating, and nearly underselling her house because it felt easier.
• The inner child meditation I've been using to send love to the moments where the fear first started.
• How neutralizing the brake first makes your manifestation land at a completely different level in your body.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) I'm back, and why the podcast went quiet for a year
• (02:20) Opening Asha's Place Lisbon: how it happened in 30 days
• (06:50) The group call that sparked this episode: brake pedal beliefs
• (09:00) Real examples: visibility, dating, and the house in Oregon
• (12:30) The go-kart story
• (15:10) What to do once you notice the brake
• (17:00) The inner child meditation practice I'm using right now
• (21:00) How to put a halt to your own gas pedal beliefs

Links mentioned:

• Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Sedona Healing Arts / Yolesa Lawrince (intuitive reader training)
• Join the email list: Love Notes is for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing. We send multiple emails a week about self-trust, nervous system regulation, and coming home to the freedom that is always yours.

What does it really take to connect with your ancestors?
In this deeply personal episode of Because I’ve Healed, I share the three transformative steps that led me into ancestral connection, freedom, and alignment with my soul’s purpose.

Whether you're just beginning your spiritual journey or seeking clarity on your life path, this story is for you. 💫

Through mindset shifts, energetic awakening, and guided ancestral meditations, I discovered a powerful truth: your ancestors are waiting for you.
You’ll also hear about my group program, Guided, created to support Black women in reclaiming their power, healing lineage wounds, and stepping into their fully expressed selves.

✨ If you’ve felt disconnected or unsure of your next step — let this be your invitation.

Links & Resources

✨ Learn More About Guided → ⁠ashawilkerson.com/guided⁠

✨ Join the My Email List → ⁠ashawilkerson.com/email⁠

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