EP206 Why You Feel Guilty No Matter What You Choose

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Have you ever made a decision and still felt bad afterward? No matter what you choose, there is guilt, second-guessing, or that lingering feeling that you are letting someone (or yourself) down.

In this episode of Be Freaking Awesome, Sami Kinnison and Angela Belford unpack one of the most common but least named challenges people face: conflicting values.

This is not about being indecisive or doing something wrong. It is about what happens when two things that both matter deeply collide in a specific season of life.

What We Talk About in This Episode

• What conflicting values actually are (and what they are not)
• Why guilt, angst, and indecision are often clues that values are colliding
• How competing priorities show up in work, parenting, relationships, and leadership
• Why you can care deeply about multiple things and still have to choose
• How seasons of life change which values need to come first
• The power of deciding what matters most right now
• Why being fully present where you are matters more than doing everything
• How to stop outsourcing your decisions to guilt or other people’s opinions
• Why naming the conflict helps you move forward with clarity and self-trust

Angela shares personal stories about navigating family, finances, career, and commitments, while Sami reflects on capacity, parenthood, and the reality of not having enough energy to give 100 percent everywhere. Together, they normalize the discomfort of hard choices and offer practical ways to approach them with intention instead of shame.

Key Takeaway
If you feel guilty no matter what you choose, you are probably not failing. You are likely holding conflicting values, and the work is not to eliminate the guilt, but to name the conflict, choose intentionally, and be where you are.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode

• The Lazy Genius Way by Kendra Adachi
• (Including the principle “Decide what matters most” and the idea that priorities can change by season)
• The Lazy Genius Podcast by Kendra Adachi
• Big Little Feelings (especially the “10-Minute Miracle” for intentional connection with kids)

Coming Up Next
Next week, Sami and Angela dig into the Inner Critic, and why trying to “fire” it might actually make things worse. They will talk about a healthier, more realistic way to work with your inner voice instead of fighting it.

If this episode hit close to home, you are not alone.

Thanks for listening, and until next time, we hope you go Be Freaking Awesome.

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