Chronic shame makes us feel all kinds of terrible things that often are the triggers that send people to therapy.

It's caused in part by relational rupture without repair, especially as an infant and child.

While there's no quick fix, recognizing the signs and beginning to gently work with it does help over time.

This is episode 10 of a series of 10 that started with 102 AuDHD Therapy That Works with Joe Sosta

I'm working on some more materials to pull all these episodes together in a useful way and will add that here when they're done!

Crisis Resources:

• USA-based anonymous crisis chat
• International crisis lines
• Various types of crisis resources in about 10 countries
• My Medium article, "Please Stay, We Need You"

Mentioned in episode:

• Book Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: Healing Right Brain Relational Trauma (I recommend this 2nd edition, affiliate link)
• Whack-a-Mole Workshop slides/notes and recordings (latter is free & requires free login; a downloadable PDF is also available there on Patreon)

1. Transcript Doc
2. Mattia's Newsletter
3. Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

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Darren Glencross was diagnosed near the beginning of 2025, and since then has written multiple books and come up with a new framework for people to explore outside of the medical model.

It includes: Pattern Language, Inner Orbit with 12 satellites (and Their Orbit), and the Carry Kit

It's exciting to explore community-led models!

Connect with Darren:

1. Message on Instagram @beaconwithin
2. Darren Glencross on LinkedIn

Mentioned in episode:

1. Love Your Brain course (& Sep-Oct live round details)
2. Free workshops already concluded, and will be available most likely in the Patreon soon (I'll update this when they're somewhere!)
3. You may also email questions about Love Your Brain to mattia@mattiamauree.com

1. Transcript Doc
2. Mattia's Newsletter
3. Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

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AuDHD brains face many challenges when it comes to projects. It's something I've put a great deal of time and learning into, both personally and professionally. This episode covers many ideas and approaches that tend to work for us.

Key Takeaways:

• We usually learn to use what I call the Adrenaline-Anxiety Approach. While effective short-term, it can lead to burnout and other issues.
• A monotropic approach is more sustainable and individualized... and it can feel slow at first.
• Experimentation as a core tool
• Creating just enough structure and safety to get going, without getting bogged down (loose planning)
• Working with the brain states you have
• Managing interruptions, inputs, and daily life
• Finding the balance that works for you

The episode also walks through the Love Your Brain course, designed to help AuDHDers understand their mind-body system, work with brain states, and navigate project challenges. The course emphasizes self-compassion, experimentation, and building processes tailored to individual needs.

Repost - originally posted July 12th 2024

Note: not strictly in the current 10-episode series, but still relevant!

• Devon Price's Laziness Does Not Exist article, and a PDF if you're not on Medium
• The transcript may be especially useful for this episode! (It'll take a few seconds for the link to fully load to this episode)
• Love Your Brain course (and the Sep/Oct 2025 live round info)

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