In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae share a powerful new approach to boundaries—one that moves beyond rules and lines in the sand.

Instead of focusing on “do this, don’t do that,” this episode helps betrayed partners:
✅ Reclaim their power and choice after betrayal
✅ Create boundaries that protect and empower
✅ Learn how to respond instead of react to triggers
✅ Understand the difference between values-aligned boundaries and reactive “walls”
✅ Break free from settling for crumbs and start designing the life they truly want

You’ll hear real stories, practical exercises, and the “hedge of thorns” visualization that has transformed recovery for betrayed partners everywhere.

You can download the Trigger Resolution / Boundary Setting Process here: https://www.askthebetrayed.com/downloads
Or go to AskTheBetrayed.com and click on the "Downloads" menu.

💬 Please leave a Comment below: Which boundary has been most life-changing for you?
👍 If this episode resonates, like and subscribe for more support on your healing journey.
🔔 Turn on notifications so you never miss an episode!

📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com

📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Unfaithful (@AskTheUnfaithful on YouTube)

👇 We'd love to hear what resonated most for you - or you can ask your question for a future episode. Please press the Like button and Leave Your Comment below!

🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found.

🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com)

Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore the hidden triggers that blindside betrayed partners during recovery. From weddings and social gatherings to seemingly small moments like TV shows, public spaces, and holidays—unexpected triggers can shake your sense of stability.

They don’t just talk about the problems—they give you practical tools and real-life strategies to help you reclaim your power in these moments.

🔎 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
✅ How to build your own “emotional first aid kit” for challenging events
✅ The importance of anchor statements and somatic tools
✅ How to create exit strategies for triggering environments
✅ Ways to reframe Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, anniversaries, and more
✅ Healthy ways to process anger without harming yourself or others
✅ Tips for managing common relational triggers like phones, alcohol, and public settings

This conversation is packed with real stories, practical interventions, and compassionate guidance to help you stay grounded—especially when life throws the unexpected your way.

💬 In the Comments, please tell us what hidden triggers surprised you in your healing journey?

🔔 Please subscribe for new episodes

📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com

📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Unfaithful (@AskTheUnfaithful on YouTube)

👇 We'd love to hear what resonated most for you - or you can ask your question for a future episode. Please press the Like button and Leave Your Comment below!

🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found.

🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com )

Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae dive into the third stage of betrayal trauma recovery: Post-Traumatic Growth - also known as the Reconnection Phase.

This is the season when survivors begin shifting from survival to strength. Sharon and Rae unpack what it means to reconnect not only with others - but also with your truest self. You'll hear personal stories, insights, and practical encouragement for stepping out of safety - your "protection mode" - and into empowered living.

Together, they explore:

• What post-traumatic growth really looks like
• How to move from "functional dissociation" to embodied living
• Why reconnecting with yourself is essential (even if reconnection with your partner isn't possible)
• How your personal boundaries free you to connect with yourself again
• How to do this bravely and within your own values
• How anniversaries can mark transformational milestones

This stage is about moving forward with clarity, courage, and renewed purpose. Whether you're months or years into your healing, this conversation will inspire you to claim your voice and re-enter the story of your own life.

🔔 Please subscribe for new episodes

📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com

📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Unfaithful (@AskTheUnfaithful on YouTube)

👇 We'd love to hear what resonated most for you - or you can ask your question for a future episode. Please press the Like button and Leave Your Comment below!

🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found.

🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: Info@HopeForUs.com ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: Rae@HealingTalksBack.com )

Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com

Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery

Grief after infidelity isn’t just about the loss of trust—it’s about mourning the relationship you thought you had.

In this powerful episode, we explore the hidden terrain of betrayal trauma grief and mourning that betrayed partners navigate as they continue their journey toward healing and wholeness. For many betrayed partners, the emotional pain is disorienting, isolating, and often invisible to others. And for unfaithful partners, understanding their Betrayed’s grief is essential if real healing is ever going to happen.

This episode will help you identify the stages of grief that follow betrayal, understand why they matter, and begin to make sense of your emotional landscape.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why grief is a normal and necessary response to betrayal trauma
• How mourning the loss of what you believed was true is part of healing
• What “ambiguous grief” is and what that means for your healing
• The ways unacknowledged grief can sabotage relational repair
• What both partners can do to make space for grieving without getting stuck
• How to begin healing in a way that honors—not bypasses—your pain

🔔 Please subscribe for new episodes

📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com

📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Unfaithful (@AskTheUnfaithful on YouTube)

👇 We'd love to hear what resonated most for you - or you can ask your question for a future episode. Please leave your comment below!

🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found.

If you’ve been shattered by betrayal, you may be asking: Where do I even begin?

This episode takes you to the very first step in betrayal trauma recovery—the phase of safety and stabilization. Before you can move toward forgiveness, reconciliation, or even understanding, you need something much more urgent: ground beneath your feet.

In this episode, we explore what safety actually means in the context of betrayal. We talk about the importance of emotional, relational, and practical stabilization—and how this phase can’t be rushed. You’ll learn why partners often feel overwhelmed, lost, or disconnected from themselves during this stage, and how to begin reclaiming your voice and power in the midst of relational chaos.

We’ll look at:
• Why safety is non-negotiable for betrayed partners
• What “stabilization” actually looks like (emotionally, relationally, and practically)
• Why rushing the healing process leads to deeper pain
• How betrayed partners can reclaim their voice and autonomy in this crucial early stage

This is the groundwork. The place you return to when everything else feels like too much. Whether you’re in the middle of the chaos or just starting to understand what happened—this episode is for you.

👍 Like, Subscribe, and Leave a Comment below to share what resonated most—or ask your question for a future episode.

📬 Reach out: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com

🎧 Find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found.

Welcome to the very first episode of Ask The Betrayed, where Sharon and Rae create a safe, honest, and deeply compassionate space for those navigating betrayal trauma.

In this episode, you'll meet your hosts—Sharon, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and APSATS-certified trauma specialist, and Rae, a Certified Life, Relationship, and Divorce Recovery Coach. Together, they share their personal and professional journeys of healing after relational betrayal, and the critical need for betrayed partners to seek support that is specifically trained in betrayal trauma.

You’ll hear:
• Why not all therapy is created equal for betrayal trauma recovery
• The role of APSATS-trained professionals
• The power of speaking your truth and finding the right support
• Personal insights on the early stages of healing and rediscovering yourself
• Real talk on hope, grief, strength, and happiness—no matter what your relationship outcome is

💬 Quote from this episode:
"The worst version of the tragedy would be if I saved my marriage and lost myself in the process."
Whether you’re in a relationship working toward restoration or walking the painful path of separation, this episode is full of wisdom, hope, and validation for wherever you are in your journey.

🔔 Please subscribe for new episodes

💌 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching and therapy help including intensive with Sharon and James, please email us: AskTheBetrayed@gmail.com

📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Unfaithful (@AskTheUnfaithful on YouTube)

👇 We'd love to hear from you. Please leave your comment below.