Episode 32 Show Notes: Relational Intelligence - How to Enter Tense Conversations

Last episode we talked about how to connect with others in an authentic way. It’s great to know how to do that. In this episode I share 3 ways to actually enter those tense conversations. Choosing to initiate a conversation for the purpose of connecting with someone we already have some tension with takes courage. It’s hard to know how to get that conversation started. Do we say, “Hey! We need to talk.” Probably not. Depending on the personalities involved, though... maybe. More times than not, that gets people’s defenses up, though. So how do we initiate that? The short version is:

1. Gather your courage and state the obvious with kindness.
2. Ask questions that invite depth vs. autopilot responses.
3. Meet people where they are.

Join me in this episode as we talk more about this around the table.

Enjoy the Journey!

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

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Episode31 - Relational Intelligence: Connecting With Others in an Authentic Way

Emotional Intelligence has gotten a lot of attention in recent years, as it should. But Relational Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence are not the same. Emotional Intelligence causes us to be more aware of our emotional wellbeing and focuses on identifying and regulating those emotions. Relational Intelligence definitely needs that component, but it goes beyond our personal awareness. It focuses on the interactions and connections between people and how to have healthier relationships. Most people agree that having meaningful conversations and building relationships with others who think differently than we do is more difficult than ever. In this episode I share one of the ways to grow in Relational IQ, and that is in knowing how to connect with others in an authentic way. Even those far away from our own thoughts, opinions and convictions. We discuss 3 Ways to Connect With Others in an Authentic Way and what each of those look like in everyday life.

• Be present
• Show up as Yourself
• Create Safety

Join me in this episode, as we sit around the table and discover how aware and intentional we are being... or want to be... to create connections with others who may think very differently than we do.

Enjoy the Journey!

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

Check out the websites:

https://loudisnotalanguage.com/

https://brendaharkins.com/

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Episode 30 - Creating a Now Legacy

Do you think of “legacy” as something old people leave when they die? I want to challenge that thinking and awaken some intentionality for creating a legacy. One we get to live out now, as well as leave behind. Legacy is expressed through the convictions, values, and beliefs we live out. “Live out” are key words here. We can’t keep them private and expect to be known. Too often, because we know the convictions that live in our hearts, we assume others know, too.

The truth is that unless we become intentional to live out what is in our hearts, we risk the sad reality of never being truly known. Now or later.

Consider Life’s 5 Big Questions...

• Who are you?
• Where are you (in life’s journey)?
• What do you want?
• Why do you want it?
• What are you doing about it?

Would you like to have undistracted energy in figuring those things out? And living those things out? Because that will be your legacy... wherever your energy is poured out. The answers to these questions are huge determiners of your legacy. And intentionality to not only get the answers, but live them out, will create an awareness to you and others of who you are at your core. Of your legacy.

Join me in this episode, as you pull up a chair around the table and discover how aware and intentional you are being... or want to be... to create a now legacy that will last.

With love,

Brenda

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Brenda is a Texas girl who loves God and people and big skies and great coffee. She is a believer in impossible possibilities. In brokenness becoming beautiful. In justice and mercy and honor and power–with love perfecting them all. She is a wife, mom, mimi, daughter, and friend. She is also a speaker, author, mediator, and coach...helping people discover, embrace, and live out their God-given superpowers.

Check out the websites:

https://loudisnotalanguage.com/

https://brendaharkins.com/

Follow on socials:

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/BrendaCoxHarkins

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/brendacoxharkins/

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendacoxharkins/

Podcast music from: https://app.soundstripe.com/

Produced by KB Podcasts