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Have you ever made a decision and still felt bad afterward? No matter what you choose, there is guilt, second-guessing, or that lingering feeling that you are letting someone (or yourself) down.

In this episode of Be Freaking Awesome, Sami Kinnison and Angela Belford unpack one of the most common but least named challenges people face: conflicting values.

This is not about being indecisive or doing something wrong. It is about what happens when two things that both matter deeply collide in a specific season of life.

What We Talk About in This Episode

• What conflicting values actually are (and what they are not)
• Why guilt, angst, and indecision are often clues that values are colliding
• How competing priorities show up in work, parenting, relationships, and leadership
• Why you can care deeply about multiple things and still have to choose
• How seasons of life change which values need to come first
• The power of deciding what matters most right now
• Why being fully present where you are matters more than doing everything
• How to stop outsourcing your decisions to guilt or other people’s opinions
• Why naming the conflict helps you move forward with clarity and self-trust

Angela shares personal stories about navigating family, finances, career, and commitments, while Sami reflects on capacity, parenthood, and the reality of not having enough energy to give 100 percent everywhere. Together, they normalize the discomfort of hard choices and offer practical ways to approach them with intention instead of shame.

Key Takeaway
If you feel guilty no matter what you choose, you are probably not failing. You are likely holding conflicting values, and the work is not to eliminate the guilt, but to name the conflict, choose intentionally, and be where you are.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode

• The Lazy Genius Way by Kendra Adachi
• (Including the principle “Decide what matters most” and the idea that priorities can change by season)
• The Lazy Genius Podcast by Kendra Adachi
• Big Little Feelings (especially the “10-Minute Miracle” for intentional connection with kids)

Coming Up Next
Next week, Sami and Angela dig into the Inner Critic, and why trying to “fire” it might actually make things worse. They will talk about a healthier, more realistic way to work with your inner voice instead of fighting it.

If this episode hit close to home, you are not alone.

Thanks for listening, and until next time, we hope you go Be Freaking Awesome.

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What if growth doesn’t make life easier… at least not right away?

In this episode of Be Freaking Awesome, Sami Kinnison and Angela Belford get real about the unexpected side effects of emotional healing, like crying more, feeling stretched thin, questioning your capacity, and realizing that growth doesn’t mean you never struggle again.

This conversation is a follow-up to The Nonlinear Journey of Growth, but instead of theory, this episode lives squarely in the messy middle. From therapy breakthroughs to perfectionism flare-ups, from running out of emotional bandwidth to redefining what “enough” actually means, Sami and Angela unpack what growth really looks like when you’re in it.

You’ll hear:

• Why emotional healing can actually bring more feelings, not fewer
• How growth changes your nervous system, your expectations, and your coping mechanisms
• What it means when you realize you don’t have “enough of you to go around”
• Why bounce-back-ability (not perfection) is a better measure of growth
• A powerful story about letting go before you drown, and why holding on can be the real danger

If you’ve ever thought:

• “I’m doing the work… so why is this still hard?”
• “Why am I crying more now than before?”
• “I thought growth meant I wouldn’t feel like this anymore”

…this episode is for you.

This is an honest, compassionate conversation about personal growth, emotional healing, capacity, burnout, and resilience, and a reminder that having hard days doesn’t mean you’re failing. It might actually mean you’re healing.

✨ Growth isn’t about eliminating struggle.
✨ It’s about how you recover, recalibrate, and keep going.

Listen in, and if this episode resonates, send us a DM or share where you’re at in your own growth journey! We’d love to hear your story.

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In this conversation, Olympic medalist and entrepreneur Dominique Blake joins Angela and Sami for an honest, high-energy look at what it means to stay committed to growth when life doesn’t go as planned.

Dominique shares how setbacks in her athletic career sparked a powerful evolution—from running on the track to building businesses, leading wellness communities, and mentoring others through their own journeys. You’ll hear her take on personal responsibility, emotional regulation, and what it really takes to create lasting change.

She also offers perspective on raising confident, resilient kids and reflects on how her own upbringing shaped her drive and discipline. This episode is full of sharp insight, contagious motivation, and practical wisdom for anyone ready to show up fully for their life.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
• How to turn failure into fuel
• What discipline looks like in real life
• Building confidence by doing uncomfortable things
• Navigating perfectionism with clarity and compassion
• How childhood experiences shape future resilience
• The mindset shift that helps you keep going when things get tough

Ready for a dose of grit and growth?
Hit play now and hear Dominique’s powerful take on doing the hard things that lead to an extraordinary life. Whether you're in a rut or ready to level up, this episode will challenge and inspire you in all the right ways.

Connect with Dominique Blake:

• Instagram: @dominiqueblake
• Facebook: Dominique Blake Oly

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